@ElizaBennett - I agree with you that it's important to keep an open mind about your birth experience. I tried to have a natural birth, but I required a C-section (sounds like something similar happened to you). Even with experienced midwives and educated, committed mothers, a small percentage of women will require C-section. (After all, however overused the operation may be today, it was invented to keep women from dying in childbirth.)
For me, the book that helped me accept my birth experience was by Ricki Lake, of all people: "Your Best Birth." There are plenty of books out there about how to have a natural birth and even, yes, maximize your chance of experiencing orgasm (I have a friend who did - not sure if I'm jealous or not!), but this was the one book for me that acknowledged that some babies choose their own way to be born, and it may not be what Mom had in mind!