I have had the misfortune of trying to get a No Contact Order dropped. Before you second guess, It was not to prevent me from contacting someone; it was to prevent someone else from contacting me.
My son has battled alcohol and mental health issues most of his life. Last year, out of the blue, for the first time ever, he became violent in front of his children. I asked him to come outside with me and sit and have a cigarette, and he sucker punched me. He began telling he was going to kill me. The officers arrived and were not going to arrest him since he was a resident of my home, until the middle grandchild told them of him standing over me after he hit me yelling he was going to kill me. The court in its wisdom filed an NCO for the grandchildren (child endangerment) and myself.
Let's roll forward to eight months later. My my son was placed in a program that required him to have a permanent residence. His girlfriend went to court to get the NCO dropped for the children and my son was allowed to move into their apartment. Now this is curious since the grandchild who told the officers of his threat is the principal witness.
A year and a half later, the court refuses to lift the NCO for me. Their stated reasoning is "not inclined to grant this motion." I must mention that when the motion came up before the court, I appeared in support of my son and the motion. I was initially barred from the court by the prosecutor; threatened that if I entered the court my son would be in violation and be rearrested; allowed into court with the provision I would not look in any direction but straight ahead; and had a police officer placed beside me to ensure compliance.
When the time came for the motion, the judge called me to speak, but when I began he let me talk for about 30 seconds and silenced me with, "I am not inclined to grant your motion."
I refiled the motion with help from an attorney. When I went to court to support the motion, it was much the same story. I was told to leave, allowed with restriction, officer placed near me. The difference was I was not called, and the judge simply said, “In regards to the motion before the court in this case, I am going to deny it.” No further comment, and no recognition I was there to speak before the court.
While this may seem frivolous, it has kept me from visiting my grandchildren, prevented any direct contact with them, and prevented even birthday cards, etc., due to the fact that, in the court's opinion, they could be used as communication between my son and me.
We are now a year and a half out and nothing has changed. Due process is taken to mean loosely "fairness," but nothing here has been fair. I feel that being threatened by the court and being denied the chance to speak in support of motions may violate some "law" I am unaware of. Anyone want to weigh in?