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How Can a Child Become Emancipated from Her Parents?

Very young children may not seek emancipation from their parents.
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For any number of teenagers living under strict parental guidelines, the idea of emancipation must seem like the ultimate get-out-of-jail free card. The harsh reality concerning legal emancipation is that many may feel called, but relatively few are chosen. In the United States, a child under the age of 18 can generally be considered emancipated, no longer under parental control, for three main reasons: legal marriage, demonstrated financial independence, or military service. Short of that, most teenagers can only claim disgruntlement.

Of the three main options for legal emancipation, the least problematic for both parents and child is demonstrable financial independence. This is the sort of legal emancipation enjoyed by child actors, singers, models and other professional performers. Under many child labor laws, these talented children must allow an adult to handle their financial affairs until they reach adulthood. Unfortunately, some parents have been known to take advantage of their child's good fortune and spend the income on themselves. By seeking legal emancipation, a working child can be considered an adult when it comes to matters of contracts and financial dealings.

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If a child can arrange for his or her own suitable housing, food, clothing and other essential needs, the parents can consider an emancipation agreement. This doesn't have to be a formal legal procedure, but a family court judge may want to examine the child's living arrangements and financial records if a legal dispute should arise. The child may also seek a formal court order establishing his or her legal status as an emancipated minor. This does not mean, however, that an unhappy 15-year-old girl can secure a job at a fast food restaurant for minimum wage and declare herself emancipated. The key to this type of emancipation is true financial independence, with a real need to enter into contracts before the age of majority.

Another route to emancipation for a child is marriage. Laws concerning the minimal age of consent vary from state to state, but it is possible for a young teen to marry with parental consent. Once a legal marriage has been registered, legal emancipation of a minor soon follows. This form of emancipation has been available for decades, but the number of child-brides has been declining in recent years. The practice was much more common when society in general encouraged young girls to marry as soon as possible.

Early marriage as a form of emancipation may satisfy the legal requirements, but it can be a very risky maneuver both emotionally and socially. Using marital vows to escape an unhappy home life is not necessarily a cure, since the minor must assume many adult responsibilities. Parents may no longer feel any financial responsibility towards an emancipated teenager, and employment prospects may be severely limited without a high school diploma, General Educational Development (GED) diploma or college degree. Emancipation through marriage may seem like an appealing option, but it does not automatically grant a minor all the rights of an adult.

One other form of emancipation involves military service. Although the individual branches of the military set their own minimal age requirements and screen recruits very carefully, occasionally an underaged applicant slips through the net. This was a much more common occurrence during World Wars I and II, when some teenaged boys could volunteer for service without much scrutiny. If a minor enlists in a recognized military program and somehow manages to be lawfully inducted, he or she could be considered legally emancipated.

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anon138795
Post 215

Ok. I'm not sure if any one will reply to me but if you're supposedly helping children, why are only certain people getting replies on their stories?

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anon138026
Post 214

I'm 17 i am restricted from seeing my gf and i need to see her. i don't want the cops to be called or her parents be arrested. i just want to see her but how can parents control who you hang out with? it makes no sense.

anon137711
Post 213

I'm a sixteen year old female and I will be seventeen in five months. My mother is at work from the time I go to school in the morning until five at night.

My dad is very much bipolar, and constantly screaming, calling me names, and telling me awful things like "you are the worst thing that's ever happened to me". He also says awful things about my mom also.

Every day is the same. I love both of my parents but I don't know how much longer I can take all the stress. I can never go anywhere and I feel like a slave in my own home. I have to clean everyone's mess in this house and no one helps. It's starting to affect my school work and it has always toyed with my emotions.

I have also been dating my boyfriend for almost two years now and I've read that I can legally be emancipated through marriage. How would I go about my situation?

anon133912
Post 212

i am 17 and my father is a drunk and my mother is never around. i have no one there for me and its hard to deal with my father when he makes me cry every day. he's constantly yelling at me and demanding me to do stuff. i go to school and i don't have a job. what can i do?

anon130250
Post 211

I'm 16, live with my mom and her boyfriend. they are both alcoholics and her boyfriend smokes weed. my mom is going to be 40 years old and her boyfriend just turned 29. i have had a job since i was 14 years old. i have moved over a handful of times because my mom was in jail for two DUI's and now i finally live with her again. i cannot stand her.

my brothers are both potheads, but me - all i do is work, go to school, and hang out with my boyfriend if i have any time at all. she hates me, and pretends she cares about me but she really doesn't. i just want to be on my own. I'm done moving around and I'm done living with a whole bunch of idiots. help?

anon128709
Post 210

I am a 14 year old male and looking to get emancipated. my mother's fiance who is 42 years old will take my mom's credit card and her pay checks and buy car parts. Also I have a step-brother who is 18 and is always babied and treated like the king of the house. Also i have a 5 year old sister who is my mom and fiance's daughter who is treated like the queen and bought whatever she wants.

Also my mom's fiance will hit me with belts, has smashed my cell phone that i had to buy with my own money and work for money to pay the bill and all my mom does is stand back and let him hit me. I used to be open and talkative to my mother but now, I never see her. I'm always outside working or in my room. Ever since she has been with him she is always depressed and drinking or doing drugs behind his back and it has been six years i have lived with him and that will be six years of a childhood i never got.

I have lived in a small town in Nevada for eight years and all there is to do is drugs or skate and watch people do drugs. I do have a grandma in las vegas who knows all about my mother's fiance's cruelty and abusive behavior and she is trying to find somehow to get a lawyer and adopt me, which is not working out.

Whenever he will get drunk and start hitting me all my mom says is its because of the "war" when he was in the navy and only sailed, but never fought.

But all I'm asking if there is any way i could get emancipated. please tell me! please.

Louise110
Post 209

I am 17 years old, going to college, basically living on my own, and my dad still holds stuff over my head. I have enough money to pay for a car and insurance, but he says i can't because can.

My Dad lives in Puerto Rico and I am going to college in New York, Broome Community College to be exact. I want to be able to take out a student loan for my college years because he holds it over my head. I can easily make payments when/if i have to be he won't give me a chance. he is verbally abusive and says that I ruin everything.

Recently i have been going over and spending the night at my boyfriend's house, with his mom and siblings and him.

I would love to move in with them but if i do i know my dad will pull the plug on my college tuition, knowing that i can't do anything about it because i am 17 years old.

Is there a way i can become and independent under these conditions so that i can finally get out from under my dad?

I know i can do things on my own, i just need some kind of help.

anon126688
Post 208

I am 13, i will be 14 in six months. I have been sexually abused by many people when I was younger. My mom left my dad when I was a baby. He doesn't even know me. Every time he comes he always runs and hugs my sister Marisol.

My mom now has a new boyfriend and he started to sexually abuse me when I was four.He also physically abuses me, and he also doesn't help my mom; he just uses her money. When we moved in with him my mom got pregnant, and had a son named Alex.

The reason I want to get emancipated is because every time i tell my mom i love her, she tells me she doesn't love me. She also tells me that i shouldn't have been born, and that when I was a baby she was going to throw me into a trashcan and leave me there.

But with my older sister and little brother it is different. she always listens to what they have to say. But when i say something she doesn't pay attention. I just feel like I'm not wanted -- like i just don't belong. But back then i really didn't pay much attention to them. Now i just can't take it anymore and i don't want to be here.

A few weeks ago i started to go to my cousin's veronica house. i found that i liked being over there. i felt safe happy. But then when i started to go over there frequently. My mom started getting mad and starting going over there and bringing me back. That is when i started getting mad. She has never been in my life so why now when i finally started being happy?

And i am so tired of having to carry around a pocketknife in my pocket around the house because of my step dad. When i tell my mom that i don't want to be with her, she uses the excuse that I'm a minor and that i have to live with her.

i cook for myself, and wash my sister's clothes and mine, and my sister is 17. I act more responsible than my holder sister. i just don't want to be here anymore. i just want to live with my cousin veronica. She is 20. Can she adopt me? That is what i want to know.

anon125453
Post 207

my name is sean, and this august i will be 16 years old. for the last three years i have been living in leghorn, italy. i am originally from long island, new york.

my mom met my "step-father" online and moved here as quick as she could, (she didn't and still can't speak italian, and he doesn't speak english.)

Because of this, i was forced to leave school and wasn't able to go for an entire year. during the the first year being out of school, i was at home all day. i couldn't go outside or meet anyone because i didn't speak or understand italian. (I'm native american/irish american.)

We had no phone no internet, i wasn't able to contact or write anyone. The beginning of the second year in italy, i finally was able to go to school. not the american school in florence which i should have gone to, but a regular italian school with no program or any type of help for children who do not speak english, unlike the american (or any school district in the world) school districts in which we have teachers who teach the exchange students how to communicate and speak the english language.

in italy, the school that i had to go to was old (100 years old) with lead paint chipping off the wall to the point you can see the cement wall which was brown (the wall paint was white), the bathroom had no soap and had a pull string, the stalls were covered in black garbage bags because they were broken, and haven't been fixed for the last seven years.

Now when i got to the school, the first day i was yelled at by the teachers and called a stupid idiot, (mumbled under the teacher's breath) like a proud american i flicked her off and said go suck on an italian ice and left the class. i was forced to continue going to the school for two more years, until i passed onto high school.

now during the first two years i fought back in a fist fight with my "step dad." i was hit by belts, sticks, a chair and had a knife to my neck by my mother, and now i have to go to school in an all italian school here, instead of the florence school which was made for traveling american/english families who moved to italy.

Now, for the last three years, since i came to italy i grew over a foot. I'm still wearing my old clothing, and every day i stretch my clothing an inch because my "stepdad" who robbed my mom of the $24k she had in her savings and makes exactly $12k less than she made a year in the united states, now controls all the money.

Instead of buying clothing for me, my mother and my new sister who is two years old, he bought four laptops, eight phones, 30 high mark watches, and thousands of dollars worth of junk.

we aren't able to buy food which we like to eat, because he buys only cheese, (stupid mouse) for the past three years.

I've had to wear shoes two sizes too small, because i am not able to buy school supplies or shoes when i need to, as opposed to when i was with my single parent mom, we went to get clothing for every season, and shoes, and we never had to wait days to get groceries.

Right now i am 15 and I'm waiting for a chance to get back to america as soon as possible, continue with high school if possible, live with my aunt and hopefully after, if I'm able, join the united states marines or army.

i hate being here, i hate having to have a knife in my pocket at all times while at my own home, in my own room. now i may not be a scholar student, I'll admit that i am a slacker, but no body should have to go through this crap.

i regret not taking advantage of all the materials and after school activities i had in the states. before, i only did robotics and sport after school activities, and i regret taking advantage of having a winter coat in the winter, unlike now where i wear his old jackets that i have to sneak into my room and hide to use, or when i can't, i have to wear four shirts and a sweat shirt. all of my shirts of which have giant spots or holes.

In my personal opinion, I'd rather be homeless or dead, than spend another three years here until I'm 18.

Before, when i was seven, i was asked by my great aunt (who was 79 at the time) to sign the same exact papers that I'd die for now, and she told me that it would be better for everyone if i did. and i should have.

I'm tired of making the wrong choices and I'm ready to take care of myself. hell I've been making my own food, buying my own food, clothes, school supplies (with money i made for christmas and other holidays) ironing/washing my own clothes, and taking myself to and from school since i was 8.

Even though there is a high chance of failure, I'd rather take those chances and die homeless than living in this part of europe.

anon124649
Post 206

ok. So here's what i want to say to everyone on this page. If you are under the age of 16 and you want to 'divorce' your parents, your are not legally, in any state, allowed to emancipate under 16. With emancipation your parents have to be willing to sign papers, granted that you are able to support yourself comfortably and prove it.

Whereas with divorce you must have someone to sign as your guardian and take you into their home. You file divorce so you then go to court and your parents usually get subpoenaed. Both parties present their case. Which ever one is more logical wins. And to you little ones who just want to get emancipated just because you clean too much, please stop nagging because there's no reason to. You have it better than most.

And for those of you who can actually take care of yourselves and have a job and a place to live and are 16, file for emancipation if you think they will sign the papers and get yourself out. If they won't file divorce because you're now of age to live on your own if accepted.

And to all of you who are abused and can provide for yourselves and are above 16, take this to any judge and tell then your situation. They will grant you to be an independent minor.

And to all of you that abused under 16 and can't provide, tell your school. Talk to a counselor, a principal, a teacher. Tell them your story. They will help. Tell them how your feel, and how scared you are. Tell your school before calling the police because, as you can see, police don't really do anything.

And if you have a relative who will take you please, please tell them to have a custody battle due to unfit living conditions. Also please let the proper authorities know that you would either like to be placed in foster or with the person who is fighting for you because things can get pretty nasty.

I know how all of you feel. Have had abuse in every way known to man. I have been neglected, kicked out on the streets, had alcoholic druggie parents. Messed up horribly in school. Guess what though? I am now 17, graduated, work full time in hospice, run my own baby accessory business online, am engaged, live on my own, pay all my bills, and have a beautiful 4 month old daughter. I have worked since i was 11 years old and taken complete care of myself and my family. My mom was never around and father wanted nothing to do with us kids, so he was just the sperm donor basically. We were girls so he didn't like us and left when we were babies.

I have four other siblings and we all had good through this, sum had harsher than others because we were all shifted around place to place. But now i am happy because i set my mind to it. So you want something do all the research and do it. Good luck to all of you and i hope all works out! God bless.

stevie1355
Post 205

i am 16 as of august, and i have been living on my own and staying the night at multiple friends houses for about four weeks now. I left because my mom was constantly verbally abusing me and physically abusive from time to time.

The worst occasions of physical abuse were when i was i was 12 my mom slammed my head into a wall twice outside church because i felt sick and wanted to throw up in the bathroom. A few months ago, i was dating a boy my age for over a year and my mom didn't like him or his family and she was always yelling at me for it, and when i argued back i got so mad i threw a roll of toilet paper at her head and laughed about it to try and make myself calm down so she came over and hit me in the face and my nose bled. I had to walk throughout town at 1 a.m. looking for a place to clean up and the cops pulled me over, took pictures and a report but still took me back home to my mom. Another time was when i was too lazy to brush my teeth, she forced me to brush my teeth by shoving the toothbrush down my throat and gave me another bloody nose.

I tried living with my dad after i finally met him from since i was a baby, and i was able to live with him for a month because my mom didn't want me at home anymore.

He is an alcoholic, smokes weed, takes morphine, he's a crack addict and does many other drugs. i found his crack pipe in his cupboard and his (approximately 40 year old) friend came over and asked me if i knew where he could get some crack and i told him i don't affiliate with any drugs so he said okay then asked me how old i was and he was checking me out. He told me how hot i was and he was following me to my friend's house and i was scared so i told him i was 12 (i was really 15). He told me too bad, and continued to follow me and wouldn't leave me alone till i threatened to call the police.

then he just begged for me to not tell my dad, but i told my dad, and he didn't do anything about it, except for bring me around his other crackhead friends. When he would take morphine he would be totally out of it, like he is completely screwed up like his brain was just mush. i needed to get him to give me rides to the bus daily so i can go to school because my school was two hours away, and i had to walk to my boyfriend's house and ask his mom to give me a ride.

