Guilt and shame are powerfully negative emotions that affect one psychologically. Sometimes the guilt shame is brought upon oneself because of a nagging feeling or remorse that does not subside.
Other times it is guilt that is inflicted by another party. This is usually considered guilt tripping, or a guilt trip. A guilt trip never makes anyone feel better and often makes the other party feel worse by a manipulative measure.
For example, a mother telling a teenager that because she did not clean up her room that one day she will regret the day that the mother will no longer be with her and that she will also regret that moment of not cleaning up her room is manipulative.
It is far better to offer a consequence for undesirable behavior and lack of compliance to the teenager than to effect the teenager’s psyche like that. A simple punishment would allow the teenager to see that there are consequences to the noncompliant behavior and as a result the teenager will be unlikely to make the same choice again.
In addition, the teenager does not suffer any damage to her self-esteem which is usually fragile during the teen years.