How Can a Child Become Emancipated from Her Parents?

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For any number of teenagers living under strict parental guidelines, the idea of emancipation must seem like the ultimate get-out-of-jail free card. The harsh reality concerning legal emancipation is that many may feel called, but relatively few are chosen. In the United States, a child under the age of 18 can generally be considered emancipated, no longer under parental control, for three main reasons: legal marriage, demonstrated financial independence, or military service. Short of that, most teenagers can only claim disgruntlement.

Of the three main options for legal emancipation, the least problematic for both parents and child is demonstrable financial independence. This is the sort of legal emancipation enjoyed by child actors, singers, models and other professional performers. Under many child labor laws, these talented children must allow an adult to handle their financial affairs until they reach adulthood. Unfortunately, some parents have been known to take advantage of their child's good fortune and spend the income on themselves. By seeking legal emancipation, a working child can be considered an adult when it comes to matters of contracts and financial dealings.

If a child can arrange for his or her own suitable housing, food, clothing and other essential needs, the parents can consider an emancipation agreement. This doesn't have to be a formal legal procedure, but a family court judge may want to examine the child's living arrangements and financial records if a legal dispute should arise. The child may also seek a formal court order establishing his or her legal status as an emancipated minor. This does not mean, however, that an unhappy 15-year-old girl can secure a job at a fast food restaurant for minimum wage and declare herself emancipated. The key to this type of emancipation is true financial independence, with a real need to enter into contracts before the age of majority.

Another route to emancipation for a child is marriage. Laws concerning the minimal age of consent vary from state to state, but it is possible for a young teen to marry with parental consent. Once a legal marriage has been registered, legal emancipation of a minor soon follows. This form of emancipation has been available for decades, but the number of child-brides has been declining in recent years. The practice was much more common when society in general encouraged young girls to marry as soon as possible.

Early marriage as a form of emancipation may satisfy the legal requirements, but it can be a very risky maneuver both emotionally and socially. Using marital vows to escape an unhappy home life is not necessarily a cure, since the minor must assume many adult responsibilities. Parents may no longer feel any financial responsibility towards an emancipated teenager, and employment prospects may be severely limited without a high school diploma, General Educational Development (GED) diploma or college degree. Emancipation through marriage may seem like an appealing option, but it does not automatically grant a minor all the rights of an adult.

One other form of emancipation involves military service. Although the individual branches of the military set their own minimal age requirements and screen recruits very carefully, occasionally an underaged applicant slips through the net. This was a much more common occurrence during World Wars I and II, when some teenaged boys could volunteer for service without much scrutiny. If a minor enlists in a recognized military program and somehow manages to be lawfully inducted, he or she could be considered legally emancipated.

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i'm 16 years old and i was in a group home. i've been running away for five years now. i've had it with group homes already and don't know what to do, so i'm deciding to stay on the run until i'm 18. i've been on the run already for some time, like about eight months.

i just don't know what to do. i need help.