He hit me multiple times because he got frustrated with me, and yelled at me to leave and never return, but blocked the door and shoved me into his couch and kept shoving my head down when i tried to get back up but my neck started hurting really bad so i just sat there and still he continued to do it, so i called my mom and begged her to get me but instead she made me live in oregon for a month and the whole two months my mom didn't feel like much of a mother at all.

After the two months, i came back home to live with my mom and it was going good for a while, but then she lost her job again and was taking all her stress out on me. She never tells me she loves me. The only reason why she ever talked to me was just to complain about how her bad job was and to tell me all her problems. Any other time she was yelling at me. And i just couldn't handle all the stress and bull she puts me through. All her bad personality issues rub off onto me, and i really don't want to be like that.

Since i haven't been living with my mom, i have had a lot less stress, and i have been so much happier. I get a lot more accomplished.

So i would like to know if i can get emancipated, and how do i get that done? It seems like that is the only thing i can do. i am already living on my own, but i really need help the rest of the way!

anon123459
Post 203

I am 13 almost 14. My parents are alcoholics and have made my life a living hell. My sister pretty much raised me and she moved out about a month ago. My mother has a history of domestic violence and I am truly terrified of her. I have been verbally abused and almost physically. I am done with their crap. I wanted to know if there is any legal solution to get me out of this house.

anon118011
Post 202

i am a 15 year old child who wants to be emancipated from her mother because she has abused me. she has whipped me with a belt and i have bruises. she tells me she is sorry but i just can't take this anymore.

i want to know what i have to do and when and were and how old i have to be. i can't be in this relationship anymore. she controls me. i want to live with my birth parents. i think she has become this way since my father died. can this be done?

kailey21
Post 201

I'm fifteen years old. i have an older sister and she is about to turn 18 and move out. my parents divorced when i was five and i have lived with my mom full time for about a year now because my dad moved two hours away. my mom is an alcoholic, she abuses me verbally, and treats me very unfair. if i can't get emancipated I'm going to end up doing whatever it takes to no longer live with her.

She threatens to send me to boot camp, or foster care parents all the time and i don't doubt she will because she did those things to my sister. i don't do drugs, and i attend school regularly. my boyfriend and i have been dating for seven months now and she is yet to like him. he has a full time job and has already graduated high school.

is this good enough to get emancipated? how long will it take? can she use the fact that I'm not 16 yet and my boyfriend is 18?

anon117681
Post 200

I've been in an abusive home since I was a baby. It's not just verbal, it's physical. It gets so bad that the cops have been called but they have done nothing.

It's gotten so bad where they have sent me to the ER. What should I do I know that I am old enough to get emancipated but how long will it take?

anon116362
Post 199

I'm 15 and live in Canada.

My mother has left me with my dad and has taken my brothers with her. My father works in the oil mines up north and is always working. He gets maybe four days off in a month. So basically, I'm the one who makes dinner for myself and cleans the house and takes care of everything.

He is always accusing me of using drugs such as cocaine, ecstasy and smoking marijuana and drinking alcohol. I have never touched that in my life. He is also very abusive and hurts me quite a bit. He is always yelling at me for school. i tried moving in with my mom but she won't take me in and the closest family I have is 10 hours away.

I am currently looking for a job to see if I can finicially take care of myself, and if i can then I was thinking about emancipation. I was wondering if the canadian court would do it?

anon113739
Post 198

I'm 14 years old and my mom left me in the middle of the night with my uncle, and i want to be responsible for myself. my father passed away when i was 8 years old. i feel as if i have no reason to live and i want to get emancipated!

anon112950
Post 197

I'm 17 and my mother has passed away and my sister is 15. She will 16 in December and she doesn't want to live with her father's ex-wife but my aunt made her stay with her stepmother. What can she do right now?

anon111271
Post 196

I am 15 going to be 16 in march, and i have had many problems with my family ever since i was born. My dad has been abusive in the past, but now its just verbal. Everything i do in my house my parents don't appreciate it. at one point my father was removed from the home. but my dad and i are kind of close now.

i love my dad, but i do not like my mom at all. my brother and i often get into fist fights and we hurt each other pretty bad. My mom has sent me to inpatient, and many other places that i didn't want to go. we have never gotten along. we fight so much. its an everyday on going process. so when i turn 16, do you think the court would emancipate me?

Jamie1025
Post 195

I am 14, turning 15 next month. I know my problem is probably not as bad as so many of you because, i have a bed to sleep in and a home that i can kind of say is mine, i guess.

Since I was young, around the age of eight, I've been emotionally abused and many times physically abused. My parents do not drink so this is not a valid reason for them to abuse me.

My grandfather (my father's father) often, when my dad or mom yells at me, which is every single day. I've never had a conversation with my parents without a fight happening. Somehow, i was never able to fit in.

My grandfather tends to say some bad stuff about me when my dad is yelling and most of the time, i end up in more trouble.

Because of my natural curiosity and imaginary, i was always scoring high points for humanities as i can think what i want and there is no fixed answer, except for history because of the dates and stuff.

But my dad never listened to what i wanted. he wanted me to be what he wanted me to be, because i was his daughter, and he expected me to be like him. And often he said "How could two such smart parents give birth to such stupid children?" They also called me many names that human beings should not be called.

Because i am curious and imaginative, i can't do well in maths. i know you might think it's an excuse but I've never done well in maths, no matter how hard i tried. for science i was okay, but my dad seemed to think that i was spending way too much time doing my homework instead of studying.

I've always been blamed for everything while my brother can always get off scot-free. i know in the chinese culture, boys are loved more because they are boys, but it's just too much at times.

my entire family except for my grandmother and a couple of cousins favor my brother.

Once, out of curiosity, i asked my parents why they gave birth to me. She might have been joking but these words still hurt me until now. She said, "I needed a slave to clean my house and do the housework right? Can't spend the rest of my days slaving away."

My parents are always controlling me: how i eat, how i behave, even how i sleep, talk, everything. It's like i am their own little robot they can control but i can't say no because my dad is very very violent, so am i at times, but I've kept it under control for so many times that i wished i could just tell my dad how i really feel.

I feel like running away at times, and even feel suicidal. My anger has got a limit and i don't want to lash it out and say something I might regret.

Please help?

anon111095
Post 192

i am 15 and i live in Kansas. My Mom is never there for me and my Dad isn't either. They are divorced and have been for about six years now. Recently my boyfriend went to jail for about five months because my Dad doesn't like the fact that he is five years older than me and that he cares for me more that my dad does.

Well, my home life is horrible and my dad drinks constantly, yells and cusses and verbally abuses me and my 17 year old sister all the time!

We both want away from both of them and don't want anything to do with them.

Recently, my boyfriend got out of jail and is living with relatives out of town and we can't make contact for the meantime until I'm 18. the reason why i want to get emancipated so badly is because i hate my father and want to be with my man. he loves me and cares for me and we practically have lived together before because i was always over at his place.

i will get a job soon and i already have 20 grand in the bank so we are not poor. We are thinking about buying my moms old house in town and if not, we are more than welcome to move in with multiple friends and family members of both of ours and we know for a fact that two will for sure take us in.

we have vehicles we can drive and we have everything planned out. we just don't want to wait until I'm 16 to get emancipated because my home life is not great by any means.

I just want to know if there is any way that i can possibly get emancipated before I'm 16? i can provide for myself way better than anyone else can, and can't stand being with my family anymore! Help!

anon110850
Post 191

I'm 17 and I can't stand my house anymore. There is no room for me at my dad's and my mom is an alcoholic. Can I get emancipated without parental consent?

CMan96
Post 190

Listen to this: my mother is on the verge of emancipating my 13 year old sister just because she had something to do with my mom being pissed off at my father.

It goes like this. My mom talks to me about how I did at this convention, then, she begins talking to me about how my father and my sister have been getting on her nerves, but, she said she was going to emancipate my sister because she thinks that my dad sent her a message through my sister, and when she finds it out, she will literally emancipate my sister because of that. *Please Reply to this message.*

anon108053
Post 189

i am 13 going on 14 in March. My mom is an alcoholic, and my dad drinks, but not as much. My dad is never home, and my mom yells at me all day long. she hits me and leaves scars and bruises and she also does the same to my brothers. Me and my brothers talked about getting emancipated but they are old enough to get emancipated. Is there any way i can get Emancipated before the age of 16? Please help.

anon106976
Post 188

I'm 23 and I've been on my own for the past two years. My mom lives in another state and is not taking care of me financially. I'm not married, and i don't have any kids.

However, i was denied financial aid because of my mother's financial records. We live in two different states and i have all of my bills in my name. How do i become emancipated so that i will be able to go to school based on my financial records and get some type of financial help.

anon106888
Post 187

My girlfriend is in a really bad situation. her mother has an abusive nature and she is afraid the abuse will start again. My girl is 15 and caring for a two and five year old, one of whom calls her mom.

There is no way her mom would let her move out and she is scared for her safety and for the kids. she is looking to get away from the home. my family and i would be more than willing to take her and the kids in, but her mom would never sign the papers.

is there a way around this? we are also looking at underage adoption because the kids' mothers are very unfit. any help? we are more than desperate.

anon106131
Post 186

I'm 20 and I'm married now! Still my parents can support me. Is it ok?

anon105850
Post 185

I want to get that because I'm 16 and i have a son who is five months old. I have a boyfriend and we live together but we live with my mom. When i was pregnant, she kicked us out but she took us back before i gave birth and now she's kicking us out and i don't know what to do.

anon105310
Post 184

I am 16 and I live in a foreign country. I am emancipated. Can I enroll in the school in california without a legal guardian because I am emancipated in my home country? My father agreed that I can go to california because we have a close friends living there and they offered me a home. Also they would be my legal guardians if the whole process weren't so complicated.

I already have the F-1 Visa. I paid the tuition for the school. My question is, my brazilian emancipation valid under California laws for me to be able to enroll in the high school. Thank you so much. --J.

anon105299
Post 183

I am 16 years old. my mother recently got married to my father, who had been out of my life for 14 years and was incarcerated and recently released.

They are now living together and he is controlling and somewhat abusive. he has choked me and told me that i am his property. my mother stands by and watches this. he also controls her and tells her what to do and she does it.

i will be working soon and also have the support of many family members so i have the income to live alone and still sustain a common-wealth lifestyle. can i become legally emancipated?

anon104949
Post 182

i am 14 years old, and i'll be 16 next december. i hate living with my mother. she can be very disrespectful if i don't do what she asks!

last year she got married to an old friend from high school and she didn't let any of the family members know. she moved away, leaving me responsible for three children. we got into a physical fight and it hasn't been the same since!

This year I'm entering the ninth grade and i did not want to move but i had to. i want to go back home but the only way i can do that is if i get emancipated. i read an article about it but it said i had to be living separate and apart from her but i know she won't let me move out.

If i ask to get emancipated she will say no, so what do i do? Please help! --anon321

anon103342
Post 181

My best friend is in a bad home. She has been staying with me for the last four weeks and she had to go home. I think something bad will happen if she stays there.

But she dose not know what to do and she dose not want to move out because she knows if she does she will have to go to DHS or her older sister's home. And it is not a good place for her to go.

What is something I can help her do to get out of there? She is 17 and I'm 16. Is there anything I can do to help?

anon103341
Post 180

I know I don't have it bad as half of these people but the way i am living is horrible. my mom did drugs while pregnant with me and i was born with crack in my system.

she took me and my brother with her while she went to have sex with a man a lot of times and mostly because of her past and her doing drugs and she still is and got me and my brothers and my dead sister lisa's son jamarion with her while living nasty. i hate to say it, but if my mom was to die i wouldn't care.

well i don't want to live with her and my brothers. i want to be with my dad. someone help me. i need help.

anon103294
Post 179

I'm 17 and my dad and i haven't been getting along for the last year or so. He treats me like dirt and treats my little sister like a princess. My mom died when i was younger so i have no other option but to stay there. He doesn't do anything for me anymore and i have had enough. I feel he is holding me back from doing anything in life. Can i emancipate myself from my dad so i can try and move forward in life?

anon103284
Post 178

I am a 13 year old girl and i need help. My dad was on drugs for about nine years and he quit for a while and a couple of weeks ago he started again.

where i live is a total disaster. we don't have a sink. we have to wash our dishes in our bath tub. my whole house is just nasty and neither of my parents will clean anything. They make me and my older sister do everything. i mean if we go off to a friend's house, the house is usually picked up before we leave, but when we come back it is destroyed and they tell us to pick it up.

i mean yeah, i believe in kids having chores, but i think that it is crazy that they make me and my older sister clean up their entire mess. We have holes in our walls, we have no air conditioner, our living room is concrete.

All of this stresses me out and i started cutting because of all of this. i am tired of living like this and i just want to get out of it.

My dad has not had a full job in over four years, and because of this we struggle. my mom delivers newspapers and doesn't bring in that much money, it only covers the bills and pays for gas for her to go to work.

I want to emancipate my parents and go live with my grandma, but i am not sure how all of this works so please someone help me out. Please!

anon102588
Post 177

i am 15 years old and i moved out of my mom's house when i was 13. i was living with my best friend for a year and a half. i decided to move back in to see how things would go.

i have three younger sisters and a younger brother and two of my siblings are a few months apart. my life has been messed up for a long time.

when i was eight my mom moved in with this guy after she got pregnant and he began molesting me. he molested me for two years before my sister caught him and helped me. my mom didn't believe me when i told her. she said i was just making it up and he was just joking around. a couple of months later my sister got molested. you see, my mom drinks a lot and she used to have all these guys come over and drink with her and one night, one came in and molested my sister who is now 13. she was eight at the time.

a year later she met this guy and we moved. we moved around a lot. I've been to 13 different schools. she got pregnant and we moved again. while living there i was sleeping one nite and woke up to him next to me with his hand in my pants. i never mentioned it till recently and she said i was lying again. after she had the baby she got pregnant like six weeks later or so -- again.

While she was pregnant i met my best friend and started staying at her house a lot. when my mom wanted to move again i stayed with my friend. i lived with her for a year and a half and everything was fine. i decided to move back with her for the summer. everything went to crap. she doesn't let me see my best friend anymore. I'm always babysitting -- constantly.

she drinks every day and smokes weed. her boyfriend (the one who had his hand in my pants) does coke. recently he got into an argument with my mom about me and said some things that made me feel very uncomfortable.

i told my mom about the incident that had happened before and she didn't believe me. she said i was trying to get him in trouble. I'm about to start school again and i want to live back with my friend to stay in the same school, but she won't let me. Is there any way to get emancipated or transfer guardianship without my mom's consent?

anon102585
Post 176

I'm 17, and when my father was incarcerated in '03, i was 10, and i was with my mother and brother (a year younger). My mom lost her job, and we stayed with my grandmother. My mom and grandmother thought i was a slave, always screaming my name to do something, every day! and now, seven years later it is still going on and what makes it worse is that my mom tries to control me.

When i get vacation from school, she makes me stay home. I'm always doing chores, and have to do schoolwork, and if i ask for money or to do something, the answer most times is "No", and I'm tired! Too many years this been going on, and i feel I'm going to do something i will regret if they don't stop treating me like a little punk, because that is how i feel. I'm 17 years old, and being told no i can't hang out, but i can wash dishes, run back and forth to stores, clean bathrooms, and getting screamed at, on a daily basis, while my brother sits around, and does nothing, all the time! Could someone please give me advice, or let me hear a worse situation so i won't feel as bad, because I'll know someone has it worse.

anon101857
Post 175

I am 16 and my parents are selling my house, which we can no longer stay in because of legal disputes with my other relatives who live in the house with us. We will not have enough money to afford a house in our state, so my parents want to move to a different state, which is fairly far away.

