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What Constitutes Neighbor Harassment?

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Neighbor harassment is a problem that can exist in any neighborhood, and it can be similar to defamation of character. Little things such as not returning a wrench might be irritating, but it does not quite constitute neighbor harassment. Normally, what does qualify as neighbor harassment are incidents of slander, or derogatory statements made to other neighbors. A person repeatedly damaging a neighbor's property, intentionally violating noise ordinances, trespassing or putting things — such as garbage — on a neighbor's property also can constitute neighbor harassment.

If a person trashes a neighbor's name, this can qualify as both neighbor harassment and even a viable reason to sue. It can be very difficult to prove in a court of law that a neighbor has committed harassment, but the effects can be very obvious and damaging. For example, if a person tells others in the community that a neighbor cooks diseased food that has been served to others, this can lead to the community shunning the neighbor or could even have an effect on the neighbor's professional life.

Another major problem people face when dealing with a harassing neighbor is the truth behind the neighbor's statements. Many people feel that in order for harassment to occur, the victim must have the character for the neighbor to defame. For instance, calling a bully a "thug" isn't harassment because the statement is made against no particular fact. In reality, whether a statement is true doesn't always take priority in the actual court hearing.

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In some countries, it can be a problem to prove neighbor harassment of this sort because freedom of speech is legally protected. For the most part, courts agree that an opinion differs from fact, no matter how vicious the opinion is. A person can be legally allowed to express an opinion, but misrepresenting facts or lying about facts regarding a neighbor might be considered harassment.

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anon946929
Post 32

My husband and I live in an apartment complex community, and the four buildings on our “street” allow cats and small dogs. Our neighbors are nice enough, especially those in our building, save one woman in her 60s who is apparently mentally deteriorating.

In early February, while I was trying to coax my dog into peeing on the only clear square of snowdrift-covered sidewalk at 5a.m., this older woman came out on her patio in a nightgown during a blizzard and accused me of not picking up my Chihuahua’s poop. She also insisted that I couldn’t let my dog urinate in the area next to her side of the building, which is ridiculous -- anyone on our street can walk their dogs anywhere around the buildings (we’re next to a woods and there is a lot of grass/yard space), as long as the dog is leashed and their poop is immediately removed. She demanded my name and my apartment number, said she was going to report me to the complex manager and get me evicted and on and on, but I said I wouldn’t because I wasn’t doing anything wrong and that she was welcome to complain to the manager, who lived right in our building.

A month later, she did it again, this time swooping down on me and getting right up in my face while I was just walking my dog down the sidewalk, and she was even more vile. She peppers her accusations with threats and personal insults, won’t listen to calm reasoning, talks over anything you say anyway, and just gets more abusive if you defend yourself by matching her voice in tone and volume. This time I called the manager to complain and was told that other tenants had been harassed by her, and yet she had not been evicted. Unbelievable. Luckily, I had detailed info for both incidents, because I’d texted my husband in hysterics both times it happened, so I typed up a complaint letter for the manager (who requested it from everyone involved), and that was that.

She hasn’t really bothered me again so far, but just this week, I was in the manager’s office discussing something minor and unrelated, and who do you think walked in? She recognized me and looked like she would have killed me right then and there if she could. Pure evil -- creeped me right the hell out. When

I was done and went to leave, she literally blocked the door and wouldn’t move until I said, “Excuse me!” very forcefully, twice. When I got outside, I saw that she had also blocked my car by parking hers lengthwise directly behind it, basically pinning me into my parking space, although there were five empty spaces next to me she could have used. It’s a tiny parking lot with about 10 spaces, and you can’t turn your car around unless you pull into a space anyway, so I know her actions were deliberate. I just managed to squeeze out without hitting her car.