- anon52391
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I am 15 years old and will be 16 in two months. My boyfriend is 18 and I'm pregnant. My home life is a living hell. My step dad is an abusive drunk, mother is scared of him and takes his side every time. I am an emotional mess, i have been on the edge of killing myself for three years now and have tried. Was put in Pinegrove when i overdosed and stabbed myself. My family just does not care about me and do not want me, yet, they make me stay and say i have no way out until i turn 18 just so they can make me miserable. My mother says i am stuck with all this until i turn 18. Is she right? She says i have no way out. Is that true? I want to become emancipated. My boyfriend has a place to live and a job. Since we are expecting a little one, is there any way i can legally live with him and get away from my parents? I dont know what else to do. I am sick of being verbally and physically abused. I know that i have rights, don't know why my mother is saying that i don't but i just don't know what they are. My boyfriend is amazing, he is the only one there for me. He is always there for me. He is very excited about the baby and so am i. That is the kind of surrounding i need. Living with him would be so much better. i do not want to put my child through what i was put through with my so called "family". I have made a promise to myself and God that my boyfriend and I will make our child's life better than what we have gone through and lived through and i am standing by that. Can you help me? I don't know what else to do! Becoming emancipated seems like my only way out to a better life but i don't know how to do it or where to start. Any advice?
- Keirstein
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i am 15 years old, and i live in a hotel with my grandmother and sister. I'm always depressed at the fact that i have to wake up early in the morning and wake everyone up because i need the light on. i hate living with them. I'm looking for a job now, and i get money from my mom's death money. i pay for everything i have: clothes, a phone, school fees and all. i know how to pay bills, but I'm just 15 and no one will even listen to me about getting emancipated. they think I'm too young but i know more than most my age. how can i get people to hear me out so i can get emancipated?
- anon50435
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My birthday is in two months. i will be 16 and i am pregnant. My boyfriend is 18 and we have been together for a while and we love each other. He is the only one there for me. My mother keeps telling me that i have no way out at this age, my stepdad is an abusive drunk and my mother is verbally abusive. Do i have a way out of this mess? Am i really stuck?
- anon50407
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I am 15 years old and my home life is horrible. My mother keeps telling me that no matter how bad i want out, that i can't because i'm stuck and there is no person i can go to that will help me. Me and my step dad fight all the time. my mother is just so stupid for being with him and i am always blamed for everything.
- anon50406
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Im 15. I live in Florida. My mom treats me really bad. she`s so abusive, in every way. and her boyfriend is bad to me too. I don't know what to do. I want to get emancipated. But then again. When i used to live in PA. my neighbor across the street and i got close. I've known her for almost four years. she told me I can come live with her until i get a job and all that stuff. she said she`ll make sure i go to school. she`s 26. i look at her like a big sister. i don't know what to do. what can I do as of right now?
- Dr3amGurl18
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My dad has a horrible temper and anytime he gets angry he takes it out on me and likes to hit me. my mother has a drug problem but she has custody and doesn't mind me living with someone else, but my dad has a problem with it. I am 16 years old. What can i do?
- anon49729
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im 16 years old and i want to get emancipated because i'm not really happy with my family. they're always blaming me for everything. and i hate that and i want to live on my own. because it will be easy i think.
- anon49701
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you're all dumb. parents are lovely. i love my mommy and daddy. so get over yourself. i hope you go bankrupt without your family. Family is everything.
- anon49412
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if you are pregnant and 17, can you get emancipated without court order? i am pregnant and my mother pretty much hates me for it. the guy is older but i love him and i want this with him. shouldn't i have the right to decide that i want to be with him?
- anon49411
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i am 16 years old nd my dad is an alcoholic. i have made some really stupid choices that he won't let go. He and my mom both leave me at mny house all the time alone. and that doesnt bother me except i never know when they're coming home or if they are all right. half the time we don't have a lot of money because dad can't live without weed and beer. mom works 24/7 and pays most of the bills. i've been dealing with it for a while and i feel like i'm at my wits' end. the other night i cried so hard because he yelled at me for no reason and i almost hit him. i'm afraid that if i stay there any linger i may do something i'll regret. i need to get emancipated. Please help.
- anon49390
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ok, so i just turned 17. my mom and i constantly fight, and she's always hitting me and calling me obscene names and telling me i'm worthless. my dad and i fight once in a while, but recently he's become sick of her crap too. anyway, i've already tried to commit suicide three times and ended up in the hospital for it because i feel that i can't live at home anymore. i've been in a shelter before, but that didn't really work out either. i currently do not have a job but i am taking my proficiency test next saturday and am going to the local junior college in january. what do i do? can i be emancipated? how?
- anon48290
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i am a 16 year old female who was adopted. i didn't want to be adopted but it was for my little sis. now she is big enough to take care of herself and i need to get out. i feel i do not to be in the house with a mother who smokes weed to get away from reality or to help her sleep. i need to be emancipated, i have to be emancipated. if i don't she'll continue to steal the money i make and i'll never have money to pay for the things she makes me pay for!
- anon48005
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i'm 15 and i live with my mom, step dad and older brother and i want to become emancipated. i hate living at my house. i'm seriously on the edge of ending my life. i get treated like crap and i'm sick of it. i have friends willing to let me live with them. their parents are fine with it and would actually love it if i stay there. and i know my mom won't just let me move. that's why i legally want to leave. i just don't know how i can do this. please help me.
- anon47846
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I am 16 years old and I will be 17 in four months. literally me and my mom get into it every day. I hate it. I don't like arguing with her. She always tells me to get out of her house and never come back. She tells me to go live with my dad but i'd rather not. his house is full anyway. I have a job but plan to find a better one. I just want to give my mom what she wants and leave. I want to live on my own. would I be able to get emancipated and get my own place?
- anon47714
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can my guardian emancipate me?
- anon47691
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i will be 17 in a few months. I would really like to move out of my dad's house now though because there is always arguing and yelling going on between us and last night he kicked me out of the house so i went to my grandma's but that was like at 11 at night. what the heck. i think if it comes down to me having to live on my own i think i would do all right. i work at chuck e cheese and so i make pretty good money. My dad is always putting me down and getting right in my face and once in awhile he'll literally push or like throw things at me or something. i can't stand it. i need out now!
- anon47618
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I am 16 years old, and was forced to move to a different state. i have set up living, work and transportation arrangements. can i become emancipated and just move back?
- anon46462
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ok. This is the deal. I'm 15 years of age and i live with my mom, little brother, and my mother's husband (which i don't like). I want to get emancipated because i can't stand living here. My attitude is bad. I have had personal experiences when i have brought my attitude to school and it has had a bad effect on me and my grades. The reason why i act like this is because one week ago when i was at home, my mother and her husband were playing around at first and then it started getting serious. I asked if could i go to the store and my mother said he can take you because he is going to the store anyway. So i put on my shoes and i started to walk outside and he asked me did i have any money and i said no. So he said well you're going with the wrong person then. So i walked back in the house put my shoes back in the shoe box and then got back on the computer. He called my name three times and i didn't come. so he said (F***) that and then they started arguing. From then i could hear my mother screaming saying "i can't breathe" so i ran in the room and pushed him off of her. and now i want him to leave. My mother sleeps in the living room because she can't stand the thought of being around him. I just want them to get a divorce. I really hate to see her down. What should i do?
- anon45444
Editor's reply: Call the National Resource Center for Domestic Violence at 800-537-2238. They may be able to help you. Also, please tell a trusted adult, like a school counselor or teacher or nurse. They want to help.
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okay here's the deal. i'm unhappy at my house. my mother doesn't beat me, doesn't threaten me, but my step dad is a drunk and they fight all the time, and i'm just emotinally not happy and i want a way out. i have a place to live, which is with my girlfriend. She and her mother are willing to have me, but my mother isn't so willing to let me go. I know that me wanting to get emancipated over not being happy sounds ridiculous on many levels. well i go to school and am not happy, and that affects my grades and my attitude towards everything. i'm miserable here. i just need a way to get out. i'm depressed. i'm 16, by the way, and can get a job, and fend for myself. please help me out here.
- anon44500
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I hate my family. They shun me. I just want to move out, either live with a relative or anyone willing to take me in. The only one who cares about me is my dad, but he works from 12-10 at night, with an hour commute. He goes to work every day, as he owns his own video store. I have a sister a year older than I am, and she is always trying to put me down. My mom is never nice, she curses at me, and when I curse back, I literally sleep on the floor. I lose everything. I usually go to my cousin's or any relative's house to get away. Hopefully when I get a good job, maybe even online somewhere, I can become emancipated.
- anon43523
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ok it was one person on here who said they were 17 with their own place. please tell me how you did that because i'm 17 and i'm trying to do that now. did you have someone sign for you?
- anon43455
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I am 12 years old and live in Canada. I want to move out so badly. My parents always yell at me and sometimes hit me. It's been like this since my little brother was born. I have two other younger siblings but they're like perfect children. My dad is overly protective and won't let me go out often. I wish to move out but I can't find a place where my family can't hurt me in any way. I have a boyfriend thing and I want to move in with him so badly, but is my life that harsh or should I just wait until university?
- anon43045
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my mom was a prostitute since the day i was born until i was 15 and found out on a really embarrassing way. she never took care of me because she was too busy out of the country having sex with strangers. i have no idea who my real dad is. i was raped when i was 10 by my last stepdad and she did nothing about it. she didn't even got me help. my current stepdad barely takes care of us and also has tried to hurt us physically several times. i have to work to pay for all my stuff even my phone bill. i feel very unhappy because now she feels like she can control me and tries to make me do things her way and claims respect from me all the time. how am i supposed to respect someone that never took care of me and that now says is the perfect mom and also brings into my life an aggressive stepfather who i cant live with anymore? what should i do? they kicked me out and when i had everything ready to move out, they didn't let me go. what's my way out? suicide?
- anon41817
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Im 15 and i live with my mom and my 12 year old sister and unfortuately my grandad stays with us. He sleeps on the couch and works at a gas station.

