I have temporal lobe epilepsy that is relatively well controlled by medication. My father has had a slow progression of Alzheimer’s. His memory has been affected and he doesn't want to do anything. He seems to have given up. He has to be prompted to do everything: eating, washing, shaving, and my mother and I have to oversee him taking his medication. It is beginning to wear my mum down as we get no help from anyone.
I think he should go to a residential place for a week to give my mum and me some respite, but mum is too proud to accept any help and looks on it as an invasion and a failing on her part, but as I keep telling her, she will be no good to him when she falls apart. I have a sister. She has not been down for nearly two years. I have a niece, but the only time she phones mum is to ask for her money that mum and dad put in a trust to pay out when she reached 18. I cannot believe that we are sisters because we are so different. We badly need support but don't know how to discreetly go about finding it.