I was so mad an hour ago! I came from work, and I found my husband lying down in bed and my son playing. The kitchen was completely dirty, there were toys and stuff all over, even food on the floor!

The first thing I did after he left, was research my husband doesn't do anything at home, and all these women complaining made me feel I'm not the only one.

But what am I going to do right now? I'm going to get a garbage bag and throw

whatever I don't use away. I'm going to leave two plates, two glasses, two bowls, two of everything! and all the things I don't need. are going in the trash. We live in NYC in a very small apartment and it is so stressful to get home and see crap all over! Stay strong, ladies! Thank you for the comments!

Well, after reading your complaints, i will stop complaining. mine isn't that bad after all.

I'm a stay at home mom to three kids, and my "work" day doesn't end. It's 24/7, there's always housework to be done, at least one kid wakes up during the night. My partner works a full time job and when he gets home he's exhausted. Fair enough.

But on weekends when he isn't at work he still does bugger all. He mows the lawns about once every three or so weeks, takes the rubbish out once a week (i.e. he pushes the bin to the curb, often forgets to empty the bin in the kitchen), helps with grocery shopping (I'd send him there on his own except that he can't be bothered getting his license and we need the car to fit all the shopping in). I have to continuously ask for help. every single day I sound like a broken record.

We were just having a conversation about this 10 minutes ago and I told him he should help more and because he's having three weeks off soon I expect him to help. His response? "Pfft"

He won't even read to the kids at night unless I nag him and even then it doesn't happen all the time. He might do things every now and then but it'll be just one thing and then he'll sit down for the rest of the day. If he sees things that need doing and hears the kids whinging and crying or whatever he still sits there. All he'll do is tell them to be quiet, he won't think to get off the couch and get his son a bottle or get off the couch and spend time with the kids so they aren't always whinging or whatever.

What gets me even more angry is that he sees me stressed and all that and heaps of housework that needs doing and he doesn't even offer to help.

As a stay at home mom, I make sure I do as much as I can while I'm home. I don't expect him to walk in the door and clean as soon as he gets home. All I ask for is for him to help me and think for himself. Help get the kids ready for bed, help me fold the clothes which I haven't gotten around to doing during the day because there's so many of them and to feed our son. And I want him to do this without me telling/asking him. He knows what time the kids go to bed so he should think 'hmm, it's 7 p.m. I will get the kids pyjamas and brush their teeth (or even bathe them)' especially when I am busy doing dishes or whatever.

On weekends I expect him to put some washing on, make the bed if he's the last one out of it, help with the kids, take them to the park, just to use his brain and do things that need doing.

The article is a complete joke. Yes he does work full time but being a stay at home mum I get exhausted too. I don't expect him to come home and start cleaning, I just want him to help me. I try and get as much as I can done in the day but there are things I sometimes can't do (or don't have time to do). It bothers me when I'll be running around cleaning all day, looking after kids, cooking, washing, taking the kids to the park and he won't even offer any help. To all the lazy men out there: Just because you have a full time job (if you do work) doesn't mean your wife has to do everything. Get off your backsides and help out!

Dump 'em ladies. you can do without. don't let them treat you like crap. at the end of the day it would be a lot easier and there would be less mess in the house.

i have been married for one year but have been with my partner for almost 11 years. My husband has always told me that the house work is a wife's, job as the man brings home the money even though i worked too. I currently finished work as i just recently gave birth to our third child. however before i left work i was working 5 days a week doing split shifts. i would get up at 6 a.m. and get the kids ready for school and tidy up before i left, drop the kids off at school, go to work, finish just in time to pick them up from school, come home, cook tea, leave for work again and by the time i got home from work it was after 11 p.m. i'd then clean the house, put the washing on and crawl into bed around 1 a.m. my only days off were mon and tues but on those days i never got to relax as i had to still take the kids to school, pay bills, buy food etc., but when i asked my husband to help around the house he would just say it that i was being a b**ch because of my hormones from being pregnant and that i shouldn't whinge so much as he gets up at 4 a.m. yeah but he finishes at 3, comes home, goes to the gym and then sits there playing the ps3. My mother always told me to never marry a man that lived at home with his mother be cause he'll always treat you like his mother and she was right.