I attend a specialized high school and am in a special program there, and my parents feel that it is a major opportunity for me. Because of this, they are going to let me stay in the state to finish high school, even though they will be moving away.

Since I cannot stay in my current house, if we do not find a relative nearby who will let me stay with them, we do not know where I am going to live. I am a junior in high school so I would only be living there for two years and then I would be going off to college. Since I am already a junior in my school, it would be a bad move for me to transfer schools now.

I do not have problem getting along with my parents. They love me and they want to let me stay in the state to finish school because we all agree this is what would be best for me, but they cannot stay even another year. I would not have a significant steady income, though I would make a small amount of money.

In order for me to legally be living in an apartment without a guardian, I believe I would need to be emancipated. However, my parents would want to pay my rent as well as provide me with money for essential things like food.

Would I be unable to be emancipated if my parents still provided for me financially? It would just be so that I can live apart from them to finish high school.

anon101706
Post 174

I may not have it as bad as half of these people, but i am 15 years old and I don't like this way I'm living. My parents have never owned a house. They're alcoholics.

I live in a two bedroom house with my mom, dad and little sister Faith and my one year old brother, Matthew. Every day i work my butt off cleaning. Every day i baby sit my little brother and sister. I absolutely hate it. I'm not their mom and i believe their mom should take responsibility for her children. Our whole family gets lice at least once or twice a year because of the way we live.

My parents treat me like crap. And yes i am fed and i have a bed to sleep in every night. But i have lived on my own for four months and i did just fine. I kept a good job and supported myself. I am not appreciated in this house and i am very tired of being my parents' maid I desperately need to get out of here. Someone please help me make my parents understand.

anon101255
Post 173

I'm 15 years old and i will be 16 at the end of this year. i want to emancipate myself from my mom, but i don't know what to do. My mom yells at me all the time and blames me for everything. We just don't get along very well. She is thinking of moving out of town and i don't want to go. I'm afraid that we will get into a fight and i won't have any place to go to because i will be too far from my family.

anon100162
Post 172

I am 17 years old. I have a job at the local Bi-Lo and i am doing great in school. My mom and dad got divorced when I was little and of course I have a step-dad now. He is very strict. My curfew is 9 and I can't stay at my friend's house even if adults are there.

I babysit a majority of the day and I clean the house, mostly by myself. I am tired of feeling used by my parents. I have a place to stay but they won't let me move in until i am 18 because my step dad is a cop.

I was kicked out once and was allowed to come back and then when i turned 17 i left because legally they couldn't keep me home. They made me come home and threatened emancipation and at that point in time i didn't have a job. Well now i do and i am really considering it.

I will be 18 in seven months. Is it really worth the hassle to get emancipated or should i just put up with it for the next seven months?

anon98070
Post 171

I am 13 years old and i will be 14 in seven months and i think that the best possible solution for me is to get emancipated. i am always the responsible one in the household -- more responsible than my mom or her boyfriend of 13 years has been beating her the whole time and me and my brother but not his own kids and she allows it.

We recently went through DCF and i have peace river and she still hits us even though her boyfriend is gone and treats us like trash and not her boyfriends kids. 90 percent of the mistakes she has made i would have known better since i was little and she forces problems on me because I'm the oldest and i have loaned her hundreds of dollars.

i have no money now but i am getting a job soon and there is family and close family friends willing to help me with my decision because they know my situation and my mom tells everyone it's fine and doesn't get help.

Our whole family is distant with her because of her issues but i keep a little contact. would the state of florida allow me to get emancipated if i can show responsibility and financial support?

anon96436
Post 170

i am 15 and i have been going out with my boyfriend for five years. we are only three years apart. i have been though a lot. my parents got divorced when i was only 7 years old. They got divorced because my mom cheated on my dad with my dad's brother's best friend and my dad was so upset that he started to hit her.

Since then, we moved away me and my two brothers and sisters (i am the oldest) i always took care of them because my mom was always at parties with her friends. i was the one who changed their diapers, bathed them and gave them food to eat. my boyfriend has helped me out a lot with them.

my boyfriend told me to move in with him and i was thinking of it. he also told me that i need my own life. i can't be a mom when they're not my children. my mom had a lot of boyfriends and when i saw all the different men coning in and out of my house i felt embarrassed.

On the first day my parents were not living together we never had a stable home of our own. I know my mom has a new boyfriend and she is pregnant and she does not treat me the same. i want to do my own life. i know i am only 15 but i am very mature for my age.

i think getting emancipated is a good choice for me so i can be responsible for myself and still go to school and be an immigration lawyer.

anon95742
Post 169

So I'm 16 going to be 17 in October. No dad -- he died three months after mom had me. Mom and me don't get alone at all, I have a sister and she's the golden child to my mom and I'm the screw up of the family. Like I want to move out and she tells me to leave and then she calls the cops on me. Like she knows I have places to go and I think that just ticks her off. Like I'm told all the time that I'm a slut, whore, druggie, and a lot of other stuff. Like is there a way I can be emancipated from her?

anon94889
Post 168

I am 14 years old and me and my mom do not mix well. I live with both my parents. my dad is ok but my mom blames me for everything, yells at me constantly, and threatens to beat me if i don't do something. And my best friend told me i could become emancipated as long as i have an education, a job, and a place to stay. and I'm dying to get away from my mother, whatever it takes.

lquimby
Post 167

I am a 15 year old girl whose parents recently broke up. My dad and his girlfriend are not capable of taking care of me because his girlfriend has had three of her kids taken away because of child abuse and is not allowed to be around other kids. I live with my mom, who purposely over doses her medication and threatens to kill herself because she can't handle me. My boyfriend / fiance has opened his home to me but my mother will not let me move out because she wants the money for me. Does this situation make me able to be emancipated?

anon94227
Post 165

I am 16, and I have major problems with my mom. Its non stop fighting with her. She is constantly yelling, hitting, and calling me names that a mother should not call her daughter.

She has called the cops on me on more then one occasion but all they do is get us to work through it and then send me back home with her, but it always comes back up and there is only so much abuse one person can let go of.

Is there any possible way i can get emancipated or at least have someone i can talk to about the rules and regulations?

anon93426
Post 164

I am 14 about to be 15 in 23 days. i live in louisiana. I'm pregnant and my mom wants me to have an abortion.

i don't believe in abortion and i raised me, my brother and my little sister.

I can be a good mom. i want to have my baby but i can't unless I'm emancipated.

The baby has a father. We have been together two years. he is 19,and if i become emancipated can i marry him?

anon93102
Post 163

I'm 13 years old and i would like to become emancipated and i live in new mexico. i live with my grandmother. my mother passed away when i was six and she was only 23. i hate my grandmother. she has taken me away from my nine year old sister who lives with her dad's grandparents. she is a huge drug addict. she does coke and pot. she drinks when I'm not around and sometimes she forgets to pick me up from school.

she is emotionally abusing me. she calls me emo and other names, she has thrown things at such as remotes and shoes. she is very unpredictable and i get very scared sometimes.

i have called the cops twice, and i got C.Y.F.D involved twice also. i need help very bad and i don't know where to turn. she has threatened to throw me in a mental institution.

please if anybody has any information, please let me know. and my heart goes out to all the other misunderstood children. you didn't deserve this. nobody does.

anon92309
Post 162

I am a 14 year old girl who has had enough. My mother unfortunately has the right to force me to go to church even though I am completely against the Mormon religion. I believe there is a god. That's all. I don't think I have to go to church to become a good person. How can I be "Religiously Emancipated" from my parent?

anon92057
Post 161

So i am 17 and was forced to babysit my cousin since i was eleven years old. Her parents got a divorce and my uncle never asked for my consent. So without my consent i have been baby-sitting his kid.

He asks my mom and i tell my mom no but they don't listen and force me to babysit my cousin. Now I've had enough and I said no but they still are planning to force me to babysit. The dad sees his kid as a burden and someone who is ruining his life. I don't like him. So can i be emancipated to make my own decisions on babysitting my cousin?

anon91670
Post 160

My parents are both addicts and i have two brothers both younger than I. I am 15 years old. i would love to get myself emancipated and get a job and get everything going for myself.

my parents are tying me down, and when i am old enough i wish to one day take my brothers out of this environment when i am stable enough to care for myself and them. i do well in school. I'm not stupid -- I'm just struggling finding a job right now. Does anybody know what i should do?

anon89591
Post 159

My name is Bella. I am 21 years old. I have been reading up on these posts for days. I was thinking about legally emancipating myself as well. Now I have read all your comments. Some of you truly are making me want to track you down and slap you. Others I want to take you into my home.

I have not been involved in my father's life for 17 years. He told my mom he had leukemia to cover up cheating on my mother. He lied, obviously. I met him at 17 and he was amazing --everything I was hoping to have. But as I got older the amazing wore off and he cut me out of his life, basically "crap" went down and took his wife in all of it. You know why? I am a female. I realize this is silly, but i really wanted him to understand that I want nothing to do with him.

My mom is amazing. I used to complain about all the stuff you guys are doing, the grounding, the rules etc., but when you do move out and on your own, you will understand. I'm sure you all are thinking "yah yah", but understand I am not much older than you.

I moved out for university when I was 17 and up until last year I still needed support through school. My mom had me at 19 and gave her life up for me. How many of your parents were young moms or dads? Think about what they give up for you. To the pregnant girls out there: I know you're scared, lost and feel pretty grown up, but you're babies having babies. If you want a safe, happy existence for your child, you need your family. I am telling you this because once this baby comes, things will be better. They will take one look at that child and be smitten (most parents).

I think they are angry and acting out, because they want more in life for you. Tell them you love them and how you feel. As a few people have said, give a hug. So you're not perfect, but you really need them on your side.

Another thing: having an abortion is not your answer, unless it was a rape or something. I believe you got pregnant, you take the responsibility. You're the only one who can decide what's best for your child, and no one else but you and the father can make that choice, no matter how much pressure they have. This is what a grown up does: makes hard decisions on their own.

For the 13 year old who is in "love" and wants to move out, you probably heard this a lot. I went that road, moved out and ran away with my 14 year old boyfriend. Do you think I am with him now? No. First loves are hard to get over, but you need to know yourself and love yourself before you can love someone else. You still have a lot of life, so enjoy this new feeling of love, because I believe that you truly believe you're in love, and there is not age limit on when you can have those feelings.

At 21, I still love my first high school boyfriend and know it was real, but not as real as it is with my fiance (who, by the way, was my second boyfriend, and I've been with since 15.) But moving out is not the answer. You will understand one day. I did.

The abused children: If your stories are true, get out of there! I have dealt with moms abusing boyfriends and I tell you it's not fun and it makes you miserable and I too, almost committed suicide on more then one occasion. But then I told my school counselor and my grandfather. Years later, she is happy and in a healthy marriage, because my actions got her out. Think about how scared you are. Imagine her, she has you to worry about as well. Tell someone! They will get you help!

I have my ECE as well as social work. I have worked for teen crisis centers and prenatal clinics. I once had a stranger give me her phone number to talk to and it was the best thing ever. Strangers are the best people to talk to (if they listen) because they don't know you or what you’re like, so you can be completely open. I hope this gives you guys something to think over and I apologize for the long entry. May someone be with you and don't be afraid to stand up for yourselves! Live your life to the fullest and make sure you do it for you! Always go with your instincts; they know you better then anyone (trust me). Sincerely, Bella

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anon89127
Post 158

I'm 16, my mom and dad were married for 30 years an then all of a sudden my mom cheats on my dad. Everything had escalated and my dad began to abuse my mother and sometimes even threatened me and tried to throw a bunch of things.

Then my dad was arrested but later got out and then my mom went to a women's shelter. ever since the start of the fighting, my dad has been in and out of the hospital. now my parents are getting a divorce, my dad is leaving for hawaii, and my mom won't come back.

She just doesn't want to, and my dad is not healthy enough.

my dad makes good money, but all I'm thinking of is college. and i don't qualify for any FAFSA or anything and i can certainly take care of myself.

but what would be the best option? i really don't know what to do.

my parents are mentally unable to take care of me, and since i am already very independent, i was wondering if i could qualify for being emancipated.

anon88811
Post 157

is emancipation the same as divorcing your parents?

i know that its similar as you are no longer under parental control, but i thought emancipation is only for 16+ and you can divorce your parents when you are younger.

please help. i have a debate on divorcing your parents and my group member told me that emancipation and divorcing parents is different and so i can't talk about emancipation. I'm so confused.

can anyone give me advantages for divorcing parents?

anon88018
Post 156

I'm 16 and I'll be 17 this month. i live with my dad but he doesn't want me here anymore so i want to move in with my grandma because me and my mom don't get along when i live with her. but my mom doesn't want me living there because she doesn't want people thinking she's a bad parent. even though she's always at the bar. what should i do?

anon87708
Post 155

I'm 12 and I've had enough of this. My parents treat me like worthless crap all the time. they curse at me and everything. at the end they say they don't like doing that but they always do. i have a job and i have a place to stay. i just want to get out of this life. please help.

anon87020
Post 154

I am 15 years old and I go through tough times with my parents. They argue with me about everything and make my life a living hell. They tell me that they are going to make my life a living hell and yeah, I would move out but due to my diabetes I cannot support myself financially.

anon86229
Post 153

Really? You think you have it bad, and yes you may know you have it bad, but if you haven't done anything yet, suck it up! like the Rev. said. everyone's life stinks. i mean cry and curse yourself to sleep because it's your only comfort, and some even kill themselves for it, but just shut up, it's only a few more years. Keep out of their way and focus on getting yourself out. Find a comfort and live for a goal. Don't think of yourself. If you have sibling, you should think of them, but don't be selfish. be reasonable even if your "parents" aren't.

anon85961
Post 152

I'm 15, six months from being 16. I have no story of abuse -- just a story of abandonment, physical and mental.

My mother is a 46 year old alcoholic and my father, who is 44, lives with his new wife (only four years older than me) with my little sister who is almost one.

My mother and I have decided that as soon as i turn 16, officially drop out that it would be best for me to become emancipated. After i get my license of course. She is working on getting me a car now. i know i shouldn't leave for those reasons alone but my mother wants me to fly, soar, go places she never ventured. I want to move somewhere out of state, and she wants to stay. I just wanted to know if anyone else knows, if she doesn't protest the emancipation how likely it will be for the judge to grant it to us.

