What Is Family Discourse?

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Family discourse is any written or spoken communication between members of a family. Aside from this, it is not easy to define because each family has different standards and methods of communicating. In fact, this is part of what makes family discourse so intriguing — linguists want to understand why people communicate differently given similar family makeups.

The discourse present in families is by no means limited only to family topics. Family discourse can include everything from instructions to basic information about what a family member did or intends to do. It also can include data about what the family member wants or desires, or even information about politics, philosophies and conflicts. Any topic a family member wants to introduce into written or spoken communications is fair game.

Family discourse is of interest to linguists because families often are viewed as a microcosm of society as a whole. By studying family discourse, linguists get some clues about what social constructs are dictating the written and spoken communication in the family unit. This is not an entirely perfect art, because families are not confined to one particular region — some cultural mixing happens. It sometimes happens that a study of family discourse provides insight into the culture from which a family came, not the culture in which they currently are located.


Another reason linguists study discourse in families is that psychologists see family as integral to the shaping of individual identity. The way a person communicates with his family members has a huge effect on how he sees himself. By manipulating family discourse, it is theoretically possible to direct how a person develops.

Written and spoken discourse in a family reveals information about the roles each family member has. For instance, if a mother constantly is telling other members what they are good at or giving praise, a linguist might determine that one role the mother fills is "encourager." In the same way, if a husband routinely asks what needs to be done or what has to be finished, a linguist might see the husband as the family "task organizer" or "manager."

Families adapt with their surrounding culture or independently, so family discourse changes over time. A good example is how parents eventually include their children in conversations with increasingly mature content as the children age. The way through which family discourse is presented also changes, with technology often paving the way for modifications. For instance, families now use mobile devices to "keep tabs" on each other, ask for assistance, or keep relationships strong over distance — for better or worse, it is easier for families to engage in less face-to-face interact than in the past.

A caveat to discourse in families is that debate exists regarding what actually constitutes a family. To some people, family refers only to blood relatives, specifically close relatives such as parents or siblings. To other people, family refers to the people with whom a person lives and who provide a sense of love, connection and belonging. This is interesting because it implies that family discourse includes some specific characteristics that should be recognizable compared to other discourse. Identifying these traits is not as easy at it sounds, however, because different families are influenced by very different cultural constructs and thus do not always use language or behave in the same way.


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Post 3

Are there any studies done on family discourse and the effects it may have on the psychology of family members?

For example, I wonder if children who grow up in a family where there is a lot of verbal discourse end up differently than a child who grows up in a family where people barely talk to another?

I'm sure that family discourse has some type of influence on psychology. It could be good or bad. But I'm sure that it's not just about how much people talk, but also how they talk-- their style, the words they choose, etc.

Post 2

@ysmina-- That's nice. The only time my parents wrote something was when they were fighting. To avoid talking to each other, they would leave each other letters. It was very annoying.

Post 1

Written discourse is used a lot in my family. Especially my mom loves to leave small notes around the house with directions on how to do things. If she's going out of town, she makes notes about groceries, food in the fridge, laundry and other errands that we need to take care of when she's not there. Sometimes I find this kind of silly and unnecessary. But I really did appreciate it once when I forgot how to use an appliance and found a sticky note with the directions on the fridge! So written family discourse can be very helpful.

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