I have a boyfriend that has answered my prayers. the only problem is that he's 18. But i love him and he loves me and i've risked a lot just be with him. i've been sneaking out since i was 13 but when i met this boy my whole world revolved around him. he is all i think about. we have known each other for 4 months and been dating for three. and he has truly showed that he cares for me. he has *never* pressured me into anything, even sex. when the time comes, we will talk about it.

So, i have snuck out to see him and i would leave around 12 and stay until 4 or 5 oclock in the morning and leave for school and then go to his house or he would come to my house. we go to the movies he takes me out to eat. he buys me anything i want or even if i just think about wanting something he's already got it for me. :) i got caught one night and ever since then my mom swore to me if i did anything without her permission she would call the police. the other day i went with him to walmart and i was supposed to be at my friends house and she found out that i wasn't where i was supposed to be. and she beat me and then grounded me of course and the next day she locked me out of the house at six thirty in the morning and my dad came to get me and i've been with my dad ever since.

i've struggled with school all my life. clothes, shoes, and food wasn't something my mom thought was necessary. my mom and my dad haven't been together since i was too little to remember.

At this point in my life i want to move out. my boyfriend is willing to support me until i'm able to get a car and be able to drive. his mom loves him and will always be there for him so i know she would not let him suffer. so when i turn 16 i will make sure i have a good job. i want absolutely nothing to do with my mom.

- anon41219
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ok, here's the deal. my dad has not paid child support in three years. i want him to and i already have my own place and i am seventeen. my mother is a drug abuser and i have been on my own illegally since fifteen. i know how to handle my self. just want to figure out if i can recieve child support for him not helping. it's hard enough being a junior in high school, playing football and working.. i could really use a hand you know?
- anon38154
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i am 16 years old and i live with my dad and his wife, and their 7 year old son. my dad doesn't support me in anyway and gripes about how he has to give me money, because 5 dollars a day must be so demanding. I don't ask for anything else because i know he wont buy anything for me anyway. His wife is a psycotic drunk drug abuser, and yells at my dad for giving me the only thing i have, some freedom. I am miserable, and i want to end my life. It's obvious getting emancipated is never going to work..is there anything else i can do, because i'm about to run away.
- anon38047
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im 16 years old and i want to start the process of becoming emancipated. i live with my mom and two sisters and they aren't ever home anymore. i work as much as i can and have a 3.5 gpa. my mom only works and fights with me. she kicked me out of the house the other day and told me she doesn't want me to affect her anymore. she says i'm the one person that makes her the maddest she can get. and she stresses me out so much i am physically and mentally unhappy. i dont want to live with my dad. i havent since i was five and i don't know how to communicate with him and i dont feel comfortable. i need help because i'm scared of the long term affects of my living conditions. i want to start the process of emancipation immediately. how can i start? i need help!
- jamers324
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okay well my mom and entire family does drugs and my mom dates a drunk and i have been abused and it happens evey now and then, im about to get a job and im 15. can i be emaancipated????
- anon37251
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okay im 13 and i have an abusive stepdad. he has hit me only once, but he hits my mom sometimes. at least twice a month. i am soon going to try to convince my mom to move out, if she doesnt. i want to. i have a place lined up with my aunt. but what if my mom doesnt let me go? i also have a dad.. but he mostly works in alaska, and i do not want to live with him anyways. what can i do if my mom doesnt want to move out and wont let me? should i do this?
- anon36818
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I'm 17. My parents have been divorced since I was a baby. My mom remarried about 6 years ago.

My whole life, they have been fighting over me, using me to get at each other, not giving me a say in anything, threatening me to go live with my dad which I dont want. Living with my mom is only a tad bit better because of my wonderful school.

My mom and stepdad constantly put me down, yell at me all the time for stupid things, tell me I cant make it on my own, and mom thinks I'm a slut and will get pregnant like she did at my age, even though I've only done it once. And they treat my younger siblings like royalty..

My dad is a slob. He never washes his hands after peeing, his house is filthy and it smells, he is racist, sexist, and tries to force me into believing the same political and religious beliefs as him.

The three of them think they are almighty and that they know best. They dont care how much pain I am in and I have told them. All they want is total control over every aspect of my life. *But I am turning 18 in ten months.*

My grandma offered to let me stay with her. She offered to teach me to drive and give me her white truck. I could even finish school up here. I havent found a job due to the visitation of weekends of my dad, school, and also because of the economy. But if I lived with her I would find one.

It's hard too, because I am supposed to go home tomorrow, and if I spring this on them things will be even worse.

It takes three months to get a hearing? Do I have to live with them during that time?

Would be dad still have visitation during this process??

