What is a Trophy Wife?

Michael Pollick

Once a man has acquired a significant amount of personal wealth, social influence and/or political clout, the next status symbol on his list is often an attractive, well-bred younger woman who has the social grace necessary to accompany him to public functions. Because of the significant age difference and high level of social pedigree required for the job, the term "trophy wife" is often used to describe such a marital arrangement.

Trophy wives are usually attractive younger women.
Trophy wives are usually attractive younger women.

A trophy wife often comes from a similar socioeconomic background as her spouse, but tends to play a more subservient role during public appearances. A trophy wife with independent wealth and interests may indeed be a formidable force in private, but her public role is to enhance her husband's reputation as a virile, successful man of the world. Any man capable of attracting such a beautiful, cultured younger woman must indeed wield significant power and influence.

Trophy wives usually have more extravagant tastes.
Trophy wives usually have more extravagant tastes.

A number of prominent politicians, including Fred Thompson and Dennis Kucinich, have long been accused of employing trophy wives to enhance their reputations as powerful statesmen. During campaign appearances, an alleged "trophy wife" may appear to spend much of her time looking adoringly at her noticeably older husband or praising his youthfulness or virility during informal appearances. In reality, many women who are married to successful older men are completely aware of their public perceptions, and painstakingly avoid situations in which they could be portrayed as nothing more than "arm candy" for their husbands.

The term "trophy wife" is generally viewed as a pejorative to many women who choose to marry older men in positions of power. In fact, the overuse of the term by the media or public can contribute to the disintegration of an otherwise successful marriage. Relationships with significant age differences can be difficult to maintain in general, and the added scrutiny of a younger wife's motivations or personal agenda can make matters even worse. When legendary performer Paul McCartney, for example, married a much younger woman named Heather Mills, many speculated her role in the marriage was to be nothing more than eye candy or a quintessential trophy wife to an aging musician.

There are some circumstances under which the term trophy wife may fit the bill precisely, but not every May-December relationship between an older man and a younger woman is necessarily a calculated move to acquire a trophy wife. There are a number of reasons why a younger woman might prefer the company of an older man, regardless of his wealth or social standing. A true "trophy wife" may very well understand her expected role in her husband's life and is content to play the part in exchange for a more lavish personal lifestyle.

A trophy wife might marry into a wealthy or prominent family.
A trophy wife might marry into a wealthy or prominent family.

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Discussion Comments


@umbra21 - It depends on your definition of exploitation. I mean marriage used to simply be a contract between a man and a woman's family where everything was basically done for money or power and the relationship between the two was incidental. If anything, I think it's progress that women have the right to choose their own husband for money or power rather than having to defer to their fathers.


@Ana1234 - That might be the case sometimes but it could also be true that the woman doesn't realize that her role is simply to look good. If she is young and naive, she might not realize her husband doesn't love her the way she expected to be loved. Equally, it's possible the wife knows exactly what she's doing and the husband is in the dark. He might think she really does love him, when really she is only after his money.

Relationships are complicated although I do think in some cases people are being exploited one way or the other.


I like the fact that the article pointed out that a relationship where the man is older than the woman is not always a case of a trophy wife. I consider a trophy wife to be when a rich or famous man marries someone who is very beautiful in order to demonstrate her as another form of wealth and power. Sometimes they might even be the same age. To me, the defining factor is that the marriage isn't really for love and isn't really between equals. It's more like a business arrangement.

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