I too have an unhelpful hubby. He was recently off work for three months and barely did a thing. there is lots of house fixing to do but he did nothing. he will barely take out the trash, occasionally do the dishes and mow the lawn periodically but no other yard work so our yard looks like a jungle. he is now working about 35 hours a week and has two days off in the week during which he seems to achieve very little. I work 40-plus hours and have a half day off on Friday and the weekend. I spend my "time off" (lol) doing cleaning, groceries, cooking (for the week), bills, fixing up the house, caring for 2 dogs and a parrot, my car and anything else that needs to be done. He spends lots of time on the computer on chat and gaming. we have had no sex in 6-plus months. I gave up trying to entice him as you can only take so much rejection. I feel like all I do is nag and moan at him. he has recently started going to a support group for the co-dependent and now will preach at every given moment but is still not efficient at helping around the house. everything he does I have to list, encourage, remind, nag and coerce him to do and then crap a rainbow if he does it. I am very tired. I want a life and a baby but I don't think I can handle life with this man anymore. there are many other men available out there and I am sure some are much more helpful. I do know a few men who are go getters instead of go get me's lol. what do you think? is it time for a change? I don't think I can fix this one.

I work 40-plus hrs per week. I have always worked since I was 12. God gave me this great job in which I have moved through the ranks to become a leader in our organization. I had to encourage my husband to look for a higher paying job after working minimum wage for many years. He started working at a mill in town. He works four days a week and is off three. He goes to work with much complaint. He never helps me around the house. Our house is falling in and he never lifts a hand. I asked for help because I am a sick person. He makes the kids help but he never helps. They all like to trash the house. He doesn't buy the groceries or pay any bills, but likes to work out at the gym. He is constantly buying crap and bringing it home for his collections. I am Ms. Thrifty buying all mine and the kids clothes at thrift stores and flea markets, but he has to have the best. He will pay $20-$30 for clothing that I would pay $2-$4 for. His closet is taking over. He has stuff in there from 20 years ago when we got married. I separated our banking about five years ago because checks were bouncing but I still continue to pay all the bills. He is still overdrafting. I don't know what to do. I'm at the point to where it sickens me to look at him. I stopped cleaning a few years ago because I thought that he would start helping out. He is oblivious to the clutter. He makes the kids clean but he never lifts a hand. He is off two days a week during the week, but he doesn't do anything. When I take time off he wants me to take it on his days off so he can play around. I hate to say it but I don't know how much more I can take. My body is starting to shut down. I had a problem with my vision and the doctors tell me that I might develop ms is the next five years. I know that this is brought on by my the stress of living with him. The real problem is that Im a born again Christian and I have made vows to this man. What can I do?

My husband does absolutely nothing. I wish I could give consequences like no sex but I'm young and need sex like every day so that’s not an option lol. I really just don’t know what to do. we’ve only been together for like six months and I'm already stressed out all day, and because I'm a stay at home mother I'm obviously expected to do everything, but my child is a very high demand little boy so I have no time to do anything. Err. I wish he just wasn’t so stubborn and would realize that I need help.

I have been only married for one year, but already I absolutely hate it. I feel like I am a maid and not a wife. My husband does not lift a finger in the house whatsoever. The dishes can be piled up sky high, he still would walk past it or would take paper plates, since they don't need cleaning. I am so sick and tired of it! He *quit* his job five months ago! And only does odd jobs here and there. We have a baby on the way and I have a son. I do everything, but I refuse to mow the yard. So that is all he does and he thinks it makes up for whatever else he doesn't do! When he doesn't work he just hangs out with his friends in his shop and plays drums or fiddles around with projects that don't ever get done. Everything he starts - he *never* finishes it. Our front and back porch are both not finished, the wood is just laying around now and wasting away. And who has to pay for everything? Me of course. Before we got married I paid off all of his bills (yeah I must be out of my mind), so he has no car payments, no cell phone bill, *nothing*. He is 23 I am 31. Now that I look at all this, age does matter. The age difference is too big, and I find myself acting more like his mom and getting upset and mad at him and that obviously is slowly killing the relationship we once had. I am really at my wits' end. And I don't know if I can put up with this much longer, especially when the baby is here. There will be even less time to get things done. Then again, I give everyone the benefit of a doubt. I don't want to end the marriage, just yet. Maybe he needs time to adjust? I mean he had absolutely no responsibilities until we got together, so I guess I will give it some more time, but it is hard as heck, that's for sure.