It seems silly to be intimidated by an old lady, but she’s bigger and taller than I am and her crazy isn’t just the irrational ranting of a befuddled senior citizen; she’s flat out scary. The really sad part is that I initially met her just a few months before the first attack, and we’d had a nice conversation during which she was perfectly normal and friendly. She lost her senses very quickly. We’re finally buying a house this year, for which I’m immeasurably grateful, and I cannot wait to leave the stress of this suffocating place behind. I just hope we get out before she becomes physically violent.

anon945760
Post 31

I owe a neighbor 100.00 dollars and now she is demanding the money back, even though I have told her repeatedly that I am going through a financial hardship right now.

She continues to ask and demand her money, coming over at inappropriate times and says things like, "I will make your life miserable if you do not pay me back." Is this considered a form of harassment? I should have never borrowed money from her.

anon939318
Post 30

I have lived on my cul de sac for 18 years. We all got along on the street until these new people moved in and they have done nothing but cause trouble. First, all the cats in the neighborhood disappeared; they were setting traps. Then they called the city and the cops on everyone repeatedly. Now they are coming up to my kids and talking crap.

Let me say this: my kids are teenagers and these people have two young kids. I have never spoken to them in the year they lived here, however they both have records. He’s been arrested for heroin possession and robbery and she’s been arrested for heroin and writing bad checks and she was found with a bunch of false IDs.

I have told my kids not to say a word to them. They have cameras all over their property and are constantly just standing there. They don’t work, but drive brand new cars. I have had to leave work because of her making comments and yelling at my kids, then when I call the cops, I’m told, “Oh she doesn’t feel comfortable” and that my kids are the ones harassing her kids. It is so untrue. If it were just me, I would be OK, whatever, but it is the whole block they mess with. It is so unfortunate because it was a quiet street before.

anon935906
Post 29

I've had a male in my building harass me since late last year because I informed him I wasn't interested in a romantic relationship. It's been one thing after the other. At first it was sending threatening text messages and calling using different phone numbers (apparently there are iphone and smartphone apps that enable this). I changed my phone number after dealing with it for about a month.

Then, he somehow knew what time I arrived to the apartment and would follow me into common areas of the building. Now, he's yelling derogatory names and statements when he sees me (without provocation). I live alone and have no time to second guess myself or think that this will "go away." My safety comes first. Yesterday, I went to my local police station to report what has been happening and to get assistance in the matter.

anon933605
Post 28

My neighbor recently rented out the house adjacent to ours to a tenant. Immediately, his tenant began parking commercial vehicles in front of my home 24/7 as well as four other vehicles! The tenant's trucks have torn up the grass in the cul-de-sac, and have repeatedly parked in front of my driveway, preventing me from either leaving or entering my own home!

I have tried talking to my neighbor about his tenant but he only shrugs and tells me to talk to the guy about it. I am scared to talk to the guy since the neighbor's wife told me the tenant was a gun nut and a recluse. It's getting worse and worse every single day and I'm frankly horrified at how badly and quickly this is escalating.

anon356512
Post 27

I have been in the direct line of fire from my neighbor's harassment for five years. She has rallied others by slandering us and telling lies, although I am unsure as to what she could have possibly said to affect the three in our immediate cul de sac. She has also befriended a couple of others in the neighborhood to gang up and intimidate and continuously harass us. It started with subtle things such as every morning we would come out to get in our car and leave for work on our driveway (her two upstairs bedroom windows face my driveway) and she would bang (like knocking) on the window and she would just rush away?

This continued for weeks. Every morning she would startle us with this behavior. My husband finally said, “I am going to talk to her and see what is she doing?” He went to talk to her and she was very polite, sweet and friendly. She said, "Oh no. I am not knocking on the window. It's the blinds I am pulling up and that's the sound they make!" So he had to accept that as her answer although we knew better. There are no blinds in her bedrooms. She has fabric shades and curtains. O.K., whatever. He figured she knows we know and she'll stop.

Well, fast forward to the following day, which is garbage pickup day in my neighborhood and guess what? You guessed it. We came home late from work and our driveway was completely blocked by her garbage can and recycle bin. We got out and moved them and thought OK, this is psychotic behavior. Is it because we are ethnic? Why is she doing this to us? We never even spoke to her and her husband more than twice since we moved in to our home.

