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How do I Choose the Best Family Planning Method?

Lainie Petersen
Lainie Petersen

The decision about whether to have children is a deeply personal one. If you are sexually active but want to delay or avoid having children, selecting a family planning method, also known as birth control or contraception, is essential. Choosing the best family planning method is a matter that should be discussed with one's partner, doctor, and in some cases, a member of the clergy or other religious authority. Any form of family planning that you consider should be compatible with your lifestyle, your medical needs, your partner's needs as well as your religious and ethical beliefs.

Many people will discuss their family planning options with their personal physician or midwife. If you don't have a doctor or midwife that you see regularly, you may want to visit your local family planning clinic. It is important that you be straightforward and honest with a medical professional or family planning counselor about your health issues as well as your sexual behavior. Some family planning methods are simply not suitable for some people. For example, birth control pills can increase the risk of stroke in women who smoke, and the intrauterine device is not suitable for women with multiple sex partners, as it may increase their risk of pelvic infections.

Family planning methods aim to to prevent unplanned pregnancies.
Family planning methods aim to to prevent unplanned pregnancies.

Religious and ethical concerns may also play a part in your family planning decisions. If you belong to a religion that prohibits the use of mechanical or chemical family planning methods, you may want to learn about natural family planning. This kind of planning teaches you how to schedule intercourse for those periods of time when a woman should be infertile. Your choice of family planning method may also depend on your views on abortion. If you are deeply opposed to abortion and absolutely do not wish to have children, you may want to choose a more reliable birth control method than natural planning.

Birth control pills are an oral contraceptive.
Birth control pills are an oral contraceptive.

People who are making decisions about a family planning method should also consider speaking with their partner about their preferences. While many couples use barrier methods such as condoms or diaphragms with good results, some individuals are allergic either to the materials used to make these devices or to the contraceptive lubricants or gels that are used with them. Protection from sexually transmitted diseases may also be an issue; if one partner has a sexually transmitted disease (STD) or is not monogamous, your choice of family planning method should offer some form of STD protection as well.

Discussion Comments

MrsPramm

@clintflint - It's important for a couple to work together for this kind of thing so that no one is resentful or feels like they are having to take on too much of a responsibility.

With that said, having a child is going to be the ultimate responsibility, so definitely have this conversation sooner rather than later in a relationship.

clintflint

@Mor - Well, if you aren't serious about your partner and they aren't serious about you, you really ought to be using condoms anyway, in order to protect yourself from STDs.

I also want to bring up the fact that it doesn't always have to be the woman who takes care of all the birth control. There have recently been some very effective breakthrough methods of male birth control. Most forms of birth control that focus on men tend to be less invasive than female methods because they don't interfere with hormones or internal organs, so I actually think they should be the more obvious choice.

Mor

No matter what method you choose as your main one, I would suggest doubling up with a second method, either as a backup or just using both all the time.

Few birth control methods are completely foolproof and even if you use them properly they usually have a slim chance that they won't work. That chance becomes infinitesimal if you use two methods together (like, say, the pill and condoms).

This is particularly true if you aren't serious about your partner. I don't think anyone should be producing babies ad hoc, but it's a lot more of a problem if you aren't in a stable partnership or marriage.

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