- radkadi
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im a 13 year old child in australia, my parents arnt bad, their just heaps old fashioned and heaps strict and heaps.....weird? idk...

ive just had enough of them, they have a rlly rlly REALLY short temper. if i use a "bad" tone or actually have a point in arguments or whatever i get physically/verbally abused. They're seriously bad parents but you know they think they're good and evrrything and they do totally have the right intentions and stuff its just they're sooooo over the top.im wondering if i should just like, "divorce" my parents, which i totally dont halfishly want to do but i feel its neccessary to you know break free or whatever. or, i was wondering if i could get a like mb 10 meter restraining order or something. and still live with them....somehow.impossible i know, but its a pretty cool concept, still live with them for the good stuff, and then still not for when their total bumholes.or if you know i should let child services just swoop in and do stuff, or live with them for a couple more years till i can move out safely (but not without their disapproval)

anyway which option should i take, which would be best....wait it out, emancipation, child serviced, restraining order?

oh and another thing i am of asian heritage and my dad is heaps cultural "preserving" or whatever and totally overreacts when i speak english "whenever not necessary" or something, he disses other random countries and then whenever i diss vietnam or whatever he fully gets agro and its just heaps urgh.and then it gets physical and stuff and that is seriously not fun.

anyway, im not even sure if divorcing is a good option or whatever, but ive stood up with this stufffor soooo long, ive thought about doing this for like ages, since i was like 4 so its been like 9 years since ive thought of these ideas. will i be able to do whats best for me?? (that being divorcing, restraining order, emancipation, etc. etc.)

- anon35350
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My name is Kristina, i'm 17 years old i'll be 18 in about 2 months. My parents have been divorced since i was about 5 and i've lived with my mother ever since. From the beginning things have been rocky between my mother and me, she was had plenty of men in her life and she always put her relationships before me, she got married when i was in middle school and i feel like she resented me for their divorce because i wasn't too fond of him, but i never disrespected him in anyway, he was super cool. I just didn't think they should have gotten married so soon, never the less since they divorced, when i was in 7th grade, i feel like she treats me badly.

I have a 20 year old sister and she makes my sister up to be this perfect child, when she's just a liar who gets away with everything she does. I'm always catching the short end of the stick, and I don't think i can deal with it anymore. I have been trying for years to get my father to let me live with him, but he keeps making excuses, I don't think he wants the responsibility of taking care of me.

I have tried my hardest to have a better relationship with my mother but it isn't going to work. She makes it her mission to make everyone else in my family and life look at me like i'm the devil's spawn, and i'm not. I don't feel that i can handle it anymore.

As of now, she kicked me out the house, she took my key and told me to pack my stuff and never say anything to her again, but my dad talked her into letting me come back, so i'm staying here, but i don't live here anymore, i'm in the process of trying to stay with my godsister until i can find a place of my own.

Is there a way i can become emancipated from my mother, and not my father, because even though he doesn't want me living with him, we have a really good relationship.

- anon34624
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im 15 going to be 16 in october and for the longest time i have been feeling like no one cares about me even though they say they do and it is like they never try to understand me. when i was little my mom worked and my dad worked/ went to college and when they would come home all they would want to do is be left alone. now that i am this age all they want to do is have me around more, but i have been living thinking that they just want to be by themselves so i grew to think that what they want from me is to leave them alone and be by myself. i have been doing that for years and now with the sudden change i think, why? why do they now want to hang out with me and be with me me and my parents don't get along at all, never have. granted that there r those few moments that we do get along, but they don't last. my bf is 19 and they don't like that he is that age and they told me that they don't want me to hang around him or date him. they always control my life like i am sum sort of puppet and i am sick of it!

i have been reading on emancipation for awhile and it seems like a big step, because it is. i want to know if there is another way that i could get away from my parents legally without getting emancipated?

- lynnschlund
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I am 13 and I live in a horrible house. My dad is an alcoholic and drinks really heavy. He used to shoot up drugs but he stopped.

I have 5 older brothers and 3 younger brothers and also 2 older sisters and 1 younger sister. I don't have a mother, she died after my baby brother was born, he is only 9, and she died on the way home from the hospital.

My dad drinks when he isn't at work or when he loses his job. Between the last 7 months he has lost 14 jobs.

When he is drunk I hide my little brothers and sisters in a closet and my older brothers and sisters go to my grandma's because they don't live with me.

I want to leave and be with my friend Steven. He is 16 years old and lives in Ohio. He has a really stable house and I can go to a really good school. But my father won't let me go. I want to become emancipated so I can get away from him.

Am I allowed to become emancipated because I am only 13 or do I have to wait any longer? I don't think I will last much longer in this house. But I am afraid to leave because I don't want one of my littler siblings to end up hurt. What do I do?

- anomis
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I am 15, and most of my life i have been ignored. I had a pretty rough childhood and went through things no 5yr old should go through. All my life i've gone through all this emotional abuse my mother has put me through. A little over a year my mother got divorced. The divorce just got finalized and now she is wanting to marry this guy shes known.

Both of them have put me through emotional abuse and i'm getting tired of it.

I want to live with my grandparents or one of my friends. Many people have offered me a place to stay. I can get a job, a place to stay, a ride to and from school. I don't get along with my mother and soon to be step-father thinks he can discipline me and i don't think he has the right.

I live in texas, can i get emancipated?

- lissie777
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I have just turned 17 and have been dealing with my parents divorce since i was 6. It has completely messed with my brain since the beginning. Both parents trying to play the other side. Both of my parents are remarried and i am currently living with my mother(whom has most of custody). She has married a man in the military and i'm tired of moving around so much. The moving and playing the "new girl" has effected me in many ways.

I also have many issues with my father which has gotten in the way of him receiving custody of me. Which is why i feel like emancipation is the only way. I want to live with my aunt who has always been there for me through all of this.

I want to live with her or my grandparents but i know my mom would never let me. My family and I have tried numerous times to convince her to allow me to live with them for once but she constantly refuses. She's always saying that she no longer has any idea how to deal with me. But aunt and grandparents are willingly (huge open arms) to take me.

It says under emancipation that i would have to show maturity and show that i would be financially supported which i would be if i lived with my aunt or grandparents.

