My bf started showing his anger outbursts after our fifth year together. It started in increments, and got much worse by the 11th year. I ended it with him and told him to go home to his house and stay there. I thank God that I am strong in God's word. People like that will not change and will always blame other people and say it's their fault, and etc.

My brother is kind of a hot head and I always dread family gatherings because I know that he is going to make an angry outburst over something. It happens like clockwork. It doesn't matter the holiday, the time of day or the crowd gathered. He always finds something to set him off and he usually ends up screaming, yelling and throwing something.

But he is my brother and in spite of it all I love him. I wish he would get some help for his anger but until he does what am I to do? We can't not invite him to family meals. And we can't just ask him to not get so angry. Hopefully he will take a long look in the mirror and recognize how much harm he is doing to this whole family.

I will always remember an angry outburst that I saw in a restaurant once. I was eating in a pretty nice Italian place with my girlfriend at the time. We had just gotten a few glasses of wine when we hear glass shattering behind us.

We both turned to look and there was a man who had just overturned his table and was screaming at another man who was still sitting in his chair. The seated man looked stunned and the angry man looked like he was ready to rip his head off. I thought it was going to come to blows.

Luckily no one was hurt. A waiter came up, talked quietly to the angry man and escorted him out of the restaurant. The weird thing was that the other man, the passive man, had his table set back up and went on to eat a meal by himself. I guess after a crazy experience like that you have a real appetite.

Does anyone know what to do if your friend has angry outbursts and you're feeling really worried about their mental health?

My friend has been throwing what amounts to temper tantrums in public for awhile now, and I know she gets angry easily, but it is really making it hard for her socially. A lot of us don't want to go out with her in case she does something crazy.

Just last week she ended up yelling at some poor waiter because he spilled her water on the table. It was an honest mistake but she just went off the handle.

Counseling can really help people who have angry outbursts if the individual is willing to give it their all while working on their anger management issues. My brother used to always throw things, yell and punch walls when he was mad. The worst thing was though that he would get into fights at school if he felt slighted by another student.

Our parents convinced my brother to go to counseling after he scared his girlfriend and nearly got arrested for fighting. He was pretty worried about his own behavior too and has been doing pretty well with the professional help he has been getting.

@orangey03 - I think that everyone has had some kind of angry outburst and then feels bad about it later. It is easier for some people to keep it inside, and for others, they feel like they will explode if they don't let it out right away.

My family sees more of my angry outbursts than people I don't know. If I am in a situation in public where I become angry, I keep it in until I am at home.

Then I let it all out, and my family takes the brunt of it. Not only do people get angry about different things, but they also react differently as well.

I think those people who become destructive physically and emotionally to those around them need to work on this more than those who just blow off some steam with some ranting and raving.

I have a friend who throws things when he gets angry. He got mad at me once, because he was trying to prove a point that I disagreed with, and his sudden violent behavior took me off guard.

He stood up and slammed his plate into the ground, shattering it. Then, he punched the wall and left a hole in it. Once he realized what he was doing, he went into the other room to cool off.

At first, I felt a flash of fear, wondering if he would actually hit me. When I saw that he was taking his anger out on inanimate objects, my fear turned to concern for him. I went to see how badly he had hurt his hand, but he didn't want me to look at it.

He later apologized. We lost touch after awhile, but I am still friends with his sister. She told me that he started abusing his girlfriend shortly after that, and he has abused every woman he has been in a relationship with since.

This just illustrates how one type of violence can quickly progress to another worse form. If I am dating someone and they start to have angry outbursts, I get out of the relationship right away.

While a lot of people associate angry outbursts with toddlers, I have seen some adults who have angry outbursts for no apparent reason.

When it comes to small children, you can understand their frustration with not being able to express themselves or not being understood. This isn't as easy to understand when you see this behavior in adults.

I have an aunt who is known for her angry outbursts. I am sure this is one reason it is hard for her to keep friends, and she even has distant relationships with most of her children.

When this happens, the best thing to do is just get out of the way and not take it personally, but it is hard for her children to do that.

I know she doesn't physically feel good a lot of the time and wonder if that is part of the problem. When you talk to her kids about it though, they say she has been that way for as long as they can remember.

@kylee07drg – Your dad sounds scary. I probably would have done my best to behave around him, too!

Speaking of scary outbursts, road rage is one of the most frightening types. I get as angry as most people when someone cuts me off or does other stupid things while driving near me, but I can control my anger. Some people let it seep over into their driving, and they do dangerous things to get back at the person who made them angry.

I was driving behind a super slow car that keep weaving in and out of the lanes. I started to pass him, and I honked to let him know I was beside him. He took the honk as an insult, and he sped up and rode my bumper for about ten miles.

I was really nervous. I actually thought he might try to ram me from behind. We were driving down little country roads, and there was no one else around.

Has anyone here ever experienced angry outbursts? I have them from time to time, and I am embarrassed afterward. It's nearly impossible for me to restrain myself when I get upset.

Often, it happens in public places. If someone cuts in front of me in line at the supermarket, I stand there and seethe until my temper overflows. I start yelling at the person, and sometimes I am so mad that I don't even know where the words are coming from.

After I let my anger out, I take a look at the people around me. They are all staring at me with disgust, and I feel so much shame. I know I need to seek mental help for my angry outbursts.

Angry outbursts are super scary. My dad used to suddenly burst forth with rage, and it always made us children cry. He couldn't control himself. He had just always had a hot temper.

He never hit us, and we were glad for that. Just seeing his face turn red was enough to make us behave, because we knew what would follow. He didn't even have to use curse words. The anger in his voice scared us straight.

He would get angry at the smallest things. If one of us left our shoes laying in the middle of the floor, he would have a fit. If someone didn't put away their dirty dishes, his anger would flare up. My mom tried to tell him to calm down, but that just made him angrier.