I'm lucky my mom understands she is suffocating me. and for that i love her.

anon85018
Post 151

i am 14 years old and will be 15 at the end of this year. i am unhappy with my living situations. i feel unwanted. everything i do seems wrong. if i clean i get yelled at and if i do not i get yelled at.

i love my mom but my step-dad is miserable. my mom wants to leave him but she won't because she is afraid of not having any money. i am looking at apartments and I'm trying to find a job. my life is ridiculously rough living here. i am never home because when i am i get yelled at.

anon84520
Post 150

i just turned 16 and want to be emancipated. i don't want to live with my parents, or my dad specifically. i am adopted and do counseling but i can't keep my grades up and have no freedom at home. if you can help me, please do.

anon83967
Post 149

I'm 15 and my stepdad is really bugging me. he hits my brothers and yells at me and threatens me. I'm tired of his crap. My mom doesn't do anything about it. I think she's scared of him. Can i be emancipated? i have a place to stay and good money coming in.

anon83847
Post 148

I'm a 17 year old girl, and my step dad's been in my life since i was one. My real dad was addicted to drugs all my life and had nothing to do with me until i was 15 and he died not even eight months after he came into my life.

My step dad has sexually, physically and emotionally abused me all my life and my mom has allowed it to happen. She knows what goes on, and tells me that I'm a liar and that he wouldn't do that to me.

I've run away from home because it's so hard to look them in the face knowing what they're doing to me. My step dad is addicted to drugs and my mother allows it. He's sold and pawned everything we've owned for drug money. It's horrible!

anon83822
Post 147

I'm 14 nearly 15. I'm really unhappy with my housing situation and well, over just my life. Being with my mom makes me suffer (not trying to be a jerk or anything) but being with my mom and dad makes me extremely depressed, and leaves me really sad.

I want out and there's really no point at all in me being with my mother at all, as she kicks me out every odd week for crap and it's way too hard on me. Any advice as to what I should do?

anon83792
Post 146

I'm 14 and my mom has threatened many times to kick me out and so has my dad. they both claim they don't want me and don't want me back in their houses so if i get kicked out i have no place to go.

my mom has told me countless times that if i say or do one thing wrong i will get sent to juvie, although i have talked to many people and have learned that she can't legally kick me out or send me to juvie without a valid reason. i need help. i can't take it anymore. i hate feeling like I'm worthless and i sure don't need people telling me that.

anon83745
Post 145

what i can tell all of you who have problems is to pray, have faith and be brave. trust in the lord that he'll help you all. i will pray for all of you guys. god bless.

anon83182
Post 144

I'm a 14 year old boy, I'm turning 15 in five months. My mom abused me a day before i turned 14. I called the police on her. They came and my aunt took me in for 2 1/2 months.

I came back to my mom's house till now. Now i have been emotionally abused by her. She's found a way to make me feel uncomfortable, suicidal, and she's able to make me cry. I need help, someone please.

She's been doing this and she knows now that she can't hit me. But now she's calling me names, telling me I'm a dumb bleep, the stupidest kid she's ever known, idiot, almost anything you can ever think of.

I've run away from home trying to keep myself happy. I can't do anything. My grades are going down because i can't keep myself focused because of my self esteem.

My girlfriend broke up with me for another guy. That made me lose more of my concentration. I have nowhere to go, nothing to live for. She's said that I'm like my dad, a worthless piece of crap. What can i do? i'm too young.

i live in Minnesota and i'm not at the age of when i can get emancipated. I need help. please. I'm not giving anyone crap. all of this is true.

anon82958
Post 143

I hate my dad. He acts like I've ruined his life. He's 65 years old. He has absolutely no friends and he treats my mom like dirt. I may be only 11 but once I hit sixteen I swear to god he's going to regret acting like a creep to me for my entire life!

anon81441
Post 141

I've had problems with my family for about the past four years. I'm 16 now. my parents are both physically and emotionally abusive. they tell me all the time how I'm ruining "their family" and how I'm psycho and need to go live at a crisis center.

I've been to three different counselors and they have all said I'm fine and don't need to be on medication or take counseling. my dad is the worst of them all. He calls me names and is very abusive. he has tried to run me over with a truck and has left welts on me with a belt that lasted a week.

They once made me sit in a chair for three hours because i had the "wrong attitude" when my mom said to come in and talk to her. I've told the counselors and they told CPS but there has been nothing heard and everything keeps getting worse.

I'm always grounded or not allowed to go anywhere because they don't trust me. my mom lies about everything and they tell lies to the rest of my family so they take their side of the story.

i have had suicidal thoughts because i cannot take living with them and they won't let me move out. i do not see another answer. my dad has told me repeated times if i leave he will call the cops and i will be admitted into a mental institution so I'm scared to leave or call anyone to come get me for help. this is not a joke.

i do not know what to do anymore.

anon80975
Post 139

I am a 15 year old in michigan. my parents and my huge brother abuses me and gang attacks me. i want to become emancipated soon but I'm not 16 yet. any advice?

anon79926
Post 138

I am a 20 year old college student. I have a permanent address in a different state than my parents.

I have a drivers license and my own car registered in the state of PA where I reside. The school that I attend has denied my request for in-state tuition based on my parents' address.

I have filed my federal tax return and state (paying taxes in PA) with my own address. How can I be considered independent from my parents to get an in-state tuition rate?

I have legally lived in PA for one year. Any help would be appreciated. I finance my education through private bank loans and this would save me significant money.

anon79830
Post 137

I'm a 17 year old girl who lives in california. my mother died when i was 14 and my dad isn't really able to care for my brother and me. so my mom's mom kinda adopted us, i guess you can say, for the past 3 1/2 years. she verbally and mentally abused me her and her husband. at one point she even physically abused me and i left to go to texas with my father and younger brother.

She then accused him of kidnapping us and we were escorted back to california by police. for a bit it got a little better then things took a turn for the worse. it was so bad i tried taking my life. if it wasn't for my younger brother i don't think i would be here today.

But now it's gotten worse. my grandmother and her husband decided to move six teenagers into a three bedroom condo and everyone except for my brother has turned against me.

my grades are horrible, I'm drained physically and mentally and i have no more patience left. For my own well being i need to leave but I'm scared if i do that, i will lose everything. Can anyone help me?

anon79746
Post 136

my wife is 17. can she and i leave her parents' house?

anon79584
Post 135

I am one week from being 16. i have been sexually abused by one of my mother's friends and i have been hit by my mother and one of her friends while she was sitting on the couch watching.

I had to go to school with a black eye and bruises and had to tell the teachers that my sister and I got into a fight.

I have told the law enforcement but they always go to my mom and ask if it's true and of course she's going to say no and so i stay and i have been dealing with this since i was about 5.

I want to get emancipated when I'm 16 but my mother is trying to move before then and i have a place to go here for shelter, financial aid, clothes and food. i need to know if i can still get emancipated in another state and move back to where i can have a stable, safe environment to live and go to school.

If i can get this done, i can finish school in one school and finally be safe. i turn 16 on may fifth. i just need a little advice on if i can get emancipated and move back or something. That way I'm safe and i can finish my schooling as well.

anon78969
Post 134

I don't know if this is going to be as important as all the others but i wish i could get emancipated but I'm only 15 and i don't have a job or anything so i can't support myself.

my mom abuses me mentally to a point where i want to kill myself and not only once, but every single day and i'm not allowed to hang out with my friends.

i am not allowed to talk to a single girl. i can't do my favorite thing in this world next to my love which is dancing because she hates that and i show as much respect as possible.

i try to please her all the time. I guess life's like this. it just started early for me. if anyone can help me let me know. the only thing holding me back is my baby, i love her and if she wasn't there i'd kill myself.

anon78206
Post 133

I'm a 17 year old girl and i live in new york. I'm very unhappy here. My little brother and my parents lived in south carolina last year and i loved it. We moved back to new york because they were unhappy there.

I tell them i want to go back to south carolina and live with my grandma because i was happy there. They don't listen to me at all. I get into a lot of trouble just because i don't like it in new york. there is no sense in me staying here.

i can't even be in the same room as my mom without getting into a big fight with her. i don't like the school and I'm failing everything. i just want to get emancipated and go live with my gramma in south carolina and be happy and finish school. But in new york i know I'm not going to finish school and it stinks because then i wont have anything in life.

so please i really need help.

anon78021
Post 132

My dad abuses me emotionally and physically and he doesn't trust me so i don't get to do anything. I'm like the mom of the house because i cook, clean and mow the lawn, and I've been taking care of my brother since i was 5. I'm 16 years old right now.

anon77078
Post 131

To post #129, the 13 year old. You need to tell a teacher or guidance counselor about the abuse immediately, because it will only get worse.

anon76888
Post 130

I'm turning 17 in four months. I've suffered physical abuse from my mother for two years now and before that, i suffered emotional abuse from her boyfriend.

Now that he's out of the picture, my mom has gone insane. she does drugs, drinks, and hits me. I've contacted the police five times. the last time, it actually worked. DHS put me in my grandmothers temporary custody. However, my grandmother is 80 years old. she's already raised her kids and my uncle's kids. why should she have to raise me?

i want to be emancipated so that i never have to see my mother again, and so i won't be a burden on anyone else. i need help.

anon76717
Post 129

I am 13 years old. My family has turned on me, no doubt. I live with my mother, father, and older sister.

My father hits me, and the reason being because I'm rude. My mother is a con-artist, and makes promises and breaks them which is emotionally draining. She sends me harsh, cold texts that you'd expect to come from another peer my age. They restrict me from things randomly.

I definitely have thought about killing myself, especially after my father said "I'll make your life hell as long as you're alive."

I cannot live like this any longer. I've wanted to turn to friends but they are all slowly turning against me. I'm a good student, straight A's. Athletic, cheerleader, and life-loving. If my home life continues like this, I will run away and never return.

Revmark
Post 128

To all of you who have posted that the children on here who have been abused either verbally, mentally, or physically should just, "Suck it up," it is obvious that you have never been abused or exposed to abused children.

I have been a youth minister for over 29 years and have mentored 31 young men, of which five of them have been abused, either mentally, physically, or sexually, and have seen the long lasting damage that this does to a child.

With that said, not all complaints from children of child abuse are actually child abuse, but just complaints about their parents being strict, and sometimes the child is in need of a good, old fashioned spanking.

But there is a fine line between an old fashioned spanking and physical abuse, and some parents cannot comprehend when they are going over that line, and do not know how to stop. Some just don't care, while others are substance abusers and are too stoned or drunk to know the difference.

But to those of you who feel like you are being abused by your parents, you need to tell someone, like a teacher, or doctor, or even a police officer who can then call for help for you. Especially if you have marks on you from what they have done. Have someone take pictures of the marks and document them with the date and time they occurred, and then call the police. Every state has some form of Child Protective Services through the Department of Human Resources. If they see evidence of child abuse they will remove you from the home and place you with a foster care family.

But I will warn you. Some foster parents are just in it for the money, and can be just as neglectful and abusive as your parents were, so be sure that you feel you are in true danger, before you proceed with this.

I hope this helps. God Bless. Revmark

anon75780
Post 127

I'm 15 1/2 and i want to be emancipated. My mom yells at me constantly for no reason. She mentally abuses me, she doesn't trust me at all and goes through my computer and phone all the time.

I have no personal privacy. She also picks favorites, who aren't me. she lets my brother who just turned 17 do whatever he wants.

my mom doesn't even let me go to church on wednesdays now because she doesn't like me walking next door to buy some subway before church starts.

i make good grades and i do my chores just fine. i admit that i have had suicidal thoughts in the past but i think if I'm away from the yelling it's much less stressful and I'll hopefully make better grades.

anon75401
Post 125

I'm 15 years old and I want to be emancipated from my mom.

She is mentally abusing me and I need out. I suffer from depression and she doesn't help at all.

anon73956
Post 123

i am a 15 year old girl about to turn 16. my boyfriend is about to turn 18 and I'm pregnant with his baby. we just found out saturday.

My boyfriend's mother wants me to move in with her when I'm 16 so that my baby can have its father. i need to know if i can move and not have to go through the whole court thing with my mother.

my boyfriend is so excited that he's going to be a daddy but is upset that if my mother doesn't let me move out that he won't get to see his daughter or his son. i am very tired of living at my home with my mother and her mom. all they do is yell at me and I'm sick of it.

is there any possible way of moving in with my baby's father and his parents?

anon72003
Post 122

all of you people on here saying suck it up, well you need to shut up.

obviously you don't know what its like to be abused because if you did, you would not be telling these people to "Get over it". That's just inconsiderate of you.

You don't know what people are going through or what their life is like. i know everyone goes through hard times, but that doesn't mean you have to judge their lives and tell them it's not that bad because you don't know that!

just please think about others' feelings and emotional state before saying stuff like that.

anon71664
Post 121

I am 13, turning 14 soon. I live in the state of Vermont. My parents are abusive, always fighting and blaming their problems on me. I have to be 16 legally to become emancipated. I don't know what to do.

I also have a best friend who has a worse

Situation. See, she is in the same situation except her dad is also an alcoholic. She is home-schooled so she is trapped there. i talk to her on the phone but we can't really talk, or give each other advice, because her parents will pick up the phone and listen. I am mostly scared for her. She has resulted to cutting and i just recently stopped doing it myself. We were going to run away in june but we decided against it. I'm glad we did. My dad kicked me out of the house last summer and i had no idea about emancipation then.

my only hope is he does it again so i can get emancipated. Any further advice? Why are kids always the bad guys?

anon70782
Post 120

i am 16 years old and i want to be emancipated from my mom and dad.

anon70618
Post 119

I'm 17 years old and i have been arguing with my mom almost every day of my senior year. she doesn't like my boyfriend and is always talking about him and his parents.

and on top of that she keeps putting her hands on me and i can't take it anymore. i don't want to be classified as a runaway because I'm in the military and i could get in trouble because running away is illegal. so the best thing for me to do is legally get some help which is emancipation.

anon67043
Post 118

hello i am 16 and have lived on my own for about 3 years now. i have a 3 month old baby boy and an 18 year old boyfriend. i handle all my financial and personal affairs on my own. i think if i have the chance to become an adult sooner, i will take it. if i am responsible enough to do it on my own i might as well be considered an adult.. don't you think so?

anon66458
Post 117

Can i became emancipated if my family causes severe emotional distress and my best friends parents want to take me in? The problem is my mom controls me. how do I became emancipated without her or possibly force her to emancipate me through the court? I'm 17 and desperately need legal advice.

I have put up with emotional distress and abuse for six years from my step dad and mom. Like many others on here i am a good person who is drug free and takes AP classes.

anon65749
Post 116

I'm 15 and my life is meh, like as you say so-so. Anyway, i have a step-dad who threatens me here and there and my mom doesn't really do anything about it. i mean she does care for me but sometimes she says I'm a rebel and what needs to be said needs to be said. and for that i agree.

Anyway, emancipation is somewhat the answer but not really because you wouldn't be able to handle harsh situations at like 12, 13, 14, 15, or maybe even 16, but i was verbally abused, emotionally abused, mentally abused, and physically abused, but i lived through it and still do because i can wait.

i am strong hearted for it to not let me fall down. that's what you girls have to learn is to wait. You girls might be going through a rougher situation but remember there's always someone out there who has gone through worse.

anon65012
Post 115

I'm 15 and I'm turning 16 in October. I don't really like living with my mom. It's only me n her in this household btw. I'm wondering, can i move in with my boyfriend and his mom, they're both loving and supportive.

My mom verbally abuses me and my boyfriend and there's no point of me staying in a house like this where there's always tension. So like i said before. Can i move in with my boyfriend and his mom until we both can get emancipated?

anon63148
Post 114

For all the people on here who believe that these girls are on here lying, stop. You don't know their full thoughts, actions, or situations.

