If you are contemplating a vasectomy, please read this!

I would not advise any man to have to go through what I have been forced to deal with.

Having had a bilateral vasectomy in the UK in 2009, I have spent the subsequent time fighting with doctors who at first told me that what I was describing was impossible. They now appear to be saying there may be a connection with my complaint and the procedure and yet they also say there is nothing they can do.

So what's my complaint? Ever since undergoing the procedure, my orgasms have been drastically dulled to the point where I can barely feel them. That deep pulsating within me which accompanied orgasm has gone, and with it, the vast majority of the subsequent pleasure.

The fluid which used to rush out of me is now a trickle and is far smaller in volume. Imagine opening a bottle of Coke which has been shaken up. That's what orgasms were like pre-op. Post-op, they are like squeezing toothpaste out of a tube.

Having been forced into seeing a psychosexual counselor by the doctors responsible, I am now told this problem is not psychological -- as if I didn't know that already -- and there's nothing a counselor can do.

The doctors also say there is nothing they can do because they don't understand what's happened. There have been no studies surrounding this rare complaint. That, however, is better than what they originally said which were words to the effect of, “It's all in your head. Go away.”

It would seem no one can do anything about this and I am left mourning what I have lost. I am full of frustration, anger and despair and needless to say, this has destroyed what was once a healthy and active sex life with my beautiful wife.

Do not be fooled by everything you see online. This is not a risk-free procedure. Changes do happen and if you're unlucky enough to experience them you are just out of luck. This myth that vasectomy is safe and does not affect your sex life needs busting. Trawl around on the web (granted, it will take a long time) and you will find similar testimonies from men across the world.

Everything works just fine when it comes to sex but the ejaculatory pleasure is gone. So what's that like to deal with? Imagine if someone has died and you feel grief. Well that's what it's like. And to add insult to injury, it's a feeling of grief which does not pass. Couple that with the accompanying anger that often goes with grief and you end up with a man like me: devastated and utterly destroyed.

I may be one in a million, but I wouldn't wish this experience on anyone, especially as I underwent a vasectomy in the hope it would make or sex life even better. Instead it has destroyed it and done untold damage to me, my wife and our relationship.

I had a vasectomy about three years ago. I noticed almost immediately that my ejaculations were a lot smaller in volume and intensity. All the information out there suggested that it is in the mind, but this is very misleading as I know my body better than any doctor and the effect is all physical.

Yes, I still want to enjoy sex with my wife, but sadly having to wait sometimes up to two weeks for enough build up of fluids is, quite frankly, ridiculous, as the lack of seminal fluid lowers the desire as well.

I am speaking from my experience and going from being able to ejaculate two or three times in one love making session and up to five or six times in a night to this is pathetic.

Whenever I hear of any guy contemplating a vasectomy, I cannot stand back and ignore the conversation and simply let them know that they should not believe all they hear from their doctors and that things can change dramatically. I want to get a reversal, but unlike the vasectomy it is not covered by health insurances and is a damn sight more expensive. The vasectomy was around $600 AU with 85 percent of this covered by the health coverage I had. Now the cost of the reversal is in the vicinity of $6000 - 8000 AU and not a cent is covered by any benefits that I am aware of.

In simple terms, I now say if it works just fine now don't tempt fate. You may be very disappointed. Just go look for an alternative form of contraception.

I had a vasectomy 12 months ago and I am still in pain. I have been to several doctors (five) and so far, all the nonsurgical options have failed to relieve my pain. I have had two rounds of cortisone injected into my left vas deferens with only temporary relief. My suspicion is that I have pain because the left vas deferens is backed up with pressure due to the sperm not getting through.

To be honest with everyone, I cannot tell if my ejaculation is the same or not because of the pain. The doctor instructed me not to ejaculate more than once a day (most married couples with small children probably will not find this an issue) but the idea that I was not told this in the beginning is very, very, frustrating/misleading. I do not remember seeing that in the brochure or the consultation that the doctor gave my wife and me.

It makes me question whether there are other things that the Urology field is not telling us about this so-called simple procedure. Good luck with whatever decision you end up making.

How can someone tell if the sperm have stopped showing up in the ejaculate after a vasectomy? Is there some way to tell, other than going back to the doctor for a test? Is there a home test to check for sperm?

I've heard horror stories about couples who have the procedure done and still get pregnant.

I can attest to the fact that there is no difference between pre and post vasectomy ejaculate. I've had a vasectomy procedure and neither myself nor my wife noticed any difference in the fluid, the stream, or even the color.

The biggest difference we noticed after my vasectomy was that we weren't living in fear of getting pregnant all the time. We already had four kids (in 6 years) and more were out of the question.