I know exactly what you all mean. I've been married to my husband for 15 years and have argued for 15 years about him helping out. I work full time and come home to have to clean and do everything. I do everything from the yardwork to house cleaning. He can't even take out the trash. I have to wash my car myself. All he does is work full-time and play xbox all day. He has it made. I'm fed up with him. I've told him how it makes me feel. I just feel so mad every time I think about it. I don't even want him to touch me anymore. I feel like he expects sex just like my wifely duties as cleaning and cooking but can't even lift a finger to help me with anything. What do I do? I love him but I just can't do this anymore.

This article is laughable at best. mine was working full time until the economy went bad and they cut his hours. he is now off every weekend and every third week he is off for the entire week. i work a full time job and because i must "earn my keep" (his exact words) since i make less money an hour than he does, i was required to do all the house cleaning as well. when he gets home from work, he plops down on the couch, turns the TV on and does not budge until it is bedtime. i had no problem with him sitting down for a little while after work, but the whole night when there is a bunch of other work that needs done? the thing that really peeved me about him though was the off week. he wakes up, plops himself down on the couch, turns on the TV and does not budge for anything other than to go to the bathroom or get a snack. this is until i started vacuuming the floor. one of two things would happen - he would either yell at me for interrupting his TV time or he would leave the house and go out for a ride on his motorcycle. if i was not done when he got back, he would go into the kitchen and prop himself up against the sink and stand there with his arms crossed. if i came into the room to change the trash bags he would just stand there like a statue and not even replace the bag to help just a little.

also, even though he made more than me i still had to buy all my own groceries and all the cleaning supplies for the house and whatever else was needed including the toilet paper and paper towels and other stuff that he used just as much as i did.

i had stopped cooking for him, washing his clothes, and even stopped having sex with him as well. i had asked him as well as argued with him about this till i was blue in the face and he *still* refused to help. this went on for four years until i got tired of being treated like an unpaid house servant that nobody cared about. i then ended up having an affair with a guy just because he made me feel like i mattered and that i was somebody.

my husband found out about the affair and kicked me out of the house and filed for divorce. to this day he calls me an ungrateful b**** who did not appreciate anything he ever did for me.

he actually had the nerve to try to get me to come back to him later because he said having to hire a housekeeper had cut too deeply into his fun money stash.

I work full time 4 days a week, my husband does not work long hours and often leaves after me and gets home before me, all he does is play on his computer war games. He looks after the kids when he knows I am not available to do it but don't I get to know about it! When he does do something, like put the dishwasher on (every 6 months), he expects praise, then moans because I never notice. Well he *never* seems to praise me for any house work I do and I do it all the time.

Then he suggests that I should work 5 days a week so we can have more money. Good, I can also cram all the house work in to 2 days instead of 3.

This made me laugh! What do you do when your husband sits around downstairs all day smoking and playing x-box while you do all the cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, housework, child rearing and you work a full-time job! I mean he works too, but that is it. He figures that is good enough! What do you do then?

Consider the extra money he brings home? HA! My husband does work that can't happen when the weather is bad. All winter long I'm depressed and he has 2-3 days off a week *on top* of the weekends. Yet somehow he still thinks the dishes and laundry magically appear clean and tells me to "take a pill" when I get frustrated. Good luck ladies, you either have one that helps you or you don't.