Please give some kind of advice on what to do...this is my last resort...i want to get out asap and i don't want to have to wait a whole other year.

- nerdy17
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i was recently living with my father because i dont get along with my mother. they were in the middle of a divorce but my dad unfortunately past away so legally they're still married so im stuck with my mom now but i desperately want to leave. shes the one thats gonna receive all my heritage money because im only 18. i was wondering if i get married,(searching for this option since she will never want to emancipate me since she obviously wants control of me and take advantage of my money)would i be able to receive the part of the heritage so i could leave my house??
- anon33551
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I am 12 years old. My dad is a drug addict and an alcoholic. He also verbally and physically abuses me. My mom she just ignores me and when she does talk to me it's just to yell at me. What is the age requirement for Nevada to be emancipated from your parents?
- anon33476
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i'm 16 and my parents have kicked me out multiple times and i now haven't been back for 4 weeks and i don't see myself being able to come back. i want to become emancipated but i don't know where i could work that would allow me to pay for a house and food and transportation to get to school and work. what could i do for work?
- rickg
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im 17 and want to be emancipated. ive been to court with both of my parents for a few yrs now. ive lived with my mother most of my life, and have always felt like no one wanted me. i tried living with my dad and absolutely hated the area he lived in, and asked my mother if i could live back with her.

its been a year back at my mothers house, and ive encountered many problems. i dont feel i belong in either of my houses. im not allowed to have a job, and i dont have a drivers permit either. im not allowed to see the guy ive been dating for 2 yrs because my mother thinks he is emotionally abusive...really its her that causes so many problems. i volunteer in an ambulance company and cant actually get paid to work until after i graduate. my boyfriends parents would let me stay with them until i could save enough money for a house of my own.

all my friends parents think that my parents are crazy and emotionally abusive. i have plenty of plans for after highschool, but its hard to do without a job. emancipation is my last resort.

- anon32298
46
i am a 20 year old college student. i want to get emancipated from my parents, but i am not a citizen of the United States. i am a legal permanent resident and a green card holder. i am perfectly capable of making my own decisions and want to live a free separate life from my parents because they do not allow me to have any kind off freedom. i am allowed to go to college and then straight back home. i can't go out with friends more than once in a few months and there is too many fights in the house.

i know i have to be able to support my self to be emancipated and i am working on that but how long is the process? can i get emancipated without being a citizen? do i need a lawyer? how do i get one if i cannot afford one? where do i go to court for all this? can someone please walk me through this process...can someone please give me an answer to these questions. i'll be forever thankful to you.

- smoke482
44
I am 17 and enlisted in the Air Force. I have sworn in, signed my contract and everything. I will go to basic training this summer and then go on to my tech school. Since I am enlisted does that mean that I am also emancipated?
- keving2009
43
i am 15 years old and me and my mother do not get along. my step-father thinks he needs to handle the discipline and i don't believe it's his place. i am very unhappy. one of my friends said that her family will allow me to live there. i would get a job and stay in school and i would pay my friends mom any money that she would need. can i be emancipated at 15?
- anon29418
42
I am 14 years old and living in NJ. I want to get emancipated from my family. My parents are divorced, I am scared of my dad, my brother beats me up, and my mom doesn't care about me. I found a nice apartment and have money and I can get a job close to the apartment at a local supermarket. But, I need advice and I need to know what age I am able to get emancipated at in New Jersey.
- echolakelove
41
Is there a chance that i can get emancipated when i turn 16? Because now i'm 15 turning 16 in June, but I have a baby boy who's about 4 weeks now. And my grandma (my guardian) won't let the father see him really at all!!!!
- anon27450
40
i'm 16 years old, i have been dealing with a lot of stuff recently, and through out childhood, i have been emotionally abused to the point of my break, i have a house set up, i just have to get emancipated is it hard?
- icantakeit1
39
i'm a 16 year old girl, have my own job making $10/hour and have good grades. But at home, my parents are always yelling at me for random reasons and it hurts me inside. Makes me very emotional and now my parents want to move out of state my junior year in high school. After all these years of me meeting ppl and for me to move out of state my last year of high school hurts a lot. I have to give up everything i have: my job my friends and family. I don't want to move.

How can i emancipate myself? and can i do it without my parents? Because if i have to go through my parents, my father will not care what i want to do and will force me to move. I need help asap.

