@irontoenail - You can't blame fathers for it all though. I know a father who pays full child support even though he has shared custody. That means he's also responsible for all the bills when the kids are at his house which they are half of the time.
There are plenty of women who never learned how to support themselves as adults because they were too busy raising the children. I don't think that's necessarily a bad thing, but if it comes to a divorce it can be difficult to know how to divide everything up.
I think it's a good thing to keep the children's welfare firmly in the front of your mind whatever you do. And if you are a mother or father waiting on child support, I hope that you get everything that you deserve.