Anyway, the next incident happened the next day. My husband and I again left the house together for work and she had all these traffic cones lined from my driveway with a twisty curve all the way to the middle of the street and her four children and next door neighbor/co-conspirator with her four children and another one who she has as comrades from our community down the road with her two children all riding bikes trikes and pushing little scooters in an obstacle course manner. Of course, they all face their backs to my driveway as if to say, “Oh, we didn't see anyone on the driveway” and I guess they are all hard of hearing, too.

When we put my toddler in the car and closed the door and my husband and I got in the car and closed the door, and slowly started to back out of our driveway, one Mom turned around and gave a shriek and said, "Oh my God! We didn't see you behind us!” They slowly moved their cones, children, trikes, bikes and all else. It was always one thing or another and always innocently placed in front of my driveway.

Anyway, last summer it all came to a head when she had a contractor relative come to work at her house and he completely blocked my driveway with his truck.

I went out and took photos. In an empty cul de sac, he parked directly and horizontally blocking my driveway. It was the craziest thing.

So, I started documenting all her actions and attacks towards me and my family. Numerous other incidents were recorded too, and I went to civil court and got a temporary order against her. The judge was so understanding and called her out on all the incidents and asked her why is this happening, and whether she has an underlying reason for all that she sees in this case.

I couldn't believe my ears. I think they probably see this type of thing all the time and know people very well. Long story short, I am in a lawsuit at this time since she only stopped temporarily while the order was in place.

I feel like a prisoner in my house. I can't even walk to my mailbox and the strange thing is, when so many gang up against you it makes you wonder if something is wrong with me or maybe they are right.

anon356390
Post 26

There are a couple of annoying kids outside in the park of my apartment I rented. The kids throw rocks and kick balls at my windows. Does this count as harassment? There is also security dispatched in my neighborhood. Should I contact them?

anon354295
Post 25

Our neighbours hate students and have forced the last tenants to move through intimidation. So, far they have called the police for noise complaints nine times. Each time the police come into the flat, say nothing is wrong and leave. We've even had police at our door at seven in the morning when we were sleeping.

They have openly threatened us with being stabbed, ripped my birthday banner of my wall and this weekend had the son in the family destroy our car with a brick and ran off before we ran down the stairs.

anon349400
Post 24

I thought I was the only one going through this, but so many of the stories here describe what is happening to me.

I, too, feel like a prisoner in my home. I am disabled and live in an apartment building for 55+ or disabled. There is a "gang" of seniors who have made my life a nightmare. I have a no-contact order on one of them and this person's trial for harassment is coming up. But, still it continues.

I will never understand why some people live to make others' lives miserable. The management does nothing about it, citing that these people have the right to free speech.

This has turned me into a recluse in my own home. Believe me, it is no way to live. I cannot afford to move.

amypollick
Post 23

@anon347279: Yeah, document, document, document. If you have a phone with video capabilities, get her on tape if she crosses the property line.

Now, if you want to get under her skin in a way that cannot be construed as threatening, any time you leave or come in, if she's watching, turn, wave at her, *big* smile, and say, "Hi there! Isn't it a gorgeous day? Isn't life *wonderful*?" and watch her vamoose from in front of the window.

A friend in high school had a nosy neighbor, who used to watch her come and go from the house, and would call her mom to yell about her having her kids "running in the yard all the time." When I would visit, when we would come in, if she was watching, I'd wave and say "Hi! How are you today?" and when we would leave, I'd say, "Goodbye! So nice to see you again!" That door slammed in a big hurry and after two or three times, she stopped watching if I was with her, anyway. Might be a good idea to only do it if someone's with you, and have them video you doing it so she can't say you were yelling obscenities or something. It might just work.

As for the rest, getting things notarized is an excellent idea. Really puts her on notice that you're not putting up with her foolishness.

If she ever threatens you with harm, just pick up the phone, call the police and tell them she's threatening to harm herself and other people. They're obligated to come out and check on her, then.