- tano562
38
If I am sixteen and my mother is suicidal, and abusing me mentally, can I choose to be emancipated from her and to move in with my grandparents?
- anon26414
37
I am thirteen and recently have been having arguments with both of my parents. Right now I hate my entire family and I would love to have an emancipation from my parents and never have any contact with my family.
- anon26053
36
I am 16 years old and at my household my mom and i fight way too much i am considering becoming emancipated from her. dont get me wrong i love her but she and i cant live in the same house anymore she drove away my two sisters and now me, what should i do?
- anon24001
35
I am 14 years old. I have been thinking about emancipation for a while now and, on discovering this website, I have even more questions. Is it possible for me to live with an adult as though I were a dependent of that adult after I become emancipated? Would it be best to seek a lawyer for advise and/or action? How long would it take to set up a hearing or trail or whatever? My situation is reasonably simple: My Mother and Father have been legally divorced since I was seven, but have been separated for as long as I can remember. Recently, they started "fighting" for custody of me and My Dad won. I know my Dad has my best interest at heart, however, when he recieved costody of me he moved from NYC to a speck of a town out west. The school in this town is terrible and if I were to go and live with this other adult I would be able to attend one of the best prep school in America. This is not the only reason I wish to be emancipated. My Dad just doesn't understand me and my mother manipulated me to tell lies for her for a long time. I really want to go and live with the other adult and I know that he could and would support me. Please tell me if I would be able to emancipate myself for those reasons above.
- anon23682
34
I'm 16 years old and I live with my Grandmother, Aunt and Uncle. My Grandmother has been very distant from me ever since my Grandfather died. She has become more argumentative and a little more mentally unbalanced. She isn't crazy but she works 16 hours a day from 2:30pm to 7:30 pm so she is very tired and that causes a lot of issues. My uncle and aunt took me in but now they are being ridiculous and they misunderstand everything I do or say. I want to be emancipated because I believe I am causing all three of them a lot of stress and unnecessary problems. I can become financially stable and I could probably find someone to move in with. Is it possible for me to do this for these reasons?
- anon22432
32
I’m 17 my parents have not been together since I was 1. My whole life I have dealt with them fighting over who gets custody of me. During my lifetime they have both had custody of me and both abandoned me during those times. Both my parents now are once again fighting over custody of me. My mother is very sick and can barely take care of the household. My father would expect me to live with his wife who he has split up with years ago. I can’t deal with the decision of choosing whom to live with and I feel as though things would be better off if emancipation was a possibility. Since I’m 17 turning 18 in October would I either be able to get emancipated or even try to get emancipated? Is it even worth it?
- tbean123
31
I have a few questions ok well i just wanted to know how long will it take to get emancipated. The other question. ok here's the deal I am 16, and soon in april 13 ill be 17, i dont live with my parents at all since the end of may and i am staying with a family friend and i work with her and everything and i am able to support myself on my own two feet. Well see somethings happened and i had to get out of my parents house. My mom is a bad liar. i dont go to school and i want to get emancipated and everything. So if i dont live with my family or anything can i qualify for food stamps or something in that matter if my parents dont give me any money to buy clothes, food anything to support my self and the things that i need i get it all on my own. I am doing it all on my own and i dont live with them so what do i do? i need so kind of guidance. thank you
- snowbaby
30
I am 17 years old and going to be 18 in 4 months and I want to emancipate myself from my mom. She has been married over 5 or 6 times and I have a brother and a sister. She treats them like they are her prized kids and doesn't want anything to do with me. She comes into my room and hits me for no reason. Now I have a boyfriend and we have been dating over a year now and she has done and almost tried everything to keep use apart and she thinks he's doing things that i know he doesn't do and trying to break us up because hes not what she wants him to be. i wanted to know how i could get emancipated because of all she has done to me in my life now. Thank You.
- lovedkinda
29
We are the parents of three children. Recently, my sons friend has been staying with us and would like to move in permanently. We would like to know how we can help our sons friend without causing problems. His father is verbally abusive, divorced and he also drinks heavily. We have tried talking to him about having his son live with us even temporarily but he is adamantly against it. Help!
- lassie4
28
I was wondering did you have to have a certain type of a job and if living with a friend is a possible choice to go off of for meeting in the criteria. Because my dad and mom both made me think bout suicide when I was in elementary school and beginning middle I was cutting myself. Early this year I tried to commit suicide and now I have thoughts of running away from home and going to stay with a friend.
- anon19641
27
I'm 17 years old and want to get emancipated for family reasons. My mom is never on my side and is always accusing me of stealing or for something. Me and her don't get a long a lot. She was always abusive when I was a kid, but not anymore now that I'm older. She let's my brother do whatever he wants, even before he was 18, she accepted him as an actual son. She never treated or showed me with love and respect and she drives me nuts. She's always judgemental with my friends, with anyone she looks at without even meeting them halfway, she assumes they are bad people. To me, all the relatives I live with: bro, sis, mom, all hate me and I stay away from them by staying mostly at my friends house. Me and my brother don't associate at all, including my sister. When my mom and I talk, it always leads to an argument about my mistakes and problems. She does not know me very well, even as a kid. When I first met her, she was nice, but later on she started being abusive and misunderstanding with everything. She was the first person to ever make me think of suicide and to run away. She's done so many things, I can't stand her anymore. I need emancipation.
- anon19199
26
I am sixteen years old.. i'll be seventeen in march. im getting my license in october. I have a very supportive uncle and aunt that are planning on buying me a car for me to help me start off. I am looking for jobs now, I have a little job i consider which is baby-sitting. I believe that if i could be emancipated i would be better off. I have few reasons why i would like to do this first, i would like this because my family and I dont really get along its only rarely that we do. my mom has two jobs because she gambles and i do have a little job which is baby-sitting i do make a little money and i am very good at saving it, but my mom bums money off me to pay the bills and little things like that, I do feel bad so i never hesitate to give her money. My dad only works one job. We do not have a good relationship, but we do try but we bump heads a lot. He puts me down on things i do and if i do anything it seems like its never good enough to him. I do not have a terrible life, but i really feel some what rejected from this family a little and if i were emancipated i know they would not like this idea at all, but i think later on they would definitely be proud that i could make it independently. I believe that i could make it on my own. I want to finish school and become a cosmetologist after school for a side job and go to college and become a registered nurse. I just would like to know how i could possibly get emancipated..?
- anon18380
25
Okay, I live with my grandmother and my cousin because my father passed away in 2005 and my mother is a drug abuser. So, when my father passed away my grandmother gets money from his death which is about 750.00 a month. I have not had any money in my hand from it nor have i even seen but one check, i wasnt even supposed to work, just worry about about going to school but I had to get a job anyway because she said she would not pay for my gas or any extra things i wanted. So, ever since i was 16 i have been working and im about to turn 18 in 4 months but i am wondering where all my money is going because she just bought her a new car and she refuses to give me any money claiming she dont have it, plus the cousin im living with is older than me and she has never had a job and is fully supported my my grandmother. I think all my money that is suppose to be spent on me and essentials is getting spent on her new car and for my cousin.. is there any way to get emancipated fro that then sue her for all the money i have not yet received. Also, everything is paid off including the house we live in and all of her vehicles except the new one she just bought so, its not like she is using it all on bills.
- ashleyw2007
24
If i have graduated high school at 16 years old and want to ingress in a program like the navy or air force, is there a way i can do it? Because loosing a year to me is not an option i want to be financial independent beacause my father is just not as i want, know? so any help is appreciated thanks.
- anon17960
23
The Court has declared my step-daughter emancipated at the age of 17 (now 18) and a senior in school due to moving back and forward between parents. We live in Missouri. Can she ever become un-emancipated? Is there any way for either parent to ever get child support on her again?
- anon17680
22
I am going to be 17 in a month and one week. I have a boyfriend that is 20 years old and we have been dating for over a year now. He is in college studying to be a psychologist. I have a 3.3 gpa, have a part time job at a restaurant, and want to move in to apartment with my boyfriend. I have a very supportive grandmother who is giving me her car and says she will help me in anyway she can, but her husband will not let me move in with them. My family life has been very dysfunctional my entire life. My father does drugs and is a raging alcoholic. He has abused my mother all through my childhood and i spent most of my nights in hotels or at friends houses escaping the abuse that went on in my home. My father isn't as bad as he used to be, but he has created a lot of depression in our home. He is self employed and says he goes to work when he doesn't. My mother works at a store making close to minimum wage to try to support us. We live paycheck to paycheck and my grandparents on each side pay most of the bills that aren't able to be payed. We have little food ever in our home, so all of my money goes towards just feeding myself, or paying for the basics that my parents are unable to afford, like toothbrushes, deodorant, soap, etc.. I want to know if there is any way that I can escape my home, without having to get married to my boyfriend, because we still need time to mature in our relationship to make such a huge step that i don't plan on making until i have finished college and have began my steady career. My grandmother also has $30,000 saved for me for college and my other grandpa has a college fund with roughly $10,000 for me also, knowing that my parents are unable to afford to put me through college. And my parents have also put me in to a legal situation where i am unable to apply for any grants or scholarships. I am a responsible and intelligent young adult that needs a way out for her senior year, because if i stay in my home, my parents will continue to take the little money that i make and may even try to take away the car i will be receiving when i get my license in september and even the money saved for me for college. My parents have taken advantage of me my entire life, but this is money i don't want them touching because it is for my future. I would appreciate any advice that could be offered. Thank You.
- anon15932
21
I'll be 17 in 24 days. Me and my mom have fought constantly for as long as I can remember. I have 2 sisters, both live in California. And one brother who is a year younger than me. My brother gets to run and do whatever he wants anytime he wants. Half the time no one knows where he is, he's doing drugs, and drinking all the time. And my mom is too dumb to see it.

