Male incontinence is no picnic, either. I had some problems with my prostate last year, and the prostatectomy caused incontinence. I have to buy incontinence diapers and underwear now, and it's a little embarrassing, truth be told. I don't want to be too far away from my house in case I have a urinary accident and have to change. I'm sure other people notice that I'm wearing all of these incontinence devices, too.
I also agree with Reminiscence about the cost of pads and underwear. I'm on a fixed income, and I don't really like spending an extra $75 a month on adult diapers. But the idea of using catheters every day also scares me, so it's a bit of a trade-off. Other people I know are doing well with prescription medications, but my doctor hasn't found one that he considers strong enough for my particular situation.