Okay, it's true, when it comes down to it people are going to do what they have to do. But maybe the reason they're on here, posting comments about their life and explaining why they want to get emancipated is because they want to handle their situation the right way.

Maybe they don't want to be titled as 'runaway' or another girl who just wants to kill herself because something is out of control.

I'm 16 years old and will be 17 soon. I'm an all A student and a high official of more than a couple clubs at my school. I've taken college classes at the community college in my town and I'm currently taking advanced placement classes at my high school. I'm smart enough to know that running away and trying to kill myself is not going to solve anything and is definitely not going to increase my chances of getting approved of emancipation.

But I'm also old enough to realize that not getting along with my mother is not a good enough excuse to be free. It's not just that, though. My mom is very strict and bible-based, which I have no problem with. I'm a Christian also. It's just that my mom uses the bible to twist and turn things into what she believes is right.

For instance, the bible says 'God doesn't like ugly.' But my mom says, 'God doesn't like ugly in children.' That's not what it says and I know this may seem something small but she turns everything around to make herself seem so much better. Also, she verbally abuses her children.

I'm pretty much on the right track, but she is constantly telling me I will amount to nothing, she doesn't care about me, etc. I honestly am the child who has respected her the most and do not disrespect her often.

She constantly tells me I will not be successful and when it comes down to it I am a weak-minded person. My thoughts not my actions. My Mom has this strong hold on me because I love her. I love her more than anyone else in this world. Her words have so much power over me to where I fear I will fall down and become what she expects of me.

My senior year is coming up and I have a lot of college applications to fill out and will be preparing to graduate and I honestly don't need all this stress in my life. My plan is to move with one of my close friends. Her parents have agreed to let me move in if I handle my situation the right way. So, anyone if you know anyone I can contact -- someone that will help or lead me in the right direction, I would truly appreciate it.

anon62647
Post 113

My beautiful, beloved, smart daughter is everything we could have ever asked for. We both wanted a girl since my husband has a son from a previous marriage.

After having her I couldn't imagine loving another child as deeply as I do her so we decided not to have more children. She has had horses and I was her 4-H leader. She has wrecked two cars since turning 16 and we just bought her third car for her. Her 19 year old boyfriend just got back from a year in Alaska and we let him stay here until he got settled, just so that they could spend more time together after being apart for such a long time.

We gave her that permission of leniency out of respect for their relationship. And -- she hates me. Hates me because I now have a brain tumor and am no longer able to be as physically active as I once was. She flat out told me she hates me because I'm always in pain and on pain meds and she hates that I have changed over the past two years from a trim, cute, nurse supervisor to an overweight mom who spends a lot of time in bed and in pain.

It has caused me to lose my job, lose family income, lose our home and have to move in with my Mom. She blames me for this and wants to be emancipated. All I want is some respect and for her to be nice, kind and compassionate.

How did my beautiful darling daughter become this disrespectful, hateful girl? What did I do wrong to deserve all of this? My husband (her Daddy) is also hurt and grief-stricken along with all of the other burdens he shoulders for our family.

Maybe some of you girls should rethink your opinions of terrible parents. I may have made mistakes but they were made out of love, and just as she makes them because she has never been a teen before, I've never been the mother of a teen before, and I've certainly never been weak or sick.

I'm heartbroken and absolutely devastated and hurt and grief stricken and hopeless. But, I did call her bluff so she couldn't keep holding us hostage with this emancipation threat over our heads and found a website detailing the process and the prerequisites the minor must meet legally before applying.

She decided to wait it out and hasn't brought it up again. Go give your Mom a hug, she may not be here tomorrow. I may not be. Love Mom.

anon62089
Post 112

I'm 15 turning 16 in August. my fiance was 17 in January.

I am pregnant with his child and we are in love.

My mom and step-dad look down on that kind of stuff so I haven't told them yet because I'm not showing yet.

My parents along with his would verbally abuse us every single day if we told them and would try to talk us into adoption.

We both are very excited about our baby. We want to get married or emancipated to live on our own.

He is going to keep with homeschooling because we both work at Wal-Mart where he is already guaranteed a good paying job along with his online business.

I'm going to stay at home for the baby and get my GED when the baby can go to a daycare.

We have found an apartment have the money ready for everything.

He also wants to leave because his mother is always telling him that all men are crap and he is, too. She is always hitting him and yelling at him because she is bipolar and loves directing it towards him.

We want to get away and just start our lives the way it should be for a baby and its family.

We want to be married before the baby is born and just keep the child in a safe environment. We just need to get away.

We know it won't be all easy and simple but we want to go. Please help us, thanks.

anon62044
Post 111

I've been living with my friends' parents for six months and I love it. I feel like I'm part of the family. My real parents treat me good but don't support me like they should. They drink and smoke pot all the time and there is no food in the house for me and my sisters.

I never have lunch money at school because my mom says she don't have no money so i don't eat lunch at school and when i come home from school there is no food to eat. but when i'm at my friend's house they give me lunch money all the time.

now and sometimes i'll call my parents and ask for lunch money and they always say they don't have it.

i feel like my friend's parents care about me more than my real parents. can i legally move out of my parents' and move in with my friend's parents? and if this happens how can i help my friend's parents financially? i'm 16 and need help with this problem.

anon61968
Post 110

So this is to all the people who feel the need to use this as a hormonal depression forum. Dear 13 year old girls with boyfriends they "love". You don't love him. He doesn't love you. You don't know what love is, regardless of what Hannah Montana says. Get over it, you can't live on your own. If you don't believe me try it for a weekend. You can't get by with making any less than $600 a week.

To all those who say their parents hit them, call the cops, they'll call DCF and if your story checks out, you'll be pulled out of there. Thanks.=]

anon61607
Post 109

I would like to get emancipated because I feel that I am ready to take responsibility on my own as an adult.

I am currently applying for jobs and working hard in high school but I was wondering would the court left me get emancipated due to I need to get away from my neighborhood and I want to move to New York where I would be closer to my family and brothers. Plus, I'd like to have a fresh start there away from peer pressure and plus I think I'm very responsible and able to cope on my own.

anon61459
Post 108

I'm 13 years old, and I cannot stand where i live.

I know this is cliche, but it's true. I am deeply in love with someone, and I have given him everything I have. Now because of this, my parents are emotionally abusive and neglectful.

Me and my boyfriend, had a plan that when we finish up school and graduate we will get married.

Well now my mom has ruined all of that, because she told his parents of how we were having sex.

Now we won't ever be able to be together, and he is the only one I have ever loved.

Would emancipation be the right choice to solve my problems?

If both of us get emancipated, can we get married?

he is 14 turning 15, and I am still only 13.

Please help.

anon60378
Post 106

i am 17 turning 18 in October. I live at home with my parents and i can't stand it!

it's not the rules, it's not the respect i lack for them, nor is it love i lack.

I am homosexual, but they can't seem to see past that. We are pretty much constantly arguing, and just recently, and argument with my dad on my sexuality turned physical. He grabbed my arm and left a fairly large bruise. I called DCFS. What else can i do?

anon60058
Post 105

I'm 16 and will be 17 in march. i do smoke newports but i don't do drugs. i am currently living with my mom and step dad. i absolutely hate it! the rules here are very strict. I'm not saying that's a bad thing but it's too much for me to handle. my mom doesn't allow me to do much, and she doesn't want me with a boyfriend.

i just hate living here. you have to live here to believe it!

anon59918
Post 104

I'm 14 years old and I'm going to be 15 in march. i really want to get out of my house because all i do here is get yelled at, beaten, and threatened. my mom doesn't care about me -- she wants to get rid of me. i just want to know when and how i can get emancipated because i really want to leave.

Everyone sees that I'm happy but I'm not. i was touched sexually by my dad when i was younger and i want someone to help me with this situation. i can't take it anymore.

anon59033
Post 103

I'm 16 years old, and i would like to be emancipated from my mom and my step-dad. The reason being because my mom treats me like I'm nothing and she even tells me that I'm nothing!

She is always hitting me and pushing me down, spitting on me, calling me bad names and she is always telling me that everyone is better than me and that she hates me, and she wishes she would have gave me up and she only takes care of me because she has to!

when we go somewhere to get something to eat she gets everyone something but me. she tells me i can't use any lights in my room and i can't turn on my TV. i have to just sit there in the dark!

she took all my clothes and shoes out of my closet and she took everything i can wear and left everything that doesn't fit me in my closet. she tries to make me wear the same outfit to school every day! she tells me she wishes i will jump out of the car and kill myself. therefore she will get insurance off of me and bury me! Now, okay i did stay out till 10 in the morning one day, but this all was going on before that. i really want to get emancipated. i can't live with my mom and step-dad anymore. they treat me different from my two sisters and brothers. what should i do?

anon58214
Post 102

I am wanting to know information on getting emancipated. My guy friend really needs it. He is 16 and has a job. He is in school. He lives with his mom and his step dad with many brothers and sisters.

He has lived a horrible life watching his mother being beat by his step dad, no clothes, no food, with nothing but a bed-bug filled mattress on the floor. Left alone all the other bugs they have in the house. His mom and step dad drink, smoke pot, smoke crack, everything -- you name it they do it. And in front of the kids. They get food stamps, they get sold.

His mom takes all of his money from him in his paycheck, anything he owns that is able to be sold, gets sold! Is there even a way for him to save money away from his mom? I think she's even trying to get him to quit his job now because he's causing their $800 food stamps to go down to $500. Less for her to sell. Is he even able to get emancipated then?

anon58177
Post 101

I am 15 and currently have a job that pays very good money. i receive 160.00 a week. I would like to get emancipated because I have been mentally, physically, and emotionally abused.

a few month ago i decided enough was enough. i called the police and my mother was taken to jail. i stayed with my grandmother for a month. i was forced to come back home although i didn't want to. since i've been back the abuse has continued, but yet CPS and the police have done nothing about the situation. my grandma and uncle are willing to take legal custody of me.

There are times when i want to run away but i know it's not the legal way. since the law had not done anything i feel it's time for me to take matter into my own hands and get myself out of here before it is too late. I really need help, and i need closure. and i need a way out to protect myself.

i am a person with a desperate cry for help.

anon57444
Post 100

I'm 16 years old and will be 17 in four months almost. A lot of people on here are saying "if life was so bad you wouldn't be online" stuff like that. Well my life is bad, and I'm currently on my wifi at 6:30 a.m. because I'm not allowed to do anything.

I want to get emancipated because I live with my mother who does nothing but work, comes home and takes her bad day out on me. She's threatened me several times with packing my things up and moving me to my dad's, which I don't want to do because he's abusive and has been since I can remember.

At this point I wish she would kick me out so that I would have a reason not to go back. I've been staying by myself for hours upon hours since I was 7 years old. My best friend is 29 and has her own place, and she says that if I become emancipated I can come stay with her, or if that doesn't work I can find my own place.

I've wanted to kill myself since I was very little but I figure that won't help anything, because why do it if your parents wouldn't care anyway? Plus I have high hopes for my life but I don't think I'll be able to live up to them under my parents' roof since they're not supportive of me.

I'm not a bad kid, not into drugs or alcohol, I have a 3.5 GPA and am an AP student, and the only reason I ever lie to them is just to get away and it's usually to my best friend's house where I know I'm completely safe. So if you have any numbers for lawyers or information on being emancipated it would be very helpful.

anon56736
Post 99

i'm turning 16 soon and i'm moving in with my friend. i have a job that pays well and i get along great with my mom and my friend said i could move in there for only 150 a month plus my own food but that's not a problem. i can pay for everything i need by myself and have been doing so for about a year now by my own choice.

and i am responsible enough to go to school and to my job. the only reason i want to be emancipated is so my mom won't have to take care of me all the time and so i can keep her from worrying about me as much.

i think i am able to live all on my own but she thinks that i should still live with her so i have spent the past year trying to prove that i can do it and she knows that i can but she says she will miss me too much.

is there any way i can do this without it being a big problem? and what is the best way to bring it up to my mom? i don't want to hurt her but i don't want to live with her anymore. i like her but i want to prove i can make it on my own.

anon56427
Post 98

I was born in the states I´m 16 years old living in the dominican republic. I just had a baby. I live with my boyfriend and I want to become emancipated so that I can be able to travel by myself with my child. I want to take him back to the states and be able to work.

anon56362
Post 97

Wow. This is absolutely pathetic. I had been considering emancipation for awhile, but after reading all of these comments, I realized it is an irrational decision.

Have you girls read over your posts? Have you honestly read your own comments? I cannot believe there are 12 year old girls on here whining for emancipation. You're out of your minds. Do you realize what your parents do for you? Have you even thought of how you'd make it on your own? 12 years old. Nobody will hire you. You do not possess the skills needed to complete even the most simple of tasks needed at any job.

Not to mention child labor laws won't allow it.

I'm 17 years old and the only reason I have been considering emancipation is for my family's financial benefit. Sure, there's been some emotional and physical abuse. Wah wah. I suck it up and get over it. If you had children who were rebelling and whining, you'd probably do the same. I know I would.

At your ages you cannot possibly live on your own. You don't realize what your family has given up for you. Are you aware of exactly how much money it takes to raise a family? A lot. At 12, 13, 14 and 15 years of age, do you think you can handle paying your own way?

A rent bill. A water bill. An electricity bill. A garbage bill. Food. Medical insurance. And that is a bare minimalist life. That's not even including fun stuff. I'll bet 90 percent of you are on here because your mom wouldn't let you go to a party, or go on the computer, or eat all of the food in your house.

I want all of you to sign off of this computer and go give your mom a hug and thank her for everything she's done for you. You have no idea what it's like to raise a family.

anon55322
Post 96

you people on here are so lazy. tough it out, everyone goes through this kind of thing. wait until you're 18. concentrate on your schoolwork and get into a good college. your parents know more than you think.

anon55240
Post 95

i'm 13 years old. and i hate my life so much. my parents control my every move. im never allowed out on the weekends or weekdays.

i want to be able to do what i want, not what they tell me to do. i read everything in here. and right now i just want to be free from them. i don't care if they kick me out.

i'll live with my friend if i have to. i want to be able to have a life. Just because they don't or didn't have a life doesn't mean i want to be like them. i hate my parents so much. but don't worry I'm getting emancipated somehow. i don't care anymore!

anon55209
Post 94

I am 16. My mother is impossible to live with. She has slapped me in the face before and when i was little she hung me over my stairs upside down and told me she was going to drop me if i didn't behave. Also my cousin and his wife said that they would let me move in with them. Is this possible?

jojome27
Post 93

i am 14 years old and want to move from my mother's house to a close friend who is 32!

he and his family said i could be adopted by them! i have good reasons i will discuss later to move from my mother's house. How do i do this?

anon54945
Post 92

I love how most of you make up these little stories. Sorry girls, but most of us just don't believe you.

They're unrealistic. I mean if you have as bad a life as you guys say you do, you wouldn't be able to really get on here besides school! So stop the pity party and do something!

Most of you do not need to get emancipated. There is a certain age, like in vermont, you can leave when you're 16 and the cops can't do anything, and you can go back to your parents' house when stuff goes wrong and they legally have to support you.

