Yes, many women are actually using orders of protections for purposes other than what they were intended for. An emergency order of protection essentially allows a mother to get herself, as well as any of her children, "protected" with little to no proof to back up her accusations. The intent is for the court to err on the side of caution and give the person the benefit of the doubt, regardless of whether or not the allegations are true.
I was engaged to a woman for approximately two years and had been with her a year prior to that, though I had known her for about two years even before then. I was deployed to the Middle East while she was pregnant. Our daughter was born when I was home on leave. I moved back in when I returned. Things were good at first but started to get rocky. Approximately eight months after I got back, we decided to separate. I moved back in with my parents, who lived two towns away, for the interim. We started patching things up etc., however, we ended up having a brief argument in public (no yelling) and I simply left.
After that, I was pushing to get her to go with me to see a mediator regarding the custody of my daughter. I was also wanting to get all of my belongings out of there (nearly 90-95 percent of all of the electronics were mine and about 70 percent of the furniture was as well.) It was at this point that she went to get an emergency order of protection against me (while I was on Army National Guard drill). I found out from my parents after two deputy sheriffs visited their home at one in the morning.
I retained a lawyer the first day I could. I obtained a copy of the police reports (domestics, not to be confused with domestic battery) and a copy of the order of protection. I was able to prove that she was lying on two accounts in the narrative portion of her sworn testimony (that I supposedly took her phone from her while she was calling 911 and threw it against a wall shattering it, etc.) before the judge in order to get an emergency protection. I was also able to show that she told the police that our argument was only verbal and that nothing physical had happened. However, she claimed that I was pushing her against furniture (causing bruises) all the while holding our infant daughter in our arms.
The order of protection was squashed. I then submitted my parentage packet to seek custody. I knew that she couldn't afford it at the time, however, that was no longer my concern. I ended up getting 50 percent joint custody. With me out of the house, she no longer had my money, not to mention she had to replace most of the electronics as well as the furniture that I took. This was compounded by the fact that she had a foreclosure on her home and filed for bankruptcy (I was unaware this had happened, but I was quickly made aware when I ran an exhaustive background check on her) and her car broke down. Financially speaking, she was exhausted financially.
It was actually rather sad when I went to the home and saw a refrigerator with less than a fifth of the food in it in contrast to when I was living there (she had two sons from a previous marriage). Eventually, she rolled the dice and apparently started selling cocaine (I am sure one of her friends encouraged or recommended it) and she was pulled over for drunk driving and enough cocaine was found in her possession that she was charged with a Class X felony (though it got reduced to a call 1 or 2, whichever is worse, with probation). I was notified by the police to come and get my daughter. I immediately sought a police report and took it to the courthouse the very next day to seek an order of protection against the mother. I was granted it and I denied her as well as her mother and sister (I have proof that they conspired against me, trying to get me to violate the initial order of protection) though I did allow for visitation by her brothers. I got it for the duration of her entire trial.
I knew that it was a matter of time before she would violate the order or protection that I had, sine there is no way that she could go without seeing her daughter for three to four months (she lacks the discipline that I do) and as soon as she pulled into my parents' driveway, I called the police to notify them of what was happening. I did not open the door, but I did talk to her through it to keep her there until the police arrived. She was arrested and charged with another felony (which violated her probation.)
Not only did I end up getting full custody of our daughter, but she also lost her teaching license as well as any job that would involve her being around kids.
Prior to that, and while she had the initial order of protection, she moved down by her mother and sister (who lived an hour and a half south). Her eldest son ran away (he was 13) and it took over a week to find him. Her kids now hate her completely, and she is at my mercy as to whether or not I will let her see her daughter. For the time being, I only allow the mother to see our daughter two times a month and only for two hours at a time under the guidelines of a supervised visit.
That being said, yes, it is very easy for women to get orders of protection. While not all will lie to get one, there is a substantial portion of women who would. It is free and allows them to be separated from the man. They get to live the life, enjoying all of their things without having to pay the piper. It is also an express lane to getting child support payments.
However, while it is easy to get, the majority of them are squashed because most women don't have proof to back up the allegations that they are claiming. I, for one, truly feel sorry for any women who is being abused. However, I also keep in the back of my mind that such things (in addition to rape) are statistically one of the most falsely reported crimes.
My ex-fiancee played the game idiotically. She rolled the dice and thought she could lie her way to getting our daughter all to herself. Now she is getting to the age of "Where is mommy?" Eventually I will have to tell her the truth.
For the women who are truly in abusive relationships, I feel sorry for you and am glad there are things such as emergency orders of protection for you.
For the men, if you get one, don't contact the woman or any people associated with her, nor any of the protected parties on the order of protection. The ramifications of not only having an order of protection against you, but violating one as well, are staggering.
I am a teacher of 11 years and an Army National Guard Officer. I have a security clearance and have no criminal convictions whatsoever. However, just having an order of protection against me to stick would not only have precluded me from being a teacher, but in the military as well. That being said, take such things very seriously and don't hesitate for one minute to get a lawyer. Not only is an order of protection a means to denying you immediate visitation with your children, but it an impediment to maintaining any meaningful form of employment.