In the meantime, keep documenting and definitely talk to an attorney.

anon347279
Post 22

I feel all of your pain. I have a neighbor who has called the pound to try and have my puppy taken from me, saying she has no tags, but she does. This woman also had our car towed because it sat in our driveway too long, and what was amazing, the cop had it towed without informing us. How does that happen?

She has told us to cut down all our trees because she has pine needles on her deck. Ummm, no. We are not going to do that. She wanted us to pay for her fence. Ummm, no to that too, and now she has called the health department because our decks need to be replaced, and we have a dog pool on the backyard and she fears for *her* safety. What? The department of health is out there right now with my husband.

I am going to take all of your advice, and start a paper trail for a lawsuit. The next thing she asks us, we are telling her to put it in writing and have it notarized. Enough is enough. Like most of you, I hate to even go to my car because she stands in her picture window, that she put in to face our house, and stares. Whether we're coming or going, there she is. She is crazy. She even had the cops patrolling the area for months because she thought someone was out to get her. If she thinks she can force me out of my home, she is crazier than I thought. I am not going anywhere. I will try the headphones as I come and go, and start the paper trail. Thanks everyone.

anno123456
Post 21

@anon345543: It's easier said then done to ignore the jerk, especially when he's always harassing you every day for nothing. I put ear plugs in my ears to listen to my music when I take my dog for a walk and mow my front lawn and what really scares me is that he gets really ticked off when you do ignore him, especially when I'm mowing my ditch and he drives by.

anno123456
Post 20

@amypollick: Thanks for the info about this. I have already filed the harassment order on him and have court date all set and ready to go. I have about three or more years of documents on his harassment. I'm starting to get writers cramp.

The same day I filed, I talked to a lawyer's receptionist. My son had an appointment with a lawyer about a car accident (that's a different story) and she gave me some advice and said that the judge should give me the harassment order. I'm still taking all my documents and the officer who took my report and the case number that she gave me when I handed her all my documents that I had to begin with on this jerk. Hopefully, the judge will look it all over. I don't have time to get the reports of how many false police reports he has called on us. Court is in the morning, so I hope it works.

anon345543
Post 19

These are sick people and the best thing to do is ignore them.

amypollick
Post 18

@anno123456: O.K. You're going to have to pull what they call a "10-13" on this dude. Call your local department of children's services. They handle adult intake, also. Get an adult intake worker on the phone and tell them this man's name and that he is a danger to himself and to others. And he is a danger to himself. One of these days, he's going to get under someone's skin, and that person is going to have a gun and that will be the end of it. Anyway, the office may send out a social worker and they will open a case file on him. If they think he's really mental, they can bring his case before a judge and have a judge put him on a 72-hour hold in a mental hospital for evaluation.

Even if the police won't do anything, you should still be able to go to the courthouse and swear out a warrant for his arrest, for him threatening to kill you. At least he would have to go before a judge and tell why he's harassing you.

Keep documenting everything.

anno123456
Post 17

What happened to serve and protect (yeah right)? Sometimes I think the laws have changed to serve and protect the criminals and not the innocent people.

I also feel like a prisoner in my own home and why should we? We have every right to open our doors and go outside and breathe the same air as anyone. We have a neighbor who has been harassing us since day one and that was seven years ago. We have lived in our neighborhood for over 15 years and this jerk just bought his home seven years ago and thinks he owns the neighborhood. He’s in his late 60's and has called the police on us multiple times for what? Nothing. We have asked the officer what could be done about what he has done to us and they said nothing could be done because he is on his own property. Then we asked the police to tell him to leave us alone. They did, but he never did stop, so I started writing down everything he has said, including the dirty name calling, threatening to kill us and anything else you can think of. He has been a blister on our butts that won’t go away. His son has told us they always had to move all the time because he would harass other neighbors. Now this jerk has decided to get a bright light and tries to shine it in our window. Well, if he thinks he can try to blind me while I'm sitting in my living room, I can play that game too. I have a brighter light that can light up the whole neighborhood and blind him out, but I won’t stoop to his level.

