I've had this happen numerous times. Now it has happened to me. I would like to know what is proper. My Uncle who was very close to me, recently passed. A dear friend sent a garden angel with my name on it and even included on the back it was to go to my name after service. Another family member who was my uncle's child took it.
I would like to know why certain family members feel that they "trump" everyone else? This also happened in another circumstance. My best friend's brother died and I had also sent a garden angel. I asked if she had received it, because she had not mentioned it. The brother's wife, so it would have been my friend's sister-in law, decided to take it. This should be avoided at all costs. I will never send flowers or gifts to the church or funeral home any longer. I will send them directly to the person I intend to have them to their home. Or send a monetary memorial gift in the form of a check!