This happened to me this week. I was a custodian at my church. While working there, some things happened (money stolen from areas I had access to, wine bottles found hidden in places I had access to). I was accused of committing the infractions. I should mention now I see a counselor who has an office at our church and does it as a ministry.
I was called into a meeting with the executive minister and lead minister and they told me because of the infractions I was accused of they are letting me go (fired). Both ministers stated to me that they had spoken to the counselor about me and wanted to know from me what I was meeting with him for. They even asked if it concerned criminal activity. I was mortified. They went behind my back to meet with my counselor and try to glean info about me.
Now, two good things came of this. First, my counselor is awesome and shared nothing with them. Second, the person truly to blame for the stolen money and drinking was busted and eventually admitted to it. Whether I was to blame for those thing is neither here nor there. They attempted to gain info from my counselor, and even though he was rock solid, they may have planted some thoughts in his head with their questions and possibly damaged my relationship with the counselor. Is this considered a breach of confidentiality by the ministers? How should I handle something like this?