So he leaves the gate open and the dogs get out again. I find them in the neighbor's backyard again, while he is driving all over town trying to "see" them from the car. For the dozenth time, he goes to the neighbor, hucking it up like it's a big joke or like it is somehow the dogs who are letting themselves out. I finally react with anger and embarrassment and his response was that I'm just an idiot. Now I get the silent treatment and he is the victim of a hag wife. The fence doesn't get fixed. I chain the gate. The rest of it is falling down while he watches football. I try to let it go. He sulks. "Nobody loves me" and "I'm stupid".
This is emotional blackmail at its worst. I should get out but it's just too much trouble. I want my own life back but I just can't find the energy it would take to get it done.