The police are useless. The last time I called the police and reported his actions, they kept telling me they can't do anything unless he is off his property. Well, one day, he followed us into a parking lot and waited for us to get out of our car and started the dirty name calling. He has also tried to run me over while I was walking my dog in a parking lot and took off. I called the police and got the same answer every time: they can't do anything.

I told them he was following us and he was not on his property but still get the same answer. The officer I spoke to said the neighbor has a mental issue. I told the officer he has some kind of an issue, but the officer told us to get a harassment order going on him, and then they will be able to do something. Yeah, right!

starkeeper
Post 16

I have neighbors behind me who refuse to leash a 70 pound boxer. I have complained to management. This is a mobile park and we have rules. They send letters, but these people fight with everyone and don't like rules.

I place a battery operated night motion light in our window. When they saw it go off at night, they called the park management, said I pointed it at their house and are suing me for harassment. It was pointed at my back yard. They have threatened to sue my other neighbor as well. I took the light down. I really don't think this case has merit. Anyone?

anon341702
Post 15

update from 340441 @amypollick: Thank you very much. I have tried contacting many attorneys in my area. I don't have the money for it. I did find one from St. Louis who is at least willing to listen to what is going on. We spoke on the phone and she wants to see what I have for evidence. Hopefully, with witnesses - including caseworkers, this woman's posts on Facebook about us, and her admitting to the police she's doing it will be enough.

As far as the neighbors, they're all in a group. She's just the leader and the loudest. It's like a middle school mean girl club only they are in their 30s and 40s.

amypollick
Post 14

@anon340441: You need an attorney. Badly. You at least need someone who is paid to advocate for you.

I will say the other neighbors probably feel very sorry for you. It's highly unlikely they're unaware of how this woman acts, or that they believe anything she tells them. They've probably been her targets too, at one time or another. Could you find this out? If you can get other neighbors to go to the complex owners with you, there's strength in numbers, and if more than one person complains, it gives your problem credibility.

Of course, if you want to fight fire with fire, call children's services on her for making her grandson stand at the door to take photos of you. That could be construed as abuse of a child. Do you have a social worker who helps with you taking care of your granddaughter? If you do, tell the social worker about this woman and tell her it's having a detrimental effect on your granddaughter's mental health and see if she has any suggestions.

I'm sorry you're having to deal with this. This woman sounds like she's as crazy as an outhouse rat. Good luck.

anon340441
Post 13

Update from anon339785. I have tried to be nice and I am to the point of ignoring her completely. Nothing works. I have contacted everyone I can think of. It's gotten worse.

Now she has her nine or 10 year old son taking pictures and videos of us (my granddaughter and me) when we walk to the car. He stands at their open window. He looks so uneasy. I feel sorry for him. When he told her that we saw him taking pictures, she told him to take more. We could hear everything she was saying through her open window. None of it was good and the language was very offensive. I just kept walking and told my granddaughter not to pay attention to it.

According to Missouri law, as long as she doesn't say anything directly to our faces, it's not harassment. She acts like she's talking on her cell, says it to a friend, or just to the open air. Believe me, she has a set of lungs. Again, we were told by the police as long as she's not looking in our faces, it's legal for her to do so.

My son is serving in Afghanistan and I have his son for a week. My blinds were closed and I took a picture of my three year old grandson sitting in a chair by the window. (She sits on the steps outside constantly. They can't be seen through my window.) She saw the flash and started screaming I was stalking her and taking pictures. I have a cheap camera and even so, I don't know of any camera that can take a picture through blinds and around a corner. This is her reasoning for having her son take pictures and videos of us. Since he's a minor, nothing is being done.

My neighbor is still telling people I'm not disabled. I guess Wal-Mart now sells the disabled placards to anyone. That came out of her mouth. My vehicle has even been keyed again. I was told there was no proof who did it.