The most my mom lets me out of the house is a few hours 3 or 4 nights a week. I haven't spent the night out of the house since I was 13. Things aren't fair around here, and I try explaining that to my mom. I'm going into my senior year, and I have zero freedoms. I've been in a relationship for almost a year now, and he's got his own house, and a steady job. And my mom even likes him, but she wont let me hang out alone with him.

I can't take the fighting, and want to move out. My boyfriend tells me that I am more than welcome to move in with him, and as soon as I turn 18 he's planning on moving me in. But I don't want to wait that long, I don't know if I can make this relationship work while trying to keep my sanity living with my mother. I fight with her constantly, and then I'm miserable and I end up fighting with him. And I don't know how much longer we can keep doing this.

Does anyone think that these are reasonable grounds to move out, or get emancipated?

- freida09
20
Hi, My name is Alexis... I have a lot of questions concerning emancipation. My mother is not a suitable person to live with. I am 16, i have a full time job, even during the school year because this past year i was in independent study. i make a steady income, 9 dollars an hour. I have been offered a couple places to stay for free because friends just feel bad for me because my mother is just unexplainable. We moved to Arizona on May 2nd. I deeply, deeply loathe Arizona. I came back out to where I live currently (California) to finish my sophomore year and work as much as possible. I am staying with a friend now and i have been very responsible, i have good grades and work hard on the job. I really cannot stand living with a crazy person anymore. I work 25 to 30 hours a week and sometimes i get to keep a little of my money. I am fully capable of taking care of myself. i have goals and a college i am set on going to. Otis Art Academy. I just need to know how to go about all this emancipation stuff. someone help me pleaseee!
- alexis789
19
My boyfriend is 16 and he lives in an unhealthy environment. he was beat as a kid but it stopped after his dad passed away three years ago, although his back has over 30 scars. he is almost 17 and his mother is very controlling. she makes his life hell, taking everything away from him for calling me, and tells him he is worthless and she would be better off without him and he was her worst mistake. and it is hurting him mentally. and then there is his uncles, who send him threatening text messages and voice mails, threatening to cause him bodily harm. my boyfriend wants nothing more than to be with me but his mother will not give me a chance. he is in an unhealthy, abusive and unstable environment. and his mom will not let him live alone let alone sign the papers for him to be emancipated. how can i help him become emancipated? my parents have agreed to give him a place to stay and they are willing to help him however they can.
- justamby427
18
I have a really bad relationship with my mom i am 11 years old and want to be emancipated, what should i do.
- anon13115
17
Just curious..i wanted to know is it possible to emancipate your children if you just want them to get out on their on sooner. my wife and i would like our two kids (very responsible) to share an apartment close by when they turn 16. we would buy apartment as investment and have kids pay rent. they would have some part-time jobs.

this is a good way to get them independent b4 they go to school. also, if they are emancipated the school will only look at their income for financial aid. we want them to put themselves through school like both of us did (we would still help some)

your thoughts.

- anon11338
16
I'm 15, i live with my Aunt and her boyfriend of 10 years. We don't have a good relationship, if one at all. I can be talking about the simplest thing and my aunts boyfriend, a recovered alcoholic will start yelling over nothing. My aunt says this is because he is a "dry drunk." Which from what i can gather when you have the rage of an alcoholic but don't drink. I don't live with my mother because she was abusive and an alcoholic. It is better here and people tell me to tough it out all the time. If there isn't anything i can do about not living with them, i will eventually run away, because i just can't stand living here anymore. Im from NJ. Is there any way i can emancipate myself?
- anon10567
15
I am 17 years old and living under emotional distress. I have been with my father's parents since the age of 7. I don't have a good relationship with my grandpa and it's way worse with my grandma. I wanna be emancipated because I'm constantly getting into it with my grandma. She threatens me. she's constantly putting her hands on me. I'm beginning to believe that she's crazy.

