What is a Bromance?

define

A bromance is a very close friendship between two heterosexual men, classically two single heterosexual men. Men in a bromance are sometimes said to be “bromosexual,” and they may be accused of having “man crushes,” even though their relationship is not, in fact, sexual in nature. Close friendships between men have been a fact of life for centuries, but the bromance appears to be especially common today, thanks to the large numbers of people who may remain single for an extended period of time, rather than marrying or becoming involved in relationships.

Men in a bromance have typically known each other for a very long time, and they share immense love, respect, and affection for each other. It is common for a bromance to express itself in the form of physical affection such as play wrestling, hugging, and other activities, but the relationship also goes much deeper than surface physical expressions of friendship. Often, the men become close with each other's families, spending time with them and considering themselves to be almost like members of the family. It is also not uncommon to see men in a bromance living together, taking advantage of their close friendship to save money on the rent.

All sorts of activities can take place under the umbrella of a bromance, although typically there is a heavy focus on excluding women. Men in a bromance may drink together, go to sporting events, participate in sports, and share other life experiences with each other, sometimes in the company of other men and sometimes as a couple. Many bromances start in college, a period of increased socialization, and they endure well into late life, even after the men find long-term heterosexual partners.

Many cultures have a tradition of homosociality, or friendships between people of the same sex. Classically, homosocial relationships fill the social gap left by not engaging in sexual relationships, and as a result they tend to peter out at the time of marriage. However, the strong bonds formed in homosocial relationships do endure, with the partners in a homosocial relationship spending time with each other's new families, helping each other out when needed, and sometimes entering into business partnerships with each other.

The concept of a bromance is derided in some communities, especially those where such relationships are viewed as unmanly. In regions where the stigma against homosexuality is strong, men in a bromance may find themselves the subjects of mockery and derision, and they may be told to prove their manhood if they want to stay in their social circles. In other areas of the world, bromances are widely accepted and sometimes actively cultivated, as a loyal companion can be a valuable thing to have.

Related wiseGEEK articles

Category

wiseGEEK features

Subscribe to wiseGEEK


4
As with #2 (anon38964) I am a married heterosexual man, also involved in two bromantic relationships with two married heterosexual men. Unfortunately one of these men lives on the opposite coast, but one does live within driving distance. We are not ashamed to show affection for each other, intimate hugs and kisses on the lips are the norm when we are together. We are totally "straight" and have never considered sex with each other. What's great is that our two wives are very supportive of our relationship.
- anon48170
3
So, does your wife feel that you are closer to your bro than her? My husband has a bromance with a single friend who will probably never get married. Even time I try to share with my husband, he is interrupted by texts and calls from his bro. They will text back and forth -- it's just like telling secrets when I am sitting there clearly left out of their inside jokes.
- anon39566
2
Actually I'm a married heterosexual man and I am involved in two bromances. Both of the other men are also heterosexual and married. So it's not always single men involved.
- anon38964

FREE: Subscribe to wiseGEEK

 
    learn more

our strict privacy policy ensures that your email address will be safe



Written by S.E. Smith
Last Modified: 10 October 2009

copyright © 2003 - 2009
conjecture corporation