The police act like I'm overreacting to it all. With what I posted previously, things are spiraling downhill with her. When I contacted the agency that owns the units, they acted like I'm a troublemaker for trying to get help. I can't afford to move, and I can't stand being here. I rarely leave my apartment and when I do, it's straight to my car without speaking or looking at anyone. The same happens coming home. One lady walking by waved at me and my neighbor started yelling that I was a drug dealer and more. But it's still not harassment since it was not being said directly to me.

anon340378
Post 12

For small petty issues, kill 'em with kindness. Do not react to their shenanigans. If they accuse you of something, profusely apologize with a smile and say "By the way, I don't think we've met, I'm _____." It disarms them and it is fun to watch them getting annoyed and squirming when they're not getting the reaction they want; you're gaining the upper hand. Some of them will see the error of their ways and back off, even becoming friendly. Others will simply disappear and get on with (or get a) life.

anon339906
Post 11

I too live in a large apartment complex and am on housing. I have lived here with no problems until February and then boom! I am being harassed by a whole group.

I am not writing this to tell my story so much as to tell you all my heart just breaks when I read your posts. Is there anything to be done? Have any of you tried calling the HUD office in San Francisco or the discrimination hotline? It's worth a try. I would love to form some kind of online group and stand together and be strong and compare notes or at least not feel so alone in this.

If I see anyone who feels the same I will get in touch. I also feel like a prisoner in my own apartment and I am miserable all the time now. Stay strong and I know that is hard to do. I feel like I get Tourette's syndrome whenever I am here now, with no disrespect to anyone who has Tourette's. Please do not take offense. That is what happens to me. It is a becoming a sad, crazy world we now live in.

anon339785
Post 10

I live in HUD housing also. I have custody of my 13 year old grand daughter. I suffer from depression, among other things, and my granddaughter has depression problems also. They have worsened in the few months we have lived here.

The neighbor across from us has called us derogatory names (including the female dog and another word for prostitute), talks to others in her group and other neighbors about us, she has yelled and complained when we walk outside, saying we have no right to be there -- this is when we are walking to the car or my granddaughter has a friend over. She has tried to refuse my granddaughter access to the stairs. She's a bigger woman and has puffed her body up to intimidate my granddaughter. She has turned me in on false violations, which I had to deal with the main office to get rid of. She has complained about the social workers who visit, and has even gone as far as calling the office and complaining they were parked in an unassigned spot. She has even posted derogatory stuff on the internet which she admitted to the police was about us. This is only a small portion of stuff we've been through in mere months. She is also friends with the manager who runs the apartments. I was trying to relay a message about a patient in ICU critical care to her daughter, she had her kids bang on the stair railing with their scooters and was laughing. I couldn't be heard because of this.

I'm now basically a prisoner in my own apartment. I have to keep the windows and door shut or she will start in, even to the point of saying I'm spying, on her or she will blow cigarette smoke in my window. I can't even have my blinds open or she will do things.

I have tried to get help from the police. I was first told I had enough to press charges and then she wanted to mediate. All I wanted was to be left alone and I agreed. We mediated with the police officer. However, she's continued this behavior and the officer now says there is nothing he can do. I was told all the situations before the mediation no longer apply, even though it hasn't even been a full month since the mediation itself.

I was also told as long as she didn't look at me and wasn't directly talking to me, this stuff doesn't constitute harassment. I feel as though I'm losing my sanity more and more each day. I can't find help anywhere.

anon338312
Post 9

My nightmare in my gated community where my husband and I have lived for over 33 years has just begun with a new neighbor who moved in on the same street, but on the other side of our circle drive. First, a year ago, she falsely accused our nine month old puppy of being "dangerous" and not having tags. Neither was true! It escalated into several false police reports and false reports to Animal Control. I rectified the problem with Animal Control but did nothing about the police incident reports.

Now a year later to date exactly, she has now targeted me with false police reports of running her off the our circle drive, which is not true at all and now this has escalated into another false police report stating she fears for her life?

This person is very unstable and I do not know what the motivation is, unless she hopes to file some sort of false civil suit against my husband and me. My husband is a retired successful business man who is elderly and I have had to take him to two doctors since this incident occurred, as the stress has taken a toll on him and on me.