I want to know if I can be emancipated and how I can go about starting the process. If I do it can I do it without my guardians consent if I have. I need to hurry up and get out of this house!

- anon10351
14
My parents are getting a divorce right now and im excited about it. My dad abused me and my mom let him for 15 years. right now im 15 and im turning 16 in may. My mom says she cant handle me and she would just let the courts take me away from her because im too much to handle and just let me live with my dad. I dont know what else to do. Neither of my parents want me, can i get emancipated?
- aebabe6719
13
My child is 18 and living outside the home. She is a high school senior and planning for college. How does she handle college financial education forms. Is she still required to use her parent's income when trying to qualify? If so, this is not fair to her since she is not getting financial support from her parents. Any idea?
- anon8795
12
I am in the military.

im looking at apartments and such, However i dont know if i am emancipated or not.

Its a nice low income place about 2 miles from my RSP.

i am only 17.

My mother believes i am not emancipated, however i will be calling and talking to my county/RSP.

i was just wondering if you had any information for me.

- anon8440
11
my mother hits me. today, she punched me 10 times in the arm and i don't know what to do. i wanna emancipate myself really bad. she doesn't care about me. that's the problem. she sometimes does, but she is a lying mother. i hate her. she slaps me if im sick. oh yeah, and she slapped me today. she bosses me around and threatens me daily. she says shes going to take me down to argentina and beat me hard because its not illegal there. what should i do and when can i get emancipated? im on 12, but i just cant deal with this ANY more
- anon8184
10
i feel unwanted and know i'm not wanted at my mom's house she has kicked me out more then 6 times so far since christmas, and each time she tells people or the police that i've run away but it's not true.

I and my mom do disagree on a daily bases with rules or just situations that makes no sense to me that she wants to cause a ruckus over. I think it will be better if we were separated, because of the fact some people just don't mix. I have been told to tough it out and i do, by not arguing back, because i know she hears but is just not listening to exactly what i'm saying, so i say what's the point, and just let her nag. she tries to fight me but i just push her back it's just not right to fight her i've done it before and felt horrible, but i still love her, but she knows we need our space. i would rather go 2 a boarding school but that just costs too much and even the free ones she doesnt pay attention to we have considered foster, but she probably won't go through with it. we might talk now and then but i still know that we are just not meant to live together. there is a lot of pandemonium between us and it will never change. i would like to get an emancipation so i can move out. i do have a job. when i save up i can pay for any and everything i need.

i just need to know more about getting an emancipation for myself so i can take care of me on my own.

- unloved14
9
my dad has been calling me every name in the book and is a drug addict. My mom and him have been separated since i was 4 years old. It would be more reasonable for me to live with my mom, but my dad isn't allowing it. I need to know where i can go to get emancipated. And how long it takes.
- anon5280
8
Is a teen age mother considered an emancipated minor if she has a baby and is raising it?

Anonymous

- anon5253
7
Allerera,

I was very curious about your post, so I did some research on Twelve Tribes. While everything that is directly from the group sounds like it is a lifestyle-centered approach to Christianity, there are lots of other things written about it that make it sound more like a cult. One of the most tell-tale signs of a cult is that the leaders are in control of the other members' time, money, and other resources. That may be fine for you now, but it will be very difficult to get yourself out later.

On the other hand, I totally understand how you feel. I could not wait to get out of my mom's house, and I would have gone and got my own apartment at 16, had I been able to support myself. My advice to you, in all sincerity, is to tough it out--unless you are being abused. If you are safe, but unhappy, your desire for independence is really good and will serve you well in your life.

You sound like you have some exceptional talents that will serve you well. My best advice is to study and work hard, so that when you're done with high school you'll have lots of options: you can teach skating, go to college, move away, or all three!

Best of luck!

- anon4067
6
I am 15 years old, will be 16 in January. I am interested in becoming emancipated for a few reasons. I am looking to join the Twelve Tribes communities. Everybody lives in the same house, they work together to support the whole community, and there are no needs unmet. My parents have been separated almost as long as I can remember. I am almost old enough to obtain Coaching Liability Insurance. When I have that, I will begin teaching figure skating for close to $60 an hour. I will also be buying material to make my own clothes, budgeting my food money (buying bulk and cooking, instead of buying more expensive foods), and saving the rest of my money for transportation, rent, utilities, etc. when I am older. If, however, I join the communities, I would not be working for myself, or living by myself. I would be responsible for myself. How would I go about getting emancipated, as t join the Twelve Tribes?
- Allerera
5
me and my g/f want to get married and we are trying to get her mom to let her. can her p/o not let us see each other or let her live with me??????
- christman
4
I know of 5 children whose mother is a drug addict. Their living conditions are deplorable. The mother receives Social Security because the father committed suicide a few years ago but does not use the money to care for the children. Instead she uses it for drugs. The oldest two are ages 17 and 15. How would they go about becoming emancipated so they can receive their portion of the money to take care of themselves and their three younger siblings? At present a relative, with 4 children of her own, is taking care of the children, but it is putting them in the red and they don't know how long they can do it. They are willing but feeding 9 growing children is expensive. Do they have any options to obtain the children's part of the Social Security to care for the children? The mother has been arrested for drug possession several times -- next court date is Aug. 2nd. Any suggestions would be very helpful.
- anon2918
3
can my p/o make me live at my house when i turn 18. can the state make me?
- christman
2
im not getting along with my parents very well. im not feeling that im getting enough attention and i no that there is a great possability that i can find my own place 2 live and i have my own income, and bank account. so any ways in ohio how can i get emancapated,how long will it take and what r the requierments. plus my parents are forcing religion on me. and i can take care of myself and do so much better.
- anon1422
1
can a 20 year old college student become emancipated from me so she can base her fafsa on her income alone?
- anon952

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