Use your head. If it was that bad you would just run away or do the job of killing yourself. Yeah, it sounds mean. If it was bad like I said. you would do what you had to, not mess around!

anon54758
Post 91

I am 17 and i have a nine month old son. I live with my best friend because my mom moved in with her boyfriend about three months ago.

i want to get emancipated so i don't have to worry about other people doing things for me. i am independent. i can survive on my own. i don't need help from other people. i have survived this long on my own.

anon54655
Post 90

Please, do not believe everything you read, there are lots of teens here lying about lots of things.

if you want do thing like a grown person, and your parents do not allow it, it does not mean that they are wrong and you are right. some girls want to be emancipated because all they want is be free and do whatever they want without any consequences. I know one girl in particular who posted a comment and believe me, she is a liar and I know because I am her mother!

She wants her freedom? Then she has to wait until she graduates from high school, had a job that will support her and then -- only then -- she will leave my house.

anon54461
Post 89

I am 15 years old and have just got kicked out of my mom's house for no reason. she has been popping pills and abusing me. she woke up one day and just kicked me and my little sister out.

i have been taking care of myself for awhile. i have lived at my mom's but she never really cared for me. now we are staying with my dad's friends. he doesn't live with us. he lives in St. Louis and is constantly drinking and verbally abusing me, when i do see him.

i have dealt with this stupid parent drama for years now. things are always changing, nothing ever stays the same and i want out. how do i get out?

anon52391
Post 88

i'm 16 years old and i was in a group home. i've been running away for five years now. i've had it with group homes already and don't know what to do, so i'm deciding to stay on the run until i'm 18. i've been on the run already for some time, like about eight months.

i just don't know what to do. i need help.

Keirstein
Post 87

I am 15 years old and will be 16 in two months. My boyfriend is 18 and I'm pregnant. My home life is a living hell. My step dad is an abusive drunk, mother is scared of him and takes his side every time. I am an emotional mess, i have been on the edge of killing myself for three years now and have tried. Was put in Pinegrove when i overdosed and stabbed myself. My family just does not care about me and do not want me, yet, they make me stay and say i have no way out until i turn 18 just so they can make me miserable. My mother says i am stuck with all this until i turn 18. Is she right? She says i have no way out. Is that true? I want to become emancipated. My boyfriend has a place to live and a job. Since we are expecting a little one, is there any way i can legally live with him and get away from my parents? I don't know what else to do. I am sick of being verbally and physically abused. I know that i have rights, don't know why my mother is saying that i don't but i just don't know what they are. My boyfriend is amazing, he is the only one there for me. He is always there for me. He is very excited about the baby and so am i. That is the kind of surrounding i need. Living with him would be so much better. i do not want to put my child through what i was put through with my so called "family". I have made a promise to myself and God that my boyfriend and I will make our child's life better than what we have gone through and lived through and i am standing by that. Can you help me? I don't know what else to do! Becoming emancipated seems like my only way out to a better life but i don't know how to do it or where to start. Any advice?

anon50435
Post 86

i am 15 years old, and i live in a hotel with my grandmother and sister. I'm always depressed at the fact that i have to wake up early in the morning and wake everyone up because i need the light on. i hate living with them. I'm looking for a job now, and i get money from my mom's death money. i pay for everything i have: clothes, a phone, school fees and all. i know how to pay bills, but I'm just 15 and no one will even listen to me about getting emancipated. they think I'm too young but i know more than most my age. how can i get people to hear me out so i can get emancipated?

anon50407
Post 85

My birthday is in two months. i will be 16 and i am pregnant. My boyfriend is 18 and we have been together for a while and we love each other. He is the only one there for me. My mother keeps telling me that i have no way out at this age, my stepdad is an abusive drunk and my mother is verbally abusive. Do i have a way out of this mess? Am i really stuck?

anon50406
Post 84

I am 15 years old and my home life is horrible. My mother keeps telling me that no matter how bad i want out, that i can't because i'm stuck and there is no person i can go to that will help me. Me and my step dad fight all the time. my mother is just so stupid for being with him and i am always blamed for everything.

Dr3amGurl18
Post 83

Im 15. I live in Florida. My mom treats me really bad. she`s so abusive, in every way. and her boyfriend is bad to me too. I don't know what to do. I want to get emancipated. But then again. When i used to live in PA. my neighbor across the street and i got close. I've known her for almost four years. she told me I can come live with her until i get a job and all that stuff. she said she`ll make sure i go to school. she`s 26. i look at her like a big sister. i don't know what to do. what can I do as of right now?

anon49729
Post 82

My dad has a horrible temper and anytime he gets angry he takes it out on me and likes to hit me. my mother has a drug problem but she has custody and doesn't mind me living with someone else, but my dad has a problem with it. I am 16 years old. What can i do?

anon49701
Post 81

im 16 years old and i want to get emancipated because i'm not really happy with my family. they're always blaming me for everything. and i hate that and i want to live on my own. because it will be easy i think.

anon49412
Post 80

you're all dumb. parents are lovely. i love my mommy and daddy. so get over yourself. i hope you go bankrupt without your family. Family is everything.

anon49411
Post 79

if you are pregnant and 17, can you get emancipated without court order? i am pregnant and my mother pretty much hates me for it. the guy is older but i love him and i want this with him. shouldn't i have the right to decide that i want to be with him?

anon49390
Post 78

i am 16 years old nd my dad is an alcoholic. i have made some really stupid choices that he won't let go. He and my mom both leave me at mny house all the time alone. and that doesn't bother me except i never know when they're coming home or if they are all right. half the time we don't have a lot of money because dad can't live without weed and beer. mom works 24/7 and pays most of the bills. i've been dealing with it for a while and i feel like i'm at my wits' end. the other night i cried so hard because he yelled at me for no reason and i almost hit him. i'm afraid that if i stay there any linger i may do something i'll regret. i need to get emancipated. Please help.

anon48290
Post 77

ok, so i just turned 17. my mom and i constantly fight, and she's always hitting me and calling me obscene names and telling me i'm worthless. my dad and i fight once in a while, but recently he's become sick of her crap too. anyway, i've already tried to commit suicide three times and ended up in the hospital for it because i feel that i can't live at home anymore. i've been in a shelter before, but that didn't really work out either. i currently do not have a job but i am taking my proficiency test next saturday and am going to the local junior college in january. what do i do? can i be emancipated? how?

anon48005
Post 76

i am a 16 year old female who was adopted. i didn't want to be adopted but it was for my little sis. now she is big enough to take care of herself and i need to get out. i feel i do not to be in the house with a mother who smokes weed to get away from reality or to help her sleep. i need to be emancipated, i have to be emancipated. if i don't she'll continue to steal the money i make and i'll never have money to pay for the things she makes me pay for!

anon47846
Post 75

i'm 15 and i live with my mom, step dad and older brother and i want to become emancipated. i hate living at my house. i'm seriously on the edge of ending my life. i get treated like crap and i'm sick of it. i have friends willing to let me live with them. their parents are fine with it and would actually love it if i stay there. and i know my mom won't just let me move. that's why i legally want to leave. i just don't know how i can do this. please help me.

anon47714
Post 74

I am 16 years old and I will be 17 in four months. literally me and my mom get into it every day. I hate it. I don't like arguing with her. She always tells me to get out of her house and never come back. She tells me to go live with my dad but i'd rather not. his house is full anyway. I have a job but plan to find a better one. I just want to give my mom what she wants and leave. I want to live on my own. would I be able to get emancipated and get my own place?

anon47691
Post 73

can my guardian emancipate me?

anon47618
Post 72

i will be 17 in a few months. I would really like to move out of my dad's house now though because there is always arguing and yelling going on between us and last night he kicked me out of the house so i went to my grandma's but that was like at 11 at night. what the heck. i think if it comes down to me having to live on my own i think i would do all right. i work at chuck e cheese and so i make pretty good money. My dad is always putting me down and getting right in my face and once in awhile he'll literally push or like throw things at me or something. i can't stand it. i need out now!

anon46462
Post 71

I am 16 years old, and was forced to move to a different state. i have set up living, work and transportation arrangements. can i become emancipated and just move back?

anon45444
Post 70

ok. This is the deal. I'm 15 years of age and i live with my mom, little brother, and my mother's husband (which i don't like). I want to get emancipated because i can't stand living here. My attitude is bad. I have had personal experiences when i have brought my attitude to school and it has had a bad effect on me and my grades. The reason why i act like this is because one week ago when i was at home, my mother and her husband were playing around at first and then it started getting serious. I asked if could i go to the store and my mother said he can take you because he is going to the store anyway. So i put on my shoes and i started to walk outside and he asked me did i have any money and i said no. So he said well you're going with the wrong person then. So i walked back in the house put my shoes back in the shoe box and then got back on the computer. He called my name three times and i didn't come. so he said (F***) that and then they started arguing. From then i could hear my mother screaming saying "i can't breathe" so i ran in the room and pushed him off of her. and now i want him to leave. My mother sleeps in the living room because she can't stand the thought of being around him. I just want them to get a divorce. I really hate to see her down. What should i do?

Moderator's reply: Call the National Resource Center for Domestic Violence at 800-537-2238. They may be able to help you. Also, please tell a trusted adult, like a school counselor or teacher or nurse. They want to help.

anon44500
Post 69

okay here's the deal. i'm unhappy at my house. my mother doesn't beat me, doesn't threaten me, but my step dad is a drunk and they fight all the time, and i'm just emotinally not happy and i want a way out. i have a place to live, which is with my girlfriend. She and her mother are willing to have me, but my mother isn't so willing to let me go. I know that me wanting to get emancipated over not being happy sounds ridiculous on many levels. well i go to school and am not happy, and that affects my grades and my attitude towards everything. i'm miserable here. i just need a way to get out. i'm depressed. i'm 16, by the way, and can get a job, and fend for myself. please help me out here.

anon43523
Post 68

I hate my family. They shun me. I just want to move out, either live with a relative or anyone willing to take me in. The only one who cares about me is my dad, but he works from 12-10 at night, with an hour commute. He goes to work every day, as he owns his own video store. I have a sister a year older than I am, and she is always trying to put me down. My mom is never nice, she curses at me, and when I curse back, I literally sleep on the floor. I lose everything. I usually go to my cousin's or any relative's house to get away. Hopefully when I get a good job, maybe even online somewhere, I can become emancipated.

anon43455
Post 67

ok it was one person on here who said they were 17 with their own place. please tell me how you did that because i'm 17 and i'm trying to do that now. did you have someone sign for you?

anon43045
Post 66

I am 12 years old and live in Canada. I want to move out so badly. My parents always yell at me and sometimes hit me. It's been like this since my little brother was born. I have two other younger siblings but they're like perfect children. My dad is overly protective and won't let me go out often. I wish to move out but I can't find a place where my family can't hurt me in any way. I have a boyfriend thing and I want to move in with him so badly, but is my life that harsh or should I just wait until university?

anon41817
Post 65

my mom was a prostitute since the day i was born until i was 15 and found out on a really embarrassing way. she never took care of me because she was too busy out of the country having sex with strangers. i have no idea who my real dad is. i was raped when i was 10 by my last stepdad and she did nothing about it. she didn't even got me help. my current stepdad barely takes care of us and also has tried to hurt us physically several times. i have to work to pay for all my stuff even my phone bill. i feel very unhappy because now she feels like she can control me and tries to make me do things her way and claims respect from me all the time. how am i supposed to respect someone that never took care of me and that now says is the perfect mom and also brings into my life an aggressive stepfather who i can't live with anymore? what should i do? they kicked me out and when i had everything ready to move out, they didn't let me go. what's my way out? suicide?

anon41219
Post 64

Im 15 and i live with my mom and my 12 year old sister and unfortuately my grandad stays with us. He sleeps on the couch and works at a gas station.

I have a boyfriend that has answered my prayers. the only problem is that he's 18. But i love him and he loves me and i've risked a lot just be with him. i've been sneaking out since i was 13 but when i met this boy my whole world revolved around him. he is all i think about. we have known each other for 4 months and been dating for three. and he has truly showed that he cares for me. he has *never* pressured me into anything, even sex. when the time comes, we will talk about it.

So, i have snuck out to see him and i would leave around 12 and stay until 4 or 5 o'clock in the morning and leave for school and then go to his house or he would come to my house. we go to the movies he takes me out to eat. he buys me anything i want or even if i just think about wanting something he's already got it for me. :) i got caught one night and ever since then my mom swore to me if i did anything without her permission she would call the police. the other day i went with him to walmart and i was supposed to be at my friends house and she found out that i wasn't where i was supposed to be. and she beat me and then grounded me of course and the next day she locked me out of the house at six thirty in the morning and my dad came to get me and i've been with my dad ever since.

i've struggled with school all my life. clothes, shoes, and food wasn't something my mom thought was necessary. my mom and my dad haven't been together since i was too little to remember.

At this point in my life i want to move out. my boyfriend is willing to support me until i'm able to get a car and be able to drive. his mom loves him and will always be there for him so i know she would not let him suffer. so when i turn 16 i will make sure i have a good job. i want absolutely nothing to do with my mom.

anon38154
Post 63

ok, here's the deal. my dad has not paid child support in three years. i want him to and i already have my own place and i am seventeen. my mother is a drug abuser and i have been on my own illegally since fifteen. i know how to handle my self. just want to figure out if i can receive child support for him not helping. it's hard enough being a junior in high school, playing football and working.. i could really use a hand you know?

anon38047
Post 62

i am 16 years old and i live with my dad and his wife, and their 7 year old son. my dad doesn't support me in anyway and gripes about how he has to give me money, because 5 dollars a day must be so demanding. I don't ask for anything else because i know he wont buy anything for me anyway. His wife is a psycotic drunk drug abuser, and yells at my dad for giving me the only thing i have, some freedom. I am miserable, and i want to end my life. It's obvious getting emancipated is never going to work..is there anything else i can do, because i'm about to run away.

jamers324
Post 61

im 16 years old and i want to start the process of becoming emancipated. i live with my mom and two sisters and they aren't ever home anymore. i work as much as i can and have a 3.5 gpa. my mom only works and fights with me. she kicked me out of the house the other day and told me she doesn't want me to affect her anymore. she says i'm the one person that makes her the maddest she can get. and she stresses me out so much i am physically and mentally unhappy. i don't want to live with my dad. i haven't since i was five and i don't know how to communicate with him and i don't feel comfortable. i need help because i'm scared of the long term affects of my living conditions. i want to start the process of emancipation immediately. how can i start? i need help!

anon37251
Post 59

okay well my mom and entire family does drugs and my mom dates a drunk and i have been abused and it happens evey now and then, im about to get a job and im 15. can i be emaancipated????

anon36818
Post 58

okay im 13 and i have an abusive stepdad. he has hit me only once, but he hits my mom sometimes. at least twice a month. i am soon going to try to convince my mom to move out, if she doesn't. i want to. i have a place lined up with my aunt. but what if my mom doesn't let me go? i also have a dad.. but he mostly works in alaska, and i do not want to live with him anyways. what can i do if my mom doesn't want to move out and wont let me? should i do this?

radkadi
Post 57

I'm 17. My parents have been divorced since I was a baby. My mom remarried about 6 years ago.

My whole life, they have been fighting over me, using me to get at each other, not giving me a say in anything, threatening me to go live with my dad which I don't want. Living with my mom is only a tad bit better because of my wonderful school.