To top off all this drama, I just found out this woman even carried it further by trying to get a temporary restraining order against me, but since there was "no crime" as per the police officer's statements, the judge threw it out!

Now I would like to know if anyone out there could relate to a situation like this and tell me your recourse? I hear there really isn't any such thing as a harassment case that you could file?

Now I am afraid to go out of my house as I see this woman and her husband trying to bait us, armed with a video camera!

anon334320
Post 8

I just moved into HUD housing for senior and disabled people and the neighbors have been rude and intrusive since day one, have gossiped about me, stand and stare if I step outside my door. Just going to the car and back is stressful, doing such a simple thing as laundry. I've even caught a couple of people outside my window eavesdropping on phone calls. I am 60 years old and without family. I don't know how to handle this.

anon332521
Post 7

If you are being harassed with loud noise such as leaf blowers or lawn mowers, get on your mobile devices, go online and loudly play videos featuring the same sounds. They hate when you use their own tactics back on them but I guarantee it helps neutralize them.

anon324191
Post 6

I am currently being harassed or retaliated against in my apartment. My neighbors were having party after party, four weeks in a row. I got angry and stomped on the floor once and then reported them to management. Two neighbors heard me stomp and are now mad at me and keep having me get written up for things I am not doing and are against the lease. They are moving out at the end of the month, but they could do more write ups in that time.

I too am on HUD and you can get kicked off pretty easily. Why the hell would I do things to get me kicked out, I ask? Seriously! Why can't they see this is retaliation? If I get one more, I will be out of here. Homeless. I am scared! I am an older woman and I will have to live in my car, after years of care giving to my husband who died two years ago. I never did anything to deserve this.

I need advice. Should I get a lawyer? Should I file an anti-harassment order? Call the police? They will retaliate more. I know they will, because they have proven it. I am terrified in my home! All because I stomped on the floor. Wow.

What can a person do when they are in this situation? It's their word against mine.

I leave everyone alone, I don't talk to anyone, I am quiet! I even tiptoe in my home as to not bother the neighbors, but they are saying I am stomping, slamming doors, and more. It amazes me how two neighbors can come together and make life hell for another with lies and they don't seem to care. Not only do they not seem to care, they get a sick joy out of hurting others. It makes no sense to me.

anon318785
Post 5

I have neighbors who don't seem to like me and try to intimidate me by making me feel like they are constantly watching me. One of my windows faces their yard and every time I approach that room there's something moving, trying to let me know that they are watching. I know this sounds a little wacko, but we do have some beef over them throwing cigarette butts in my yard and holding parties late at night.

I contacted the authorities and a community liaison talked to them, so I didn't have to intervene. Now they do that since they know that they cannot make the noise they used to and they can't throw garbage to my yard.

They also try to intimidate me by showing up every time I am in my yard. I just started saying hi and they disappeared. Now is that kind of settled harassment.

anon311039
Post 4

I had to put up a surveillance system to document my neighbor's harassment. He has received several citations, and we are considering a lawsuit.

anon273648
Post 3

I feel your pain. I live in public housing and have people who have nothing better to do than to make life hell for other people. Their target is my 13 year old son. They have made false reports about my son and the roving manager just writes me up without talking to me. It's been causing a great deal of emotional stress.

I don't know these people but I believe it's discrimination. They hate his friend, so therefore, they hate him too. They vowed to get them kicked out by any means necessary, they did, and now we are their target. I have lived here for eight years, with no huge problems, then in April, bam! Three stupid write-ups.

anon239853
Post 1

I live in HUD housing and I am disabled. Also there are seniors living here and two I know of are angry that disabled people are moving in.

I have been harassed in the hallway, with hit and run verbal harassment as I'm walking down the hallway. They are making untrue statements complaints about me.

I have been written up by my apartment management over gossip. Not to mention the "so called" harassment is knocking on a door and asking for a cigarette, which isn't true, but what happened was I asked to borrow a cup of sugar. I have no problem lending a cup of sugar, etc. As silly as this is, I have been written up two times and given no specifics other than I asked for a cigarette.

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