Am I a Shopaholic?

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Deciding whether you are a shopaholic depends on your definition of the word. The term shopaholic used to mean someone who liked to shop, maybe a little too much. Now being a shopaholic may mean that you are a compulsive shopper who spends beyond your limits, buys things you have no use for, and uses shopping as a way to feel better temporarily.

Some believe that the compulsive shopper or shopaholic is actually suffering from an addiction. Addiction is defined as having a compulsion to a commit a behavior, being unable to stop a behavior, and continuing the behavior despite harmful consequences. Research now shows that addictive behavior often provides a momentary lift in mood. A flood of “good feeling” producing hormones rewards a shopaholic. Unfortunately the lift is not permanent, and the shopaholic must go out and shop more in order to find the next boost in hormones.

In a sense, when one is shopping, they are given a few moments of good mood. This is a momentary mental reward. So it encourages one to repeat the pattern in order to feel that “high” produced by shopping and purchasing.

However, the shopaholic frequently begins to search for more and more “highs,” which translates to greater expense. Once the shopper begins to damage his or her own life by spending, or the compulsive shopping interferes with relationships, then true addiction exists, particularly if the person can’t stop shopping.

The shopaholic frequently spends beyond his or her means. This means they may sacrifice money for food, rent, utilities, or simply be unable to pay rising credit card balances. Once a shopaholic spends beyond limits, the disease, like an addiction to drugs can worsen. The shopaholic may indulge in compulsive theft, or may steal money from others in order to continue shopping.

What began as joy at finding a few good bargains can end in financial ruin, and even criminal prosecution. However, there is help to end such compulsions, which are just as likely to occur in men and women. Needing shopping, just like needing any other activity or drug to regulate mood suggests that mood is already in chemical imbalance.

Often restoring chemical balance, through medications like anti-depressants, can help curb some of the urge to shop. However, this is only one half of the equation. As a person becomes a shopaholic, he or she not only physically depends on the shopping for chemical balance, but also emotionally depends on the shopping.

The same holds true for people addicted to substances like nicotine. Fighting the physical addiction is not the same as fighting the habitual behavior of smoking. In addition to possibly needing chemicals to help alter brain chemistry, a shopaholic needs to learn how to stop habitual shopping.

This can be especially difficult, since most of us need to shop from time to time. You cannot simply go “cold turkey” if you are a shopaholic. You will probably still need to occasionally shop for things like groceries, and this can lead to regression in fighting the addiction.

What does appear to help is support groups or individual counseling for controlling addictive behavior. Many organizations exist to help compulsive shoppers. As well, individual counseling can help one create strategies for taming the addiction. Group counseling can be particularly effective in keeping you from regressing back to shopping.

Just like any other addict, the shopaholic must want to quit. Very little can be accomplished until there is a sincere desire to end the behavior. For some this only occurs when they hit rock bottom. Hopefully, recognizing the signs early can help one curb the behavior in its infancy, so it does not become an addictive behavior that controls one’s life.

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I think I am a shopaholic. I need to go shopping several times a week or I feel an empty inside.

My mom says no you're not. She just does not want to believe it, but I don't have a drivers license yet so it is even worse. I know it is bad, but it is an addiction.

- anon53441
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I know all about shopping- the buzz, the thrill, then the guilt, especially when I come back home with useless things that I don't need! At one point, my spending went over the top and I found myself shopping so constantly that sales assistants knew me and were only too happy to help me spend 'my money'- in effect credit card bills which i ended up have to pay up. I won't tell you how big it was but I learnt a painful lesson and I am now slowly but gradually cutting back on the spending.
- anon50224
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This article is so true! Because I am a shopaholic! And I am currently going through a terrible time with my 22-year-old son who is also a shopaholic. He only wants to spend money on himself though. He is engaged to be married and his fiancee' is the opposite. She is very hurt and frustrated that he seems to be so selfish about the way he spends his money. He is attending college right now, and is working a part time job. He convinces me he can't afford to pay his cell phone bill or his car insurance because of school expenses. But he is taking trips and buying electronics and other things that are taking the money that could be paying his bills! So I end up having to pay them! It is very frustrating! I need someone to counsel him before he bankrupts me and he ends up in financial ruin.
- anon42852
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But, can you tell me please, how do people become spendaholics?
- sonya
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i am a shopaholic!!! i shop when i'm bored, i shop when in need, even shop for fun!
- anon10908
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IMO, a shopaholic can be someone that buys many, many, many cheap things for people, but really only to satisfy themselves. Being a shopaholic can really ruin someone's reputation, yeah. Instead of being known for themselves, they completely disregard other relationships and just want people to drive them to take them shopping. The idea of not shopping can make them nervous. And worse when they are poor because the fruits of their shopping disease are put upon others that receive things they have no use for. What is really bad is when the shopaholic gives the things to those that don't need them, and doesn't give them to needy children that would LOVE them. It is unfortunate.

I completely agree that in this day and age, it is an addiction. It is so easy to shop and with so many bad things in the world, there is shopping. You HAVE to go in this store. You have to go in that store. It can be highly related to bipolar disorder. But, some cannot be cured with medicine because the tendency is too high, and the person must waste thousands of dollars in their life on meaningless gifts.

This article definitely screams "bipolar".

A shopaholic needs control and a guardian and a certain credit limit, as well as a certain amount of fear. That way, they feel "in a box", so to speak.

A shopaholic can also become angry . . . when anyone won't take them shopping, the shopping takes full precendence over the person. They NEED to spend 2 hours in a small store. Looking. Pondering.

"Often restoring chemical balance, through medications like anti-depressants, can help curb some of the urge to shop. However, this is only one half of the equation. As a person becomes a shopaholic, he or she not only physically depends on the shopping for chemical balance, but also emotionally depends on the shopping."

==I cannot agree more. They also do not admit it. Or they become so comfortable with it that they act like it is okay and they ignore what people say to counter it.

A shopaholic's worst enemy is appreciative family as to not start a fight. The shopaholic gets initiative and positive feedback and continues buying, happily calling out the cheap purchase prices and embarassing themselves further.

I know because I have had a shopaholic halfsister for 35 years. Nothing can help her except fear. And that isn't enough to get her to stop. And negative feedback is not enough to get her to stop.

- anon5399
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This is a good article as far as it goes. But more needs to addressed on how one can find the resources to quit shopping. Especially people who do not have a wide choice in counselers/counseling aimed at helping shoppers stop compulsively shopping. ie. those that live in very small towns, those that have no money to hire expensive counselors or can afford to travel to a place that offers that type of counseling. Is there an internet support group available to help.
- anon554
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Last Modified: 21 November 2009

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