My mom and stepdad constantly put me down, yell at me all the time for stupid things, tell me I can't make it on my own, and mom thinks I'm a slut and will get pregnant like she did at my age, even though I've only done it once. And they treat my younger siblings like royalty..

My dad is a slob. He never washes his hands after peeing, his house is filthy and it smells, he is racist, sexist, and tries to force me into believing the same political and religious beliefs as him.

The three of them think they are almighty and that they know best. They don't care how much pain I am in and I have told them. All they want is total control over every aspect of my life. *But I am turning 18 in ten months.*

My grandma offered to let me stay with her. She offered to teach me to drive and give me her white truck. I could even finish school up here. I haven't found a job due to the visitation of weekends of my dad, school, and also because of the economy. But if I lived with her I would find one.

It's hard too, because I am supposed to go home tomorrow, and if I spring this on them things will be even worse.

It takes three months to get a hearing? Do I have to live with them during that time?

Would be dad still have visitation during this process??

anon35350
Post 56

im a 13 year old child in australia, my parents arnt bad, their just heaps old fashioned and heaps strict and heaps.....weird? idk...

ive just had enough of them, they have a rlly rlly REALLY short temper. if i use a "bad" tone or actually have a point in arguments or whatever i get physically/verbally abused. They're seriously bad parents but you know they think they're good and evrrything and they do totally have the right intentions and stuff its just they're sooooo over the top.im wondering if i should just like, "divorce" my parents, which i totally don't halfishly want to do but i feel its necessary to you know break free or whatever. or, i was wondering if i could get a like mb 10 meter restraining order or something. and still live with them....somehow.impossible i know, but its a pretty cool concept, still live with them for the good stuff, and then still not for when their total bumholes.or if you know i should let child services just swoop in and do stuff, or live with them for a couple more years till i can move out safely (but not without their disapproval)

anyway which option should i take, which would be best....wait it out, emancipation, child serviced, restraining order?

oh and another thing i am of asian heritage and my dad is heaps cultural "preserving" or whatever and totally overreacts when i speak english "whenever not necessary" or something, he disses other random countries and then whenever i diss vietnam or whatever he fully gets agro and its just heaps urgh.and then it gets physical and stuff and that is seriously not fun.

anyway, im not even sure if divorcing is a good option or whatever, but ive stood up with this stufffor soooo long, ive thought about doing this for like ages, since i was like 4 so its been like 9 years since ive thought of these ideas. will i be able to do whats best for me?? (that being divorcing, restraining order, emancipation, etc. etc.)

anon34624
Post 55

My name is Kristina, i'm 17 years old i'll be 18 in about 2 months. My parents have been divorced since i was about 5 and i've lived with my mother ever since. From the beginning things have been rocky between my mother and me, she was had plenty of men in her life and she always put her relationships before me, she got married when i was in middle school and i feel like she resented me for their divorce because i wasn't too fond of him, but i never disrespected him in anyway, he was super cool. I just didn't think they should have gotten married so soon, never the less since they divorced, when i was in 7th grade, i feel like she treats me badly.

I have a 20 year old sister and she makes my sister up to be this perfect child, when she's just a liar who gets away with everything she does. I'm always catching the short end of the stick, and I don't think i can deal with it anymore. I have been trying for years to get my father to let me live with him, but he keeps making excuses, I don't think he wants the responsibility of taking care of me.

I have tried my hardest to have a better relationship with my mother but it isn't going to work. She makes it her mission to make everyone else in my family and life look at me like i'm the devil's spawn, and i'm not. I don't feel that i can handle it anymore.

As of now, she kicked me out the house, she took my key and told me to pack my stuff and never say anything to her again, but my dad talked her into letting me come back, so i'm staying here, but i don't live here anymore, i'm in the process of trying to stay with my godsister until i can find a place of my own.

Is there a way i can become emancipated from my mother, and not my father, because even though he doesn't want me living with him, we have a really good relationship.

lynnschlund
Post 54

im 15 going to be 16 in october and for the longest time i have been feeling like no one cares about me even though they say they do and it is like they never try to understand me. when i was little my mom worked and my dad worked/ went to college and when they would come home all they would want to do is be left alone. now that i am this age all they want to do is have me around more, but i have been living thinking that they just want to be by themselves so i grew to think that what they want from me is to leave them alone and be by myself. i have been doing that for years and now with the sudden change i think, why? why do they now want to hang out with me and be with me me and my parents don't get along at all, never have. granted that there r those few moments that we do get along, but they don't last. my bf is 19 and they don't like that he is that age and they told me that they don't want me to hang around him or date him. they always control my life like i am sum sort of puppet and i am sick of it!

i have been reading on emancipation for awhile and it seems like a big step, because it is. i want to know if there is another way that i could get away from my parents legally without getting emancipated?

anomis
Post 53

I am 13 and I live in a horrible house. My dad is an alcoholic and drinks really heavy. He used to shoot up drugs but he stopped.

I have 5 older brothers and 3 younger brothers and also 2 older sisters and 1 younger sister. I don't have a mother, she died after my baby brother was born, he is only 9, and she died on the way home from the hospital.

My dad drinks when he isn't at work or when he loses his job. Between the last 7 months he has lost 14 jobs.

When he is drunk I hide my little brothers and sisters in a closet and my older brothers and sisters go to my grandma's because they don't live with me.

I want to leave and be with my friend Steven. He is 16 years old and lives in Ohio. He has a really stable house and I can go to a really good school. But my father won't let me go. I want to become emancipated so I can get away from him.

Am I allowed to become emancipated because I am only 13 or do I have to wait any longer? I don't think I will last much longer in this house. But I am afraid to leave because I don't want one of my littler siblings to end up hurt. What do I do?

lissie777
Post 52

I am 15, and most of my life i have been ignored. I had a pretty rough childhood and went through things no 5yr old should go through. All my life i've gone through all this emotional abuse my mother has put me through. A little over a year my mother got divorced. The divorce just got finalized and now she is wanting to marry this guy she's known.

Both of them have put me through emotional abuse and i'm getting tired of it.

I want to live with my grandparents or one of my friends. Many people have offered me a place to stay. I can get a job, a place to stay, a ride to and from school. I don't get along with my mother and soon to be step-father thinks he can discipline me and i don't think he has the right.

I live in texas, can i get emancipated?

nerdy17
Post 51

I have just turned 17 and have been dealing with my parents divorce since i was 6. It has completely messed with my brain since the beginning. Both parents trying to play the other side. Both of my parents are remarried and i am currently living with my mother(whom has most of custody). She has married a man in the military and i'm tired of moving around so much. The moving and playing the "new girl" has effected me in many ways.

I also have many issues with my father which has gotten in the way of him receiving custody of me. Which is why i feel like emancipation is the only way. I want to live with my aunt who has always been there for me through all of this.

I want to live with her or my grandparents but i know my mom would never let me. My family and I have tried numerous times to convince her to allow me to live with them for once but she constantly refuses. She's always saying that she no longer has any idea how to deal with me. But aunt and grandparents are willingly (huge open arms) to take me.

It says under emancipation that i would have to show maturity and show that i would be financially supported which i would be if i lived with my aunt or grandparents.

Please give some kind of advice on what to do...this is my last resort...i want to get out asap and i don't want to have to wait a whole other year.

anon33551
Post 50

i was recently living with my father because i don't get along with my mother. they were in the middle of a divorce but my dad unfortunately past away so legally they're still married so im stuck with my mom now but i desperately want to leave. she's the one that's gonna receive all my heritage money because im only 18. i was wondering if i get married,(searching for this option since she will never want to emancipate me since she obviously wants control of me and take advantage of my money)would i be able to receive the part of the heritage so i could leave my house??

anon33476
Post 49

I am 12 years old. My dad is a drug addict and an alcoholic. He also verbally and physically abuses me. My mom she just ignores me and when she does talk to me it's just to yell at me. What is the age requirement for Nevada to be emancipated from your parents?

rickg
Post 48

i'm 16 and my parents have kicked me out multiple times and i now haven't been back for 4 weeks and i don't see myself being able to come back. i want to become emancipated but i don't know where i could work that would allow me to pay for a house and food and transportation to get to school and work. what could i do for work?

anon32298
Post 47

im 17 and want to be emancipated. ive been to court with both of my parents for a few yrs now. ive lived with my mother most of my life, and have always felt like no one wanted me. i tried living with my dad and absolutely hated the area he lived in, and asked my mother if i could live back with her.

its been a year back at my mothers house, and ive encountered many problems. i don't feel i belong in either of my houses. im not allowed to have a job, and i don't have a drivers permit either. im not allowed to see the guy ive been dating for 2 yrs because my mother thinks he is emotionally abusive...really its her that causes so many problems. i volunteer in an ambulance company and can't actually get paid to work until after i graduate. my boyfriends parents would let me stay with them until i could save enough money for a house of my own.

all my friends parents think that my parents are crazy and emotionally abusive. i have plenty of plans for after highschool, but its hard to do without a job. emancipation is my last resort.

smoke482
Post 46

i am a 20 year old college student. i want to get emancipated from my parents, but i am not a citizen of the United States. i am a legal permanent resident and a green card holder. i am perfectly capable of making my own decisions and want to live a free separate life from my parents because they do not allow me to have any kind off freedom. i am allowed to go to college and then straight back home. i can't go out with friends more than once in a few months and there is too many fights in the house.

i know i have to be able to support my self to be emancipated and i am working on that but how long is the process? can i get emancipated without being a citizen? do i need a lawyer? how do i get one if i cannot afford one? where do i go to court for all this? can someone please walk me through this process...can someone please give me an answer to these questions. i'll be forever thankful to you.

keving2009
Post 44

I am 17 and enlisted in the Air Force. I have sworn in, signed my contract and everything. I will go to basic training this summer and then go on to my tech school. Since I am enlisted does that mean that I am also emancipated?

anon29418
Post 43

i am 15 years old and me and my mother do not get along. my step-father thinks he needs to handle the discipline and i don't believe it's his place. i am very unhappy. one of my friends said that her family will allow me to live there. i would get a job and stay in school and i would pay my friends mom any money that she would need. can i be emancipated at 15?

echolakelove
Post 42

I am 14 years old and living in NJ. I want to get emancipated from my family. My parents are divorced, I am scared of my dad, my brother beats me up, and my mom doesn't care about me. I found a nice apartment and have money and I can get a job close to the apartment at a local supermarket. But, I need advice and I need to know what age I am able to get emancipated at in New Jersey.

anon27450
Post 41

Is there a chance that i can get emancipated when i turn 16? Because now i'm 15 turning 16 in June, but I have a baby boy who's about 4 weeks now. And my grandma (my guardian) won't let the father see him really at all!!!!

icantakeit1
Post 40

i'm 16 years old, i have been dealing with a lot of stuff recently, and through out childhood, i have been emotionally abused to the point of my break, i have a house set up, i just have to get emancipated is it hard?

tano562
Post 39

i'm a 16 year old girl, have my own job making $10/hour and have good grades. But at home, my parents are always yelling at me for random reasons and it hurts me inside. Makes me very emotional and now my parents want to move out of state my junior year in high school. After all these years of me meeting ppl and for me to move out of state my last year of high school hurts a lot. I have to give up everything i have: my job my friends and family. I don't want to move.

How can i emancipate myself? and can i do it without my parents? Because if i have to go through my parents, my father will not care what i want to do and will force me to move. I need help asap.

anon26414
Post 38

If I am sixteen and my mother is suicidal, and abusing me mentally, can I choose to be emancipated from her and to move in with my grandparents?

anon26053
Post 37

I am thirteen and recently have been having arguments with both of my parents. Right now I hate my entire family and I would love to have an emancipation from my parents and never have any contact with my family.

anon24001
Post 36

I am 16 years old and at my household my mom and i fight way too much i am considering becoming emancipated from her. don't get me wrong i love her but she and i can't live in the same house anymore she drove away my two sisters and now me, what should i do?

anon23682
Post 35

I am 14 years old. I have been thinking about emancipation for a while now and, on discovering this website, I have even more questions. Is it possible for me to live with an adult as though I were a dependent of that adult after I become emancipated? Would it be best to seek a lawyer for advise and/or action? How long would it take to set up a hearing or trail or whatever? My situation is reasonably simple: My Mother and Father have been legally divorced since I was seven, but have been separated for as long as I can remember. Recently, they started "fighting" for custody of me and My Dad won. I know my Dad has my best interest at heart, however, when he received costody of me he moved from NYC to a speck of a town out west. The school in this town is terrible and if I were to go and live with this other adult I would be able to attend one of the best prep school in America. This is not the only reason I wish to be emancipated. My Dad just doesn't understand me and my mother manipulated me to tell lies for her for a long time. I really want to go and live with the other adult and I know that he could and would support me. Please tell me if I would be able to emancipate myself for those reasons above.

anon22432
Post 34

I'm 16 years old and I live with my Grandmother, Aunt and Uncle. My Grandmother has been very distant from me ever since my Grandfather died. She has become more argumentative and a little more mentally unbalanced. She isn't crazy but she works 16 hours a day from 2:30pm to 7:30 pm so she is very tired and that causes a lot of issues. My uncle and aunt took me in but now they are being ridiculous and they misunderstand everything I do or say. I want to be emancipated because I believe I am causing all three of them a lot of stress and unnecessary problems. I can become financially stable and I could probably find someone to move in with. Is it possible for me to do this for these reasons?

tbean123
Post 32

I’m 17 my parents have not been together since I was 1. My whole life I have dealt with them fighting over who gets custody of me. During my lifetime they have both had custody of me and both abandoned me during those times. Both my parents now are once again fighting over custody of me. My mother is very sick and can barely take care of the household. My father would expect me to live with his wife who he has split up with years ago. I can’t deal with the decision of choosing whom to live with and I feel as though things would be better off if emancipation was a possibility. Since I’m 17 turning 18 in October would I either be able to get emancipated or even try to get emancipated? Is it even worth it?

snowbaby
Post 31

I have a few questions ok well i just wanted to know how long will it take to get emancipated. The other question. ok here's the deal I am 16, and soon in april 13 ill be 17, i don't live with my parents at all since the end of may and i am staying with a family friend and i work with her and everything and i am able to support myself on my own two feet. Well see somethings happened and i had to get out of my parents house. My mom is a bad liar. i don't go to school and i want to get emancipated and everything. So if i don't live with my family or anything can i qualify for food stamps or something in that matter if my parents don't give me any money to buy clothes, food anything to support my self and the things that i need i get it all on my own. I am doing it all on my own and i don't live with them so what do i do? i need so kind of guidance. thank you

lovedkinda
Post 30

I am 17 years old and going to be 18 in 4 months and I want to emancipate myself from my mom. She has been married over 5 or 6 times and I have a brother and a sister. She treats them like they are her prized kids and doesn't want anything to do with me. She comes into my room and hits me for no reason. Now I have a boyfriend and we have been dating over a year now and she has done and almost tried everything to keep use apart and she thinks he's doing things that i know he doesn't do and trying to break us up because he's not what she wants him to be. i wanted to know how i could get emancipated because of all she has done to me in my life now. Thank You.

lassie4
Post 29

We are the parents of three children. Recently, my sons friend has been staying with us and would like to move in permanently. We would like to know how we can help our sons friend without causing problems. His father is verbally abusive, divorced and he also drinks heavily. We have tried talking to him about having his son live with us even temporarily but he is adamantly against it. Help!

anon19641
Post 28

I was wondering did you have to have a certain type of a job and if living with a friend is a possible choice to go off of for meeting in the criteria. Because my dad and mom both made me think bout suicide when I was in elementary school and beginning middle I was cutting myself. Early this year I tried to commit suicide and now I have thoughts of running away from home and going to stay with a friend.

anon19199
Post 27

I'm 17 years old and want to get emancipated for family reasons. My mom is never on my side and is always accusing me of stealing or for something. Me and her don't get a long a lot. She was always abusive when I was a kid, but not anymore now that I'm older. She let's my brother do whatever he wants, even before he was 18, she accepted him as an actual son. She never treated or showed me with love and respect and she drives me nuts. She's always judgemental with my friends, with anyone she looks at without even meeting them halfway, she assumes they are bad people. To me, all the relatives I live with: bro, sis, mom, all hate me and I stay away from them by staying mostly at my friends house. Me and my brother don't associate at all, including my sister. When my mom and I talk, it always leads to an argument about my mistakes and problems. She does not know me very well, even as a kid. When I first met her, she was nice, but later on she started being abusive and misunderstanding with everything. She was the first person to ever make me think of suicide and to run away. She's done so many things, I can't stand her anymore. I need emancipation.

anon18380
Post 26

I am sixteen years old.. i'll be seventeen in march. im getting my license in october. I have a very supportive uncle and aunt that are planning on buying me a car for me to help me start off. I am looking for jobs now, I have a little job i consider which is baby-sitting. I believe that if i could be emancipated i would be better off. I have few reasons why i would like to do this first, i would like this because my family and I don't really get along its only rarely that we do. my mom has two jobs because she gambles and i do have a little job which is baby-sitting i do make a little money and i am very good at saving it, but my mom bums money off me to pay the bills and little things like that, I do feel bad so i never hesitate to give her money. My dad only works one job. We do not have a good relationship, but we do try but we bump heads a lot. He puts me down on things i do and if i do anything it seems like its never good enough to him. I do not have a terrible life, but i really feel some what rejected from this family a little and if i were emancipated i know they would not like this idea at all, but i think later on they would definitely be proud that i could make it independently. I believe that i could make it on my own. I want to finish school and become a cosmetologist after school for a side job and go to college and become a registered nurse. I just would like to know how i could possibly get emancipated..?

ashleyw2007
Post 25

Okay, I live with my grandmother and my cousin because my father passed away in 2005 and my mother is a drug abuser. So, when my father passed away my grandmother gets money from his death which is about 750.00 a month. I have not had any money in my hand from it nor have i even seen but one check, i wasnt even supposed to work, just worry about about going to school but I had to get a job anyway because she said she would not pay for my gas or any extra things i wanted. So, ever since i was 16 i have been working and im about to turn 18 in 4 months but i am wondering where all my money is going because she just bought her a new car and she refuses to give me any money claiming she don't have it, plus the cousin im living with is older than me and she has never had a job and is fully supported my my grandmother. I think all my money that is suppose to be spent on me and essentials is getting spent on her new car and for my cousin.. is there any way to get emancipated fro that then sue her for all the money i have not yet received. Also, everything is paid off including the house we live in and all of her vehicles except the new one she just bought so, its not like she is using it all on bills.

anon17960
Post 24

If i have graduated high school at 16 years old and want to ingress in a program like the navy or air force, is there a way i can do it? Because loosing a year to me is not an option i want to be financial independent beacause my father is just not as i want, know? so any help is appreciated thanks.

anon17680
Post 23

The Court has declared my step-daughter emancipated at the age of 17 (now 18) and a senior in school due to moving back and forward between parents. We live in Missouri. Can she ever become un-emancipated? Is there any way for either parent to ever get child support on her again?

anon15932
Post 22

I am going to be 17 in a month and one week. I have a boyfriend that is 20 years old and we have been dating for over a year now. He is in college studying to be a psychologist. I have a 3.3 gpa, have a part time job at a restaurant, and want to move in to apartment with my boyfriend. I have a very supportive grandmother who is giving me her car and says she will help me in anyway she can, but her husband will not let me move in with them. My family life has been very dysfunctional my entire life. My father does drugs and is a raging alcoholic. He has abused my mother all through my childhood and i spent most of my nights in hotels or at friends houses escaping the abuse that went on in my home. My father isn't as bad as he used to be, but he has created a lot of depression in our home. He is self employed and says he goes to work when he doesn't. My mother works at a store making close to minimum wage to try to support us. We live paycheck to paycheck and my grandparents on each side pay most of the bills that aren't able to be payed. We have little food ever in our home, so all of my money goes towards just feeding myself, or paying for the basics that my parents are unable to afford, like toothbrushes, deodorant, soap, etc.. I want to know if there is any way that I can escape my home, without having to get married to my boyfriend, because we still need time to mature in our relationship to make such a huge step that i don't plan on making until i have finished college and have began my steady career. My grandmother also has $30,000 saved for me for college and my other grandpa has a college fund with roughly $10,000 for me also, knowing that my parents are unable to afford to put me through college. And my parents have also put me in to a legal situation where i am unable to apply for any grants or scholarships. I am a responsible and intelligent young adult that needs a way out for her senior year, because if i stay in my home, my parents will continue to take the little money that i make and may even try to take away the car i will be receiving when i get my license in september and even the money saved for me for college. My parents have taken advantage of me my entire life, but this is money i don't want them touching because it is for my future. I would appreciate any advice that could be offered. Thank You.

freida09
Post 21

I'll be 17 in 24 days. Me and my mom have fought constantly for as long as I can remember. I have 2 sisters, both live in California. And one brother who is a year younger than me. My brother gets to run and do whatever he wants anytime he wants. Half the time no one knows where he is, he's doing drugs, and drinking all the time. And my mom is too dumb to see it.

The most my mom lets me out of the house is a few hours 3 or 4 nights a week. I haven't spent the night out of the house since I was 13. Things aren't fair around here, and I try explaining that to my mom. I'm going into my senior year, and I have zero freedoms. I've been in a relationship for almost a year now, and he's got his own house, and a steady job. And my mom even likes him, but she wont let me hang out alone with him.

I can't take the fighting, and want to move out. My boyfriend tells me that I am more than welcome to move in with him, and as soon as I turn 18 he's planning on moving me in. But I don't want to wait that long, I don't know if I can make this relationship work while trying to keep my sanity living with my mother. I fight with her constantly, and then I'm miserable and I end up fighting with him. And I don't know how much longer we can keep doing this.

Does anyone think that these are reasonable grounds to move out, or get emancipated?

alexis789
Post 20

Hi, My name is Alexis... I have a lot of questions concerning emancipation. My mother is not a suitable person to live with. I am 16, i have a full time job, even during the school year because this past year i was in independent study. i make a steady income, 9 dollars an hour. I have been offered a couple places to stay for free because friends just feel bad for me because my mother is just unexplainable. We moved to Arizona on May 2nd. I deeply, deeply loathe Arizona. I came back out to where I live currently (California) to finish my sophomore year and work as much as possible. I am staying with a friend now and i have been very responsible, i have good grades and work hard on the job. I really cannot stand living with a crazy person anymore. I work 25 to 30 hours a week and sometimes i get to keep a little of my money. I am fully capable of taking care of myself. i have goals and a college i am set on going to. Otis Art Academy. I just need to know how to go about all this emancipation stuff. someone help me pleaseee!

justamby427
Post 19

My boyfriend is 16 and he lives in an unhealthy environment. he was beat as a kid but it stopped after his dad passed away three years ago, although his back has over 30 scars. he is almost 17 and his mother is very controlling. she makes his life hell, taking everything away from him for calling me, and tells him he is worthless and she would be better off without him and he was her worst mistake. and it is hurting him mentally. and then there is his uncles, who send him threatening text messages and voice mails, threatening to cause him bodily harm. my boyfriend wants nothing more than to be with me but his mother will not give me a chance. he is in an unhealthy, abusive and unstable environment. and his mom will not let him live alone let alone sign the papers for him to be emancipated. how can i help him become emancipated? my parents have agreed to give him a place to stay and they are willing to help him however they can.

anon13115
Post 18

I have a really bad relationship with my mom i am 11 years old and want to be emancipated, what should i do.

anon11338
Post 17

Just curious..i wanted to know is it possible to emancipate your children if you just want them to get out on their on sooner. my wife and i would like our two kids (very responsible) to share an apartment close by when they turn 16. we would buy apartment as investment and have kids pay rent. they would have some part-time jobs.

this is a good way to get them independent b4 they go to school. also, if they are emancipated the school will only look at their income for financial aid. we want them to put themselves through school like both of us did (we would still help some)

your thoughts.

anon10567
Post 16

I'm 15, i live with my Aunt and her boyfriend of 10 years. We don't have a good relationship, if one at all. I can be talking about the simplest thing and my aunts boyfriend, a recovered alcoholic will start yelling over nothing. My aunt says this is because he is a "dry drunk." Which from what i can gather when you have the rage of an alcoholic but don't drink. I don't live with my mother because she was abusive and an alcoholic. It is better here and people tell me to tough it out all the time. If there isn't anything i can do about not living with them, i will eventually run away, because i just can't stand living here anymore. Im from NJ. Is there any way i can emancipate myself?

anon10351
Post 15

I am 17 years old and living under emotional distress. I have been with my father's parents since the age of 7. I don't have a good relationship with my grandpa and it's way worse with my grandma. I wanna be emancipated because I'm constantly getting into it with my grandma. She threatens me. she's constantly putting her hands on me. I'm beginning to believe that she's crazy.

I want to know if I can be emancipated and how I can go about starting the process. If I do it can I do it without my guardians consent if I have. I need to hurry up and get out of this house!

aebabe6719
Post 14

My parents are getting a divorce right now and im excited about it. My dad abused me and my mom let him for 15 years. right now im 15 and im turning 16 in may. My mom says she can't handle me and she would just let the courts take me away from her because im too much to handle and just let me live with my dad. I don't know what else to do. Neither of my parents want me, can i get emancipated?

anon8795
Post 13

My child is 18 and living outside the home. She is a high school senior and planning for college. How does she handle college financial education forms. Is she still required to use her parent's income when trying to qualify? If so, this is not fair to her since she is not getting financial support from her parents. Any idea?

anon8440
Post 12

I am in the military.

im looking at apartments and such, However i don\'t know if i am emancipated or not.

Its a nice low income place about 2 miles from my RSP.

i am only 17.

My mother believes i am not emancipated, however i will be calling and talking to my county/RSP.

i was just wondering if you had any information for me.

anon8184
Post 11

my mother hits me. today, she punched me 10 times in the arm and i don't know what to do. i wanna emancipate myself really bad. she doesn't care about me. that's the problem. she sometimes does, but she is a lying mother. i hate her. she slaps me if im sick. oh yeah, and she slapped me today. she bosses me around and threatens me daily. she says she's going to take me down to argentina and beat me hard because its not illegal there. what should i do and when can i get emancipated? im on 12, but i just can't deal with this ANY more

unloved14
Post 10

i feel unwanted and know i'm not wanted at my mom's house she has kicked me out more then 6 times so far since christmas, and each time she tells people or the police that i've run away but it's not true.

I and my mom do disagree on a daily bases with rules or just situations that makes no sense to me that she wants to cause a ruckus over. I think it will be better if we were separated, because of the fact some people just don't mix. I have been told to tough it out and i do, by not arguing back, because i know she hears but is just not listening to exactly what i'm saying, so i say what's the point, and just let her nag. she tries to fight me but i just push her back it's just not right to fight her i've done it before and felt horrible, but i still love her, but she knows we need our space. i would rather go 2 a boarding school but that just costs too much and even the free ones she doesn't pay attention to we have considered foster, but she probably won't go through with it. we might talk now and then but i still know that we are just not meant to live together. there is a lot of pandemonium between us and it will never change. i would like to get an emancipation so i can move out. i do have a job. when i save up i can pay for any and everything i need.

i just need to know more about getting an emancipation for myself so i can take care of me on my own.

anon5280
Post 9

my dad has been calling me every name in the book and is a drug addict. My mom and him have been separated since i was 4 years old. It would be more reasonable for me to live with my mom, but my dad isn't allowing it. I need to know where i can go to get emancipated. And how long it takes.

anon5253
Post 8

Is a teen age mother considered an emancipated minor if she has a baby and is raising it?

Anonymous

anon4067
Post 7

Allerera,

I was very curious about your post, so I did some research on Twelve Tribes. While everything that is directly from the group sounds like it is a lifestyle-centered approach to Christianity, there are lots of other things written about it that make it sound more like a cult. One of the most tell-tale signs of a cult is that the leaders are in control of the other members' time, money, and other resources. That may be fine for you now, but it will be very difficult to get yourself out later.

On the other hand, I totally understand how you feel. I could not wait to get out of my mom's house, and I would have gone and got my own apartment at 16, had I been able to support myself. My advice to you, in all sincerity, is to tough it out--unless you are being abused. If you are safe, but unhappy, your desire for independence is really good and will serve you well in your life.

You sound like you have some exceptional talents that will serve you well. My best advice is to study and work hard, so that when you're done with high school you'll have lots of options: you can teach skating, go to college, move away, or all three!

Best of luck!

Allerera
Post 6

I am 15 years old, will be 16 in January. I am interested in becoming emancipated for a few reasons. I am looking to join the Twelve Tribes communities. Everybody lives in the same house, they work together to support the whole community, and there are no needs unmet. My parents have been separated almost as long as I can remember. I am almost old enough to obtain Coaching Liability Insurance. When I have that, I will begin teaching figure skating for close to $60 an hour. I will also be buying material to make my own clothes, budgeting my food money (buying bulk and cooking, instead of buying more expensive foods), and saving the rest of my money for transportation, rent, utilities, etc. when I am older. If, however, I join the communities, I would not be working for myself, or living by myself. I would be responsible for myself. How would I go about getting emancipated, as t join the Twelve Tribes?

christman
Post 5

me and my g/f want to get married and we are trying to get her mom to let her. can her p/o not let us see each other or let her live with me??????

anon2918
Post 4

I know of 5 children whose mother is a drug addict. Their living conditions are deplorable. The mother receives Social Security because the father committed suicide a few years ago but does not use the money to care for the children. Instead she uses it for drugs. The oldest two are ages 17 and 15. How would they go about becoming emancipated so they can receive their portion of the money to take care of themselves and their three younger siblings? At present a relative, with 4 children of her own, is taking care of the children, but it is putting them in the red and they don't know how long they can do it. They are willing but feeding 9 growing children is expensive. Do they have any options to obtain the children's part of the Social Security to care for the children? The mother has been arrested for drug possession several times -- next court date is Aug. 2nd. Any suggestions would be very helpful.

christman
Post 3

can my p/o make me live at my house when i turn 18. can the state make me?

anon1422
Post 2

im not getting along with my parents very well. im not feeling that im getting enough attention and i no that there is a great possability that i can find my own place 2 live and i have my own income, and bank account. so any ways in ohio how can i get emancapated,how long will it take and what r the requierments. plus my parents are forcing religion on me. and i can take care of myself and do so much better.

anon952
Post 1

can a 20 year old college student become emancipated from me so she can base